vixon Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Just found out over the weekend that my partner of 8years and 3kids had an affair with my best mate. It ended 2years ago but went on for a year on and off. Im so lost.
Green Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 You know what I would do if I were in your situation... go on a cruise
bish Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Just found out over the weekend that my partner of 8years and 3kids had an affair with my best mate. It ended 2years ago but went on for a year on and off. Im so lost. First off, I hope you severed your relationship with your so-called "friend". Second, what are you going to do? You'll never be able to have him around any of your friends again knowing he would get off on trying to get them in the sack. I know its easier said than done, but I'd leave him if I were you. Take your kids, get child support and get away from the cheating bastard.
theobserver Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Everything Bish said. Nothing more to add. I feel sorry you've been betrayed in such a way made a fool of behind your back. Like people say it ALWAYS come out eventually. Just because a year has gone by does not make this blow any easier infact I'm sure it's harder, they had their fun and thought they got away with it. Cut ties with this friend if you haven't already and file for divorce make sure you get everything you can out of this bast*rd and arrange child support and make sure he pays.
Siphon9a Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Kids or not they both disrepected you. For her - drop the tramp and move on. For him - "Use your fist, not your mouth" Marilyn Manson Sometimes pricks like this guy need teeth re-arranged UFC style to understand not to **** with people cause they think the rule the ****ing earth.
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I am so sorry. No one should have to go through something like that. You know, I have a dear friend who's husband is quite a flirt and he's an attractive guy. He's made moves on me before but I always laughed it off because the idea of sleeping with my friend's husband was so far from my reality that it was never an option. Then again, I could be rip-roaring crazy in love with the guy and I still wouldn't do that. I honestly cannot imagine how anyone could do this to a friend. As far as your marriage is concerned, I have to agree with the others. There's just no fixing this. This is one of those situations where no amount of talking is ever going to make it right. I know it hurts like crazy but it's time to change the locks and visit a lawyer. These two people have betrayed you in the most horrible way they could and they don't deserve one more second of your time. But, again, I am so very sorry. My heart really goes out to you.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I'm so sorry, vixon. I have no real advice whatsoever, just something that a friend once told me many years ago, in a totally different situation, and it's hung with me: The people that you think are your friends are NOT your friends. That's a hard truth to swallow, and the main reason why I am very, very intolerant of any disloyal behavior in any so-called 'friend'. Act superficial at all? I ain't got time for ya, mate! As far as the partner...I agree with the above posters. Call the spade a spade and move on. Betrayal is a very hard thing to get past. You can try, sure. But your partner needs to be willing to put in a thousand times more effort than you are. Maybe ten thousand. Or a trillion. Anyone who craps where they eat deserves to eat crap, and they better love it and ask for seconds. Ya know? Good luck finding your way. You've got a tough road, whichever direction you choose. Just remember, you are not responsible for another's lack of character.
troubadour Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Vixon... I really feel sorry for you. I can not think of anything else your husband and your best friend could do to humiliate you more than they have already done. There is simply nothing else. They both have proven beyond any doubt that each of them, respectively, does not give a flying f... about you or what you feel. I am rather a peaceful person by nature but in situation like this... I would make them both pay dearly... and I am a very, very creative person. Vixon... get divorced.
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