LateBloomer Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Well, ok, it's only been a little more than one month NC. But I swear I was feeling better weeks ago. Somehow, about two weeks back I hit this downward trend that I've had lots of trouble breaking out of. I'm doing ALL the stuff: exercise, friends, new interests, professional help, even a new side job in a field I'm really interested in ... but still not a day goes by that I don't miss her and wish things could have been different. She cut and ran on me, eventually deciding to completely turn her back in every real sense ... and I haven't heard a peep from her since. Not even a "hey how are you" absolutely nothing. I still can't believe she's done that, someone who I loved and loved me ... just gone. I know that's how it goes, but somehow it's keeping me stuck. I have other friends who have broken up with their SOs in the last few months. Being able to talk to them on occasion seems to have helped. I'd reach out, but the last couple of times we spoke she was becoming increasingly cold and harsh. I can't bear that again. Ugh. I don't want to be in this head space anymore. I know there are up days and down days, but the down days seem to have been pretty consistent for the past couple of weeks. I wish there were more I could do.
Angel1111 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I think there must be this timeline inside our heads and once we reach it, we go into a type of panic mode. It just stinks. For me, I know that when I really love someone, it takes a good 2 yrs to fully get over them. And it takes about 6 mos before I can stop waking up in pain. Really, not that much time has passed for you and even though you're keeping yourself busy, your feelings are very normal. This is just one of those things that only time can heal. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so sad. If someone would invent that magic pill, they'd be stinking rich...
badnewsbeers Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I'm in a similar position... fine for two months, then hit a major rough spot. It's like we get to a point where suddenly we forget all the bad points about the relationship, remember all the great cute times and want that back so badly it hurts. I'm doing all the right things as well, playing hockey, working out, going out with friends, golfing, working hard at school, etc etc. It's almost like it's become harder to wake up and get going each day though.... I'd recommend checking in with a therapist, that's what I'll be doing come this Monday. Someone I can talk to who actually is forced to sit and listen to me, and provide an outside opinion. I guess the key is to remember that we're doing this to ourselves. The other person no longer has any impact in our lives. Our minds are our worst enemies, or at least they have been in my experience. This is my first major breakup so I can't offer any words of encouragement, but I think if we stick to the words 'this too shall pass' I think we all might make it.
MrEELB Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I cannot really offer a solution, more of an understanding how your feeling, I this morning have just posted up some very weird feelings I am going through right now. It has helped a little knowing that some months on for you and you still feel very fragile.
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