nab0610 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 ok so theres this girl i've known for 6-7 months now...we hung out some through a few of my friends and she added me on facebook like 2 months in she was like we need to hang out blah blah blah...so she agreed to come over hangout and go downtown well she was a no call no show so i was like whatever a few days later she sends me a message saying sorry she'd had some family problems so i was like ok thats cool well we both left for summer and talked a few times through text message...she even sent me a message flirting with me for a while then before we come back to school she sends me a message saying we need to hang out so invited her to lunch which she accepted and showed up too...lunch went good and i got a hug at the end of it then she says lets hang out this week so i was like ok wed or thurs is best for me she says ok thurs will probably work for me but i'll have to let you know...so thursday comes and goes no call no show no nothing i even sent her a message and got no response i like this girl but this is driving me nuts?
D-Lish Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I think the fact that she's done this to you twice now should be your cue to move on to the next. It's pretty rude to do that to someone without explanation. I wouldn't waste further energy chasing her. If she contacts you again with another excuse- then make sure she sets up plans and then asks you out. To be honest, I'm not sure I'd give her another chance. I'd be pretty mad. DOing it to you once- okay, I'd probably give a second chance.... but twice? Whatever you do- no matter how much you like her- don't reach out to her. Delete her number from your phone it you feel you could be tempted... so that way you can't text her- only she can text you.
Author nab0610 Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 i get what your saying i don't intend to reach out to her...i didn't i've done nothing however today she sends me a bumper sticker on facebook the bumper sticker is a picture of a stick figure on a light switch and the light switch is turned on so basically it looks like a stick figure with a boner? i'm just confused as hell...
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I don't get her actions either... Honestly- there seems to be some game playing happening. Ognore the bumper sticker- and let her come to you if she wants to get together. In the meantime- are there other girls you might be interested in? I wouldn't put all your eggs in one basket... it's best to keep all your options open!
Green Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Please I got this girl figured to a science already. You've got a window of oportunity with this girl for sure, just make sure you kiss her and what ever next time you hang out. She's a flake theres no doubt so never make plans with this girl just invite her to your place same day invite. Like send her a text "come over watch a movie" then when she comes over maybe you can entertain yourself with her
SweetGuy99 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Sounds like she's playing/testing you. KMT has the right advice, I think: Give her a strong message that you want to see her, on your terms--and then just leave it at that. If she's interested, she'll respond. If not, it was never meant to be (she was probably too much of a flake to begin with).
The Collector Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 She's using you for the attention/ego boost - or just sees you as a friend. Let me ask, do her actions seem consistent with someone who has HIGH or LOW interest in you?
Author nab0610 Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 its hard to say i feel like i'm always taking 3 steps foward then 2 steps back
torranceshipman Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 You're her fall back plan if she has nothing better to do...sorry, but thats the truth! Thats why she doesnt bother letting you know when she gets a (in her mind) better offer. Move on...it'd totally suck if you have this girl on your mind the whole time and are hoping for more, as the girl is not interested in you (and she hasnt got very good manners).
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