2dreamx Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 okay let me start off by saying hello to everyone. im new to the site and hopefully i can get some good information out of it. im going to explain my story and then hopefully you guys have some good advice for me. where to start... i was dating this girl for 5 going on 6 years now. we started dating our senior year in high school and just kept chugging along. we survived a long distance relationship when she moved to NYC for school (about 3 hours away) and we survived another long distance relationship for 2 years as i joined the military. about a half year into me being in the military we got engaged. we were engaged for damn near a year and we decided to call it off (my idea) got the spooks. about 8 months after we called it off she just up and decided to break up with me. i was pretty much just a straight up ass to her and that is why she wanted space. now we've been broken up for going on 2 months. i have tried getting her back, showing her that i have changed. and i have actualyl changed, i treat my friends and family so much better then i use to. but anyways i tried to show her i changed and she still says she wants space. the thing that confuses me is that when i come home on the weekends we still hang out all weekend. i sleep at her place in her bed. we kiss sometimes and we've even had sex a few times since. if she wants space why does she still hang with me? i know i should be moving on but 5 years with this girl and i never stopped loving her. what do you all reccomend?
nopainnogain Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 i know i should be moving on but 5 years with this girl and i never stopped loving her. what do you all reccomend? Go casual n/c for a month. Dont let her know ,just do it. When ever she calls be cordial and be the first to end the convo. Is she wants to hang,tell her you are busy and MAYBE next weekend. And really get busy. Get back in school, get another job. Whatever the case dont stop saving money ,focus on yourself, exercise daily, eat good, be mysterious and dont be predictable. After a month surprise her with a nice dinner date and see how that goes. Then make a decision to move on or not.
Author 2dreamx Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 Go casual n/c for a month. what is n/c?
nopainnogain Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 n/c= no contact. Flip the script on her. Be a man
Author 2dreamx Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 okay so say i go out to a party or out to the bars and she happens to be there. what do i do? just acknowledge her but at the same time semi ignore her? im from a small town and the chances of bumping into her are pretty good.
Faded Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 okay so say i go out to a party or out to the bars and she happens to be there. what do i do? just acknowledge her but at the same time semi ignore her? im from a small town and the chances of bumping into her are pretty good. Don't be where you think she might. Find something to do for the next month, If she's a party girl/bar girl, just go elsewhere - find a new place to relax for the next 3 weekends If you do by chance run into her, Don't ignore her. Acknowlege her, Say hi, cut the convo short saying you're busy and about to head out or something and part your ways.
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