celinedion1 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I just recenty got out a horrible relationship. I was lied to, lead on, cheated on, & emotionally abused. Now I'm trying to move on with my life. During the time of my relationship I lost myself, and my focus was on him. Now after having the relationship be officially over (3 days now) after years and years, I'm trying to find myself and make peace with what I've been through. During this time I've started writing again, I've been writing about everything I can think of, but mainly my feelings. I'm trying to learn how to be alone again after being with someone for such a long time. I thought that it would be easier than it is. At times I feel like I'm doing fine and am on the right road but other times I feel like I'm taking steps backwords. Sometimes I feel good, and other times I just feel completely numb, like almost lost. I have music going contantly, just so I don't have to hear the silence. The only thing I can think of for self-fullfillment, is starting to go to church again. How am I supposed to get over being put through such pain? How can I move on after something like this? How can I trust again?
Green Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 If only I lived in ur area u sound like such a nice girl. Just forget about all that, watch a movie, hit the gym and activly think about good things. Time will make things easier
bayouboi Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 How am I supposed to get over being put through such pain? How can I move on after something like this? How can I trust again? My eyes have been opened wide. I was very naive to believe that "till death do us part" meant the same for her that it meant for me. I don't believe that you can nor should put your trust in man. I now believe you can only put your trust in God and your immediate family (and for some people even immediate family can't be trusted). Obviously it will be a while before you can trust yourself again because of the huge and painful mistake you've allowed yourself to make. As for moving on, you just have to force yourself to do just that like it or not...you can only control you. Get out, work out, chill out, hang out. Do whatever you can to keep your mind away from feelings you aren't ready to deal with until you are read to deal with them. I wish you the best as someone who knows the pain themselves.
Author celinedion1 Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 If only I lived in ur area u sound like such a nice girl. Just forget about all that, watch a movie, hit the gym and activly think about good things. Time will make things easier Thank you so very much. I love the idea of watching a movie. I think I will go and watch a comedy. Thanks again hugs
Author celinedion1 Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 My eyes have been opened wide. I was very naive to believe that "till death do us part" meant the same for her that it meant for me. I don't believe that you can nor should put your trust in man. I now believe you can only put your trust in God and your immediate family (and for some people even immediate family can't be trusted). Obviously it will be a while before you can trust yourself again because of the huge and painful mistake you've allowed yourself to make. As for moving on, you just have to force yourself to do just that like it or not...you can only control you. Get out, work out, chill out, hang out. Do whatever you can to keep your mind away from feelings you aren't ready to deal with until you are read to deal with them. I wish you the best as someone who knows the pain themselves. Thank you so much for your kind words.
Green Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Thank you so very much. I love the idea of watching a movie. I think I will go and watch a comedy. Thanks again hugs Well if you've never seen Team America I'll recomend it... if you've seen that Ratatoui (might have mispelled it_
Author celinedion1 Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Well if you've never seen Team America I'll recomend it... if you've seen that Ratatoui (might have mispelled it_ thank you hugs
georgejungle Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 It's only been 3-4 days, give it time. Make sure you take time for YOU. Make time for YOU to be happy with yourself. Clear your mind and find your own happiness outside of a relationship. Don't fear being alone. If church will help you get thru this time, then go for it. It's dumb but that old saying, "Wherever you go, there you are" is perfect. You may feel lost right now, but you're not. You just need to find some comfort in other things, pick up the pieces and start a new chapter in your life. If you can pick yourself up, you could look at it in a positive light, see it as an exciting New Beginning. These song lyrics from Paul Weller speak volumes in only a few lines... Brand new Start: I'm gonna clear out my head I'm gonna get myself straight I know it's never too late To make a brand new start I'm gonna kick down the door I'm gonna get myself in I'm gonna fix up the yard And not fall back again I'm gonna CLEAN up my earth And build a heaven ON the ground Not something distant or unfound But something real to me But something real to me All that I can I can be All that I am I CAN see All that is mine is in my hands So to myself I call There's somewhere else I should be There's someone else I CAN see There's something more I can find IT'S ONLY UP TO ME I'm gonna clean up my earth And build a heaven ON the ground Not something distant on a cloud But something real to me But something real to me
mtevermust Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Life is definitely difficult, but sometimes you have to make sacrifices even when you feel like it's not right. I am sure you're going to figure it out. Good Luck Jeremiah
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