Should I keep waiting for my bf to divorce?

[Feralfeline]

Hi to all of you. I am new here, but have been reading posts and wanted to ask for advice, because I am starting to feel tired of my situation and not sure what to do. I met my bf in a chat room in 1999. He was married, but not happily and was planning to leave his wife when his son graduated high school. I waited, even through an extra year of school because his son failed his last year in school. So, after almost 3 years, he did move out. He and his wife sold their house and went their separate ways. We have been together since then. After a couple years he asked me to move in with him and has mentioned it several times since. I have always been hesitant because he lives in another county, and rents a house and I like my area better and my child in still in school. My place is too small for him to live with me, and he has said he doesn't want to live in my area. I have asked him a few times if he plans on getting divorced and he is very nonchalant and says he is in no hurry and doesn't want to waste money on it, plus he never wants to get married again, (this was his second marriage). I am kinda back and forth on the marriage thing myself, because I was married once and am now divorced. I wanted to find someone and have a life I didn't have with my ex. I thought I found this in him, but things have changed. For one he used to have a regular 9-5 jobs with benefits, which he decided to quit and start his own business. He did this shortly after leaving his wife. So then his money was tight. One of the things I loved about him was the fact that he had a good regular job and could spend the evenings and weekends with me because my ex was always working crazy hours/days and never had time for me. My bf does try to make time in between his work which is on the weekends, but then had to get another weekday job to make ends meet...So, he is stressed with the day job because he has to work ungodly early hours and with the fact that the weekend job isn;t going well. I am getting my life together and am looking to buy a house and would like him to start getting his life together too. Sorry for this being so long, I wanted to get the details out so hopefully I can get some advice from you guys. Any would be appreciated. Thank you in advance

 

 

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[dcgirl33]

Go on with your life without him. He's real busy. Don't interrupt him. He needs to deal with all of the issues he has on his plate. You are just a diversion.