tomtom26 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I was in a short relationship that only last 3 months. Everything in our relationship up until this point was great, except for a few bumps here and there. So here are the facts: - I'm 26, she's 25 - Both well educated, both with great jobs - Same cultural backgrounds - We were only at a level where we had intense makeout sessions and some rub-rub. Sex was brought up, by her on a number of occasions, but we decided it was going to happen when the time was right. - She hung out with members of my family, close friends - I did the same with her and her family and close friends - She one day said that she was very confused about the whole situation and that the serious relationship was something she wasn't ready for. - She said she respected me, she liked me very much, I was easy to talk to, I "got" her and vise versa, and the kicker......she was absolutely attracted to me. (Don't know if all this was BS, but have no reason to doubt). - I asked about other guys, and first she said I couldn't ask her that, and I kept asked if there was a particular guy she had an urge for, and she said no, and that if there was anybody she had an urge to be with (sexually) was me. So we broke up after 3 months. During this time I became very attached to her and I started to care about her immensely, more than I have with any other girl in the same time frame. What do you guys think is going on? I am trying NC. The day after we broke up, she messaged me to ask if I was ok. I implemented NC immediately after break up. She emailed me 3 days later with chit-chat stuff. Haven't heard from her since. It's been about 2 weeks since our break up. so the question is: DOES NC WORK WITH SUCH A SHORT RELATIONSHIP? WHAT SHOULD I BE LOOKING OUT FOR??
ahhhchooo Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 NC isn't really a means to getting your ex back. It just gives your ex an opportunity to miss you. Desperation is most certainly unattractive, and it is often the last resort to restoring a relationship that you are the only one interested in. NC is a means to move on with your life, forget the person and the heartbreak in the fastest time possible.
Amy22 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I have never tried nc in a short relationship. I did try it with someone I had been with about 3 years. Once I stopped being so desperate he did come around and we did get back together. But as the previous poster said I did it to move on with my life. I also didn't do nc 100%. I didn't contact him. If he contact me I would talk to him. But I wouldn't mention the status of our relationship, I didn't cry and become all upset, and I tried to make the conversations pleasent. I always let him initiate contact. In the end it worked but I know it doesn't work for everyone. Again like the previous poster said it is so you can get on with your life. the ups and downs of contacting an ex and getting upset just makes it harder for you to move on. It also makes you look desperate and can push the person farther away. If everytime they contact you they have a negative experience they will contact you less and less. I also find it weird that when you asked about other guys she said she couldn't answer. That would throw up red flags for me. Why couldn't you answer that question unless you had something to hide. Good luck. I know how hard break ups can be.
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