Bells Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 ....okay, anyone getting sick of these remarks. Lately, I"ve been on dates with women that had been with losers. But, they claim ignorance because "Well, It all started WELL into the relationship" Like this one woman I went out with....she told me she dated this big hulking construction worker (wonder why she went out with me, I'm far from "hulking", lol) That would just sit at home all day drinkin' beer till he was wasted, and watching TV. She claimed she had a friend that dated a guy that was a drug addict. Thing is, to the point of my post...their boyfriend turned into drug addicts and alcoholics WAY intot he relationship. "They weren't drug addicts BEFORE I met them" I am having a hard time buying this.
Balthazar Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 This is a really funny post Bells. I have no trouble believing that some men would turn to drugs as an escape from the reality they face with certain women.:lmao: CHeers,
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I can totally believe this, because I have seen it. People present a certain face when dating, and they do not show their true hand until they are well into the relationship. I know a woman who was engaged to a man who did not tell her that he was planning on quitting his job once they got married, since her dad made a lot of money. He thought the dad would support them. Men AND women have been known to do this, btw.
JamesM Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I would be concerned if I were you....is your preference alcohol or drugs? Any woman who says a guy became an addict AFTER dating her should concern you. Run away as fast as you can.
Tomcat33 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 That depends these men from POF? If so, not surprised because these men are made like this straight from manufacturing, it has nothing to do with the women they date. If she met him on POF that's why, is it moslty ALL losers on that place. Free internet dating is the bottom of the barrel, you would have to be so incredibily selective on that site, you almost need to know magic. If you just take a look around at the profiles most the men on there in their 30's and up are looking to have fun, are undecided or don't want children (that is a very telling sign of where they are in life emotionally and mentally speaking) for their jobs description write "have one", and for the do you do drugs they say "prefer not to say" PUUUHLEASE rather not say? Might as well say, it will look a LOT better than trying to hide what a huge pothead LOSER you are. My girlfriends and I cut up the profiles on there all the time, there are a LOT of losers on there.
dcgirl33 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Grown people don"t turn into anything except what they already are. You have to know how to read the signs. For drugs and alcohol, they will typically have unexplained disappearances and a lack of funds.
Lucky_One Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I think that it can be true to a point. People can "change" after you are with them for a while. People like to present their best side so that they are likeable and desirable. No girl wants to go out with a guy who farts all night long. But stay with him a year or two, and he farts up a storm while watching football on Sundays. He would have DIED had one slipped out in Month 2. But major personality flaws like drug use or alcoholism can certainly grow during a time period. Toddlers don't walk around the playground with a bottle of Cuervo. It can take years and years to develop, and those years can also see the development of lying and other behaviors that were not present before. My brother used to be a great guy. He always was a fun partier, had lots of friends and GFs. As the years have passed, he drinks more and more, he hides a lot of his drinking, he puts Amaretto in his coffee at 7:00 am. He is often sullen and a pr*ck. If he was married, and had gotten married 20 years ago, his wife would certainly say that he has changed during the course of the relationship. But there are also a lot of people who simply refuse to see how a person's beahvior is at the beginning. Guys can be jealous and controlling, and a girl thinks it's cute that he doesn't want her to wear that red dress when they go out dancing on Friday night bc she looks too hot in it - until 5 years later and she is resentful bc he wants her to dress in drop-waisted cordoroy dresses to her ankles - and it isn't cute anymore. But that is due to the "making excuses thing". He wants me bad, so it's ok for him to be a jerk. He loves me too much, so it's ok for him to be angry when I miss his phone call. She is a open friendly flirty person, so it's ok for her to sit on my best friend's lap so he can look down her shirt. And that part is bull.
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