Author one goal Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Like I looked her up on facebook and found her profile. Is it ok to send her a message there? Just tell her I'm kinda shy, but want to tell her I think shes cute?
Author one goal Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 How about if I just say "hi **** It's me blank from writing class. I looked you up on facebook because I'm kinda shy in class, but I wanted to tell you I think you're cute.
Pyro Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 How about if I just say "hi **** It's me blank from writing class. I looked you up on facebook because I'm kinda shy in class, but I wanted to tell you I think you're cute. Nah. You want to get her attention? You have to show her that you are confident in yourself. You say hi to her and to take a line from a great movie, you ask her if you can have her number so you can ask her out sometime. Do this in person. Doing it behind the monitor of a computer takes away from your confidence level, IMO.
Green Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Adding the girl on facebook would be olright if you talked to her in class... but I'd recomend talking to her in person and telling her she's cute and whatever... much more effective and less lame then doing it online like that
Author one goal Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Here is what I sent her. Hey, whats up? It's me xxx from english class. I looked you up on facebook cause I'm kinda shy in class and don't talk a lot it seems, but I wanted to tell you that I think you're really cute.
Green Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Well its better then if you had done nothing... but not by much. You should have just talked to her in person.
Author one goal Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Just hard to with so many people around. I didn't send her a friend request though. I wanna see if she sends me one.
Green Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 of course there is so many people around... and its not hard at all your imagining all the boundaries. Well what you have done is better then doing nothing but you should start aproaching other girls and people in person at school. I had a class with over 100 people once and then when class was over I walked over to the girl I wanted to meet and chatted her up and then got her number
kitty23 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 if you don't want the friendship or dating stage then you need to come on strong and aggressive. be confident and act like an alpha male. be flirtatious yet leave a lil mystery to keep her wanting more. when you get her number wait to call her, stuff like that.. also, keep in mind that this may not work on every girl as not all girls want to take things fast or she may not even be into you at all.
Green Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 if you don't want the friendship or dating stage then you need to come on strong and aggressive. be confident and act like an alpha male. be flirtatious yet leave a lil mystery to keep her wanting more. when you get her number wait to call her, stuff like that.. also, keep in mind that this may not work on every girl as not all girls want to take things fast or she may not even be into you at all. yeah so use the fact that hot girls are every where and hit on large quanties on a regular basis and try to learn and get better at it
nab0610 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 there is such a thing as nice and confident...you have to find a good mixture of the two in my opinion when a girl challenges you or says something that challenges you..talk yourself up...make the girl laugh, sometimes you can so overly exaggerate something when your talking yourself up that you can make a girl laugh and accomplish 2 things with one statement you don't have to be an arrogant ******* to do that...just start talking to the girl and let things happen i know one thing for sure is if you come to this forum asking for peoples advice every step of the way it won't end up working for you...yea you get some good advice but you got to be able to do things on your own... last thing is to just have fun people like to have fun and have a good time...if your having fun and having a good time they'll like being around you
porter218 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 If you are too shy to ask the girls out in person then next time you see one you like just start up conversation about what happened in class. Talk to her about school a few times after class then send ger a message on facebook asking her out if you haven't gotten the nerve up to do it in person. It is always better that they at least have talked to you IRL before you express interest over the internet.
Author one goal Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 so what happened? Nothing yet. I messaged her this morning.
Author one goal Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Still no reply:mad: So what should I expect in class tomorrow morning then?
The Collector Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Nothing unless you locate your balls and say hello in person.
Green Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Like I said before, what you did was better then if you had done nothing but talking to her in person is your best shot. It really is a snowballs chance in hell to send her some random msg about being shy and thinking she is cute. You need to walk up to girls in person and just have conversations about what ever and then ask them out or what ever
Author one goal Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Like I said before, what you did was better then if you had done nothing but talking to her in person is your best shot. It really is a snowballs chance in hell to send her some random msg about being shy and thinking she is cute. You need to walk up to girls in person and just have conversations about what ever and then ask them out or what ever So what can I expect her to say to me in class tomorrow?
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Maybe hello? Don't push it. You left her a message and she didn't reply. Back off abit and if she is interested or curious about you, she'll make the effort to talk to you.
Green Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 So what can I expect her to say to me in class tomorrow? I don't think you should back off... the problem is you don't appear to be a person who has learned how to pick up on normal social q's. You can expect tommorow to be exactly the same as every other day unless you go and talk to her... You shouldn't go up to her and say "I like you" or "Did you get my facebook msg"... what you should do is have a flirtatious conversation with her and just see if she talks to you... talk about something interesting like a shirt she is wearing or whatever... then leave it at that and let me know how it went... in fact talk and be friendly to everyone .. meet guys and girls at your school... and be flirtatious with the girls.... olright man good luck... if you don't do anything tommorow will just be more of the same nothing from her
CommitmentPhobe Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 pick up girls at college? heck just turn up as far as i recall...
Author one goal Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Still no reply. She didn't say a word to me in class about it, and acted like nothing happend. I'm sooo upset, and pissed. I can never get a date, or be friends with a girl. I'm sick of this. There is a hotter chick in Business class I find cute, but never talk to her. Today before class she was sitting on the bench outside the classroom by herself waiting for the class before to get out. I didn't bother going over there and introducing myself. Becuase she would have probably just brushed me off too and ignore me liek all girls do. I'm tired of it.
The Collector Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 You've ignored all the advice you've been given. This is now officially a pity-me thread and pointless for anyone to continue to feed you.
pfunkallstar Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 You've ignored all the advice you've been given. This is now officially a pity-me thread and pointless for anyone to continue to feed you. Agreed.. What has everyone been saying here? Grow some balls and SAY HELLO! FACE TO FACE! These hot girls that you want do NOT go for guys who hide behind the internetssss when they want to talk to a girl. The guys the hot chicks are attracted to see what they want and go for it without thinking. No matter the risk or consequence. Simple as that. If you're still scared of approaching then start small.. talk to everyone sitting next to you in your class. The ugly girl on the left, the pimply faced geek behind you, the smelly kid in front of you. Doesn't matter what it's about.. the point is to get your social muscles working. Make fun of the professor.. whatever. Once you get your groove going THEN talk to the girl next to you. You create a circle of fun in your area of the room then the girls in the vicinity will notice and will want to join your party as well.. DO IT!
Green Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Still no reply. She didn't say a word to me in class about it, and acted like nothing happend. I'm sooo upset, and pissed. I can never get a date, or be friends with a girl. I'm sick of this. There is a hotter chick in Business class I find cute, but never talk to her. Today before class she was sitting on the bench outside the classroom by herself waiting for the class before to get out. I didn't bother going over there and introducing myself. Becuase she would have probably just brushed me off too and ignore me liek all girls do. I'm tired of it. Dude you really have to do more then send one facebook msg before you can feel like your being ignored. If it was as easy as sending a single message on facebook to get a girl to notice you then that would be some twilight zone episode. I can't believe you skipped out on such a perfect chance to talk to that girl who you think is more attractive then the one you've been messaging... seriously it doesn't sound like you've tried that hard... you might be better off just having people set you up on dates instead of finding them yourself
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