blackenedESP Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 My girlfriend and I have been together in total for over 6 years now - i'm now 22, she's 21. We had some rough times, I've always been faithful and have never cheated, never put myself in the position where something could happen. She wasn't so good with controlling herself, she's cheated on me, seen and fooled around with other guys quickly after we broke up, etc... I've always taken her back because I just believe she could change, thought she was better than that. I'd like to believe I was right because we've been doing great for a while now, it seems like she realized what she did and has really learned from her mistakes. But from time to time, thoughts of these other guys just randomly pop into my head and it gets to me. I don't want to get angry at her, i'm trying to just forget about it and concentrate on the good times we're having now. We were each other's first, for me, my first with everything so maybe I took it a little more seriously than she did. Just the idea of other guys doing those kinds of things with her pisses me off. I don't want to sound possessive but it just comes to my mind as my territory, that's mine, she's mine, stay away. You know? I'm not one to hold things in, i've talked to her about it plenty of times but i think it'd be unfair to keep bringing it up and making her feel guilty when we've been so good, when she has been perfect.
ahhhchooo Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 So you're back with your gf now, or you're broken up? You have every right to be pissed off, it's not possessive, the relationship is supposed to be monogamous (sp?). It's not something you want to bring up because it makes her feel bad, but it's something that's going to eat away at you. I think you need to reassess if she's worth it - you're young and probably have been with her as long as you remember. But does she really deserve you? Do you deserve to be put through this crap?
Author blackenedESP Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 We're together now, yeah. We got back together....i dunno 1 - 1 1/2 years ago or so and things have been pretty much perfect but like i said, those past thoughts just creep up sometimes. If things stayed the way they are, every second of the bull**** was worth it, i love her more than anything. I just don't want to let all this other past crap ruin or put a dent in what we have now. I guess i have no other choice than to keep my mouth shut and just deal with it if I want to be with her.
badnewsbeers Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Maybe suggest couples therapy with her? I feel like if you can't be honest and truthful about how you're feeling, it's going to come back to haunt you in the future. It'd be great to have a place for you to discuss the way you're feeling in a safe environment and work everything out. Otherwise it will likely just fester.
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