Found my gf is searching for old lovers. What do I do?

[MissingMyHubby]

Hello everyone.

 

I have been dating a girl for 4 months now, its going well. Before dating me she had a bf of a year, whom broke it off with her 1-2 months before we started dating. Also, the guy before him she had dated on/off for 6 years. She has made it clear to me that guy #1 was a little insecure girl with no personality, and guy #2 was a manipulative controlling man who oft threatened to off himself. She has attempted to make it clear to me she wants nothing to do with these men, but I sometimes have my doubts.

 

I am on her laptop right now (I will delete history so she doesn't see this post) and see she has searched on "google" for both these ex's, their names, emails, and IM names/handles, as well as a couple searches for me.

 

Do I say anything?

 

I can say it was easy to find because on internet explorer, you can see everything that has been searched for on google or yahoo (both the biggest internet search engines) and I basically "stumbled" upon it.

 

Should I be concerned?

[nopainnogain]

 

Do I say anything?

 

 

does pinochio have wooden balls?

[Art_Critic]

Internet explorer doesn't tell you how long ago is was searched for.. maybe she searched for it 5 months ago.. or 3 months ago before you were exclusive...

 

Just something to think about...

 

Just ask her about it.. but don't accuse her of anything.. a 4 month relationship is just that.. 4 months.. it isn't a very long time and you have to decide how much control you want to have over her in this situation...

 

I personally wouldn't worry about it.. but if she did it after a year I'd be upset..

 

Has she cheated on you in the past ?

[MissingMyHubby]

huh?

i dont get that joke?

[audrey_1]

Think about the state of your relationship and then think about the possible answer to that question. I have looked for exes online out of pure curiosity. It takes seconds to type a name in, and then the thought is gone just as quickly. The same thing happened to me but with Facebook URLs. I was looking up my page on his computer, and before I finished typing in the URL, it showed all recent, past Facebook URLs he'd typed in. The names of all his past crushes were at the end. He had searched for them. But when we're both online, he sends ME instant messages and spends time talking with me, and then logs off when we're finished (or goes offline:o) so do I have anything to worry about? From that, the answer would be no. It would just be misguided jealousy. I have searched for people in my past, too, but when I think about who I want to be in a relationship with, it's him. The internet age sure has complicated things...

[MissingMyHubby]

Let me explain....

 

I searched 2 weeks ago for youtube videos. Yesterday I searched for real estate. In between those 2 searches are various forms of her 2 ex's she searched for. There's no "actual" date, but I know it is recent based on what I just said. The most recent search is on top, oldest on bottom. The oldest one's were one's made 2 weeks ago (youtube) by me. Get it now?

[Art_Critic]

You have a jealousy issue don't you ?

 

Have you ever searched for an old GF before ?

 

Has she cheated on you before ?.. has she given you a reason to think she might cheat on you ?.. the reason I ask is that searching for old BF's doesn't mean she was going to cheat on you.. of course it also doesn't mean she wasn't going to either.. that is why I asked about your relationship...

 

Google is too easy of a search engine and sometimes people lookup old friends or people they used to date.. it happens ..

 

How is your relationship with her ?

[stefspets]

I don't really think that's a big deal. I would think a lot of people are curious about exes and might google them from time to time.

 

Of course, as Art said, if there are other issues at play then this could mean more, but if things are fine otherwise then I think you should let it go.

[MissingMyHubby]

For the most part things are going great. She said she finally is understanding me now, likes the state of our relationship. We argue about stuff occasionally or sometimes I hurt her feelings on accident, but we quickly get over that.

[nopainnogain]

huh?

i dont get that joke?

 

Means that yes, pinochio does have wooden balls , so yes. You should be concerned. If it bothers you then ditch her. It would bother me. I dont care if its one month or 1 year into the R.

 

And why is your s/n "missingmyhubby"

[MissingMyHubby]

Well it obviously bothers me somewhat, but Im trying to get a gauge into whether im being jealous for no reason or not. This means that she could be just "curious" and not actually taking steps in infidelity/breaking it up with me.

[MissingMyHubby]

S/N is just that because its ultra anonymous. No one would ever figure out it was me (a guy too)