katherinev87 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Ok, so I've been keeping up with DCGirl33's posts, and I'm totally enjoying how her situation is unfolding. I have a similar question to ask.... I work two jobs...my second job is the more fun one out of the two. I'm a barista at a very popular coffee cafe in my town. I've been serving this guy (also named Darren, funnily enough...I didn't find out his name until just a few weeks ago) every thursday for nearly a year. He's a EMS worker/firefighter in my county.....HOT doesn't even describe him. Anyway...everytime he comes in, he makes a point of chatting to me for a few minutes, always slightly tinged with flirtation...then I serve him his order. He says 'thank you darling' or something along those lines...he always uses some sort of endearment, even though he knows my name. The thing is...he's quite a bit older than me (meaning somewhere in his early thirties). He's unmarried/unnattached as far as I can tell. So my question is...do you think he's into me at all (or am I just hopeful), and how can I let him know that I am interested?
DaisyBelle Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'd say yes, he has some type of crush on you, however major or minor it may be. I don't think he'd expend energy talking to you flirtatiously if there weren't some type of interest there. The q is more whether this flirtation is just a quick ego boost or if he's interested in something beyond an occasional flirtation. You'd have to talk to him more to discern that which fortunately is very easy to do with EMS/FFs. If you want to get him talking, talk EMS/fire. This will easily open the door to lengthy conversation. Ask him if he's career or volunteer and what kinds of calls he prefers; ask if he's heard about the new pet CPR programs (and then giggle - pet CPR is seriously a newer thing around firehouses, it's kind of cute). If there have been any large collisions or fires in your area recently, ask if he was on scene; ask what kind of continuing education he's taking. You can also ask what type of community work his station does, e.g., talks at grade schools, parades, etc. Also, you can get bold and ask if his station is having an open house any time soon. Good luck. I got a million more if you need 'em.
Author katherinev87 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 I'd say yes, he has some type of crush on you, however major or minor it may be. I don't think he'd expend energy talking to you flirtatiously if there weren't some type of interest there. The q is more whether this flirtation is just a quick ego boost or if he's interested in something beyond an occasional flirtation. You'd have to talk to him more to discern that which fortunately is very easy to do with EMS/FFs. If you want to get him talking, talk EMS/fire. This will easily open the door to lengthy conversation. Ask him if he's career or volunteer and what kinds of calls he prefers; ask if he's heard about the new pet CPR programs (and then giggle - pet CPR is seriously a newer thing around firehouses, it's kind of cute). If there have been any large collisions or fires in your area recently, ask if he was on scene; ask what kind of continuing education he's taking. You can also ask what type of community work his station does, e.g., talks at grade schools, parades, etc. Also, you can get bold and ask if his station is having an open house any time soon. Good luck. I got a million more if you need 'em. hmm, those are some good suggestions. I already know a few things....he's only a part time EMS/FF....he's also a heavy duty mechanic for a truck manufacturer. So I suppose I could ask a little more in-depth about either of those. I hate falling into the trap of 'work-talk' though...
DaisyBelle Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Here's the thing, though: it's not really work talk. He appears to be a volunteer FF, so firefighting is not really work for him. If he's like most vols, it's something he's very passionate about and to which he dedicates a lot of time. It's more of a lifestyle than a job. So it's akin to asking someone about their fascination with whatever their hobby is.
The Collector Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Same answer as in the other thread. Say 'hey gorgeous' or similar. There are many women who have expressed an interest to me this way (including Amy Winehouse btw - sadly for her I was not available).
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Brass it out. When he says "thank-you darling", you return it with "for you...anytime...sugar", with a wink.
dcgirl33 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Brass it out. When he says "thank-you darling", you return it with "for you...anytime...sugar", with a wink. I like "No, thank-you darling." OR "The pleasure's ALL mine."
Author katherinev87 Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Brass it out. When he says "thank-you darling", you return it with "for you...anytime...sugar", with a wink. You know...I actually like that. I'll try it tonight when he comes in the cafe....I'll let y'all know how it goes.
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