celinedion1 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 When someone isn't ready to commit to you in a more permanent fashion, there's nothing you can do about it. What you'll find is that the same thing will happen in their future relationships, particularly the rebound relationships. People lie about why they want to break, to avoid the drama of having to deal with the emotional storm that's sure to come upon divulging their selfish reasons for doing so. They sugar coat, claiming not to want to hurt, when there's nothing altruistic about drama avoidance. So...one way of addressing it is not to rebound but casually date instead. It's a way to get your moxy back while at the same time, dealing with the breakup. I know none of you feel like dating but socialization of any kind can help you get back your independence, even to the point of loving the independence, forget relationships... Great advice, As time goes on I'm loving having my freedom back. There are still moments when I get sad and it is still hard, but I am enjoying my independence a lot more than I was enjoying being in a bad relationship.
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Great advice, As time goes on I'm loving having my freedom back. There are still moments when I get sad and it is still hard, but I am enjoying my independence a lot more than I was enjoying being in a bad relationship. The greater the length of time, the more you'll get back on your feet and the more you'll come to enjoy the fact that you can date anyone, anytime you feel like it, or not date, 'cause today, I'm gonna' stay in my jammies and watch chick flicks with or without my friends.
EmperorR Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 eh i know how it feels, my girl of 3 years dumped me n is alrady interested in another guy, i guess its that "newness' feeling they feel after being in a relationship for so long. It's like were the good ol dependable loving friend from gr 1 to gr 8, then once they get into hs they hop over to the new crew and forget about the people who always stood by them through thick and thin
EmperorR Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 My ex said he didnt want to be in a serious relationship right now and wanted to focus on himself. He's now living with his new girlfriend he met online and hes only known her for a week. We can all guess how that one will turn out. Yeah they're liers. lol my girl told me that alone crap yet is falling heads over heels from some new guy she knows nothing about yet they have so much in common according to her cuz they like the color green and math, i was rude and said its going to fail because i don't know if there is anyone else out there who can put up with your bs
orangehose Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 used2be, my ex did a very similar thing. I'll never forget the pure feeling of RAGE that possessed me when my friend told me what he was up to. I hope to never again feel anger on that level. Yes, I totally understand the desire to send him an email expressing just how awful he is, but unfortunately it probably won't matter and would just make you seem like the one who couldn't 'take it'. Also, like the others have said, a lot of crazy 'reboundy' behavior happens right after a breakup. Don't assume he's going to have some charming, perfect life from here on out. When the dust settles, he'll still have to confront who he is.
Author used2bspunky Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Well...he has a profile on MATCH.COM... i am rejected ---- big time.. sick.. just sick over it. Why didn't he just tell me.. why did he have to lie..
celinedion1 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Well...he has a profile on MATCH.COM... i am rejected ---- big time.. sick.. just sick over it. Why didn't he just tell me.. why did he have to lie.. I ask myself the same thing, however I realized that my ex is just a selfish a$$. Don't worry when your ready or when you least expect it, you will find someone new & better. Until then heal your heart and enjoy your independence. It does get easier with time, even if it may not seem like it now. Hugs, best of luck
Author used2bspunky Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 I ask myself the same thing, however I realized that my ex is just a selfish a$$. Don't worry when your ready or when you least expect it, you will find someone new & better. Until then heal your heart and enjoy your independence. It does get easier with time, even if it may not seem like it now. Hugs, best of luck something triggered his disinterest in me and FAST.. one minute i was his "girl", then next minute -- he is gone. What?? And the profile? We are a near perfect match.. everything he is looking for is me,and what we did.. "You must love the show Two and a Half Men". I am the one who turned him onto that!! Somebody -- GUYS out there..give me some answers ... we were FINE one minute then not.. then this?? Why?
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