girl29 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I met this guy 8 months ago. We emailed for 3 months before meeting for the 1st time. We had a great date and wanted to see each other again. He had to go abroad for 5 months but we stayed in touch via email and he kept saying he is looking forward to seeing me again when he gets back. He finally got back 2 months ago and we met. It was so nice seeing him again and we had such a great evening. He kissed me on the cheeks to say Hello, opened the doors for me. We gazed into each others eyes, we laughed, he leaned in so did I, communication did flow, we have so much in common... We also made plans for more dates. He kissed me on the cheeks to say Goodbye and said until next time. I've since asked him twice if he wants to meet up again, he responded straight away saying he'd love to but is busy and will get in touch. I know he was working on a big project, but the project finished nearly 4 weeks ago. I sent him a final text 3 days ago just saying hi.... but he didn't respond. He always responded to my texts within 1 day. I doubt I'll ever hear from him again. I just don't understand. We've waited 5 months to see each other again and now he disappears????? I could understand if the 2nd date wasn't great, but we had such a good time and I was soooo sure I'd see him again. Can someone please explain what might have happened?
Lauriebell82 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 My best guess is that he met someone else. Kissing you on the cheeks is a "pretend" way of kissing someone. It just doesn't sound like he is romantically into you anymore. When you were emailing when he was away, were these romantic type emails or just "friend-like" emails? He may have lost interest or met someone else while he was away. He has probably taken the "weeny route" and decided to just drop off the radar instead of tell you the truth about his feelings. I'd just let this guy go and move on.
refurb Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Sounds like he's got his head buried in his work. He probably knows he can't dedicate the kind of time he should to a relationship, so he's letting it slide. RF
BoerumHill Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 He's married. Hate to say it but something along those lines. 3 months emailing...5 months overseas...buried in a big project at work. OK, while all that could theoretically be true...the more likely scenario is he is involved with someone else. Happens a lot, men and women who are unhappy go online to meet someone new and exciting. Regardless, move on to someone who is worthy of you.
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