lofi_tokyo Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Hi, I've been reading a lot of threads about people that are really grieving while going through NC... so I thought I'd post my experience. My boyfriend of 2.5yrs and I broke up about three weeks ago. There were problems before the breakup, but nothing I felt we could not get through. The biggest issue was, I went to Tokyo for over a month, and I had absolutely no time to contact him except through e-mails. He met another girl, and while he insisted they were only friends, I could see him distancing himself from me, and getting closer to her prior to our break up. I initiated the break up, because I felt he really wanted out, but did not want to hurt me. For nearly two weeks I tried everything I could to get him to change his mind, which made our breakup go from having hopes of a sound ending to completely turbulent. He told me he still loved me, but had feelings for this other girl, he didn't want a relationship with me, but wasn't sure what was going on... breadcrumbs basically. So I had it. I just went all out NC, got rid of his pictures, presents... everything. Most of them are stashed away in a place I'll never bother to go to... and honestly... Its only been one week, but I feel wonderful! That does not mean I have stopped thinking about him entirely, but we've been together since highschool (I'm 19), and this space is really giving me time to just... be myself, the person I could not be when I was tied down. Its hard to explain, but its refreshing. So... thats about it. I hope others of you out there have had the same experience as I am having... because I really think... if you commit to NC and just focus on finding yourself before you try to win your man/woman back... it goes a long way.
CaliGuy Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Congrats! That is the RIGHT way to use NC. Heal yourself, forget your ex and move on. Someone better will come along! Guaranteed!
SarahRose Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Well done! Looks like your life is looking up. I just I can get there too soon.
Amy22 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Good job. You should be proud of yourself. Keep the positive attitude and keep up the good work.
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