ate_the_paint Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I've been living in the same place since my ex had her affair and turned my life upside down. Same bed. Same furniture. Same hallways. There's that closet that I haven't looked in since we were together. I hate to think of what's in there. Its time to move on to the next chapter of my life. I'm not that old, and I have no assets tying me down. A few years ago I worked and lived in South Korea, and I think it's time for me to go again. Yesterday I put in my resignation in my dead-end job, and I started the application process for work in Kiev. I'm going to eastern Europe. I need out of here and I need to reinvent myself. Six years with someone had melded me into a certain identity that I can't break out of easily. It took me six months to get to where I am, and I'm not happy, so I'm going somewhere and I'm going to experience something that is all my own. It sounds extreme (but so did living in Asia at the time!), but I know from personal experience that it's worth it. This part is sad in a very deep way, because I'm not only really letting go, but I'm also saying goodbye to me as I am now, and in a few years I'll be back as a completely different person. I'm melancholy, yes, but I'm also excited and itching to go. I just wanted to vent all that.
GPFan Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 How wonderful to be free to pick up and go! Good luck in your travels and new job.
Intergalactic Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 good on you! i am also making a move, although it's not anywhere super exciting, just back home to live with the parents for a while (i'm also not that old). it makes me sad that there will be no accidental "run ins" and that even if he misses me, there's no chance we'll be able to make it work again because we'll be living and ocean away from each other. but that also makes me glad. the house i live in reminds me too much of him, the bed, the bathroom etc. the whole city reminds me of him and times we had. i'm so looking forward to getting out of it. work for a bit, go back to south america and travel. good luck with your move, you will enjoy it so much, and it will do you the world of good!
ed-205 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Good luck to you! Moving some 2500 miles away from that sad place where I used to live was the best thing I've ever done for myself.
sedgwick Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Fantastic! I always advocate travel adventures. When my ex left I took off alone to Mexico for two months, where he couldn't reach me (not that he tried.) Take off, and have a great time!! Oh, and have someone else clean out that closet before you go. Just get a friend to go in there and haul everything out, preferably while you're not home. You don't need that messing you up right before you take off! I hope you have an amazing time. I'm sure you will! Oh, and whatever you do, don't tell the ex you're going. Just go!!
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