Red_Apple Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 My bf and I have a profile a popular website. Just recently, his relationship status was removed, then put up again (within the same day). He says he didn't change it, and that it must have been a website technicality. Any thoughts?
lost66 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Quite possible but, if you are freaking out about it there must be more to the story...
Author Red_Apple Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 Well, no there isn't, lol. That's about all there is to the story. I just thought it a bit odd, but he says it was a website technicality. With anything online these days, I'm not sure :s He's always on the Internet, and he erases his history. And when he doesn't, there are profiles of Asian girls and pictures of the girls' profiles he has visited.
theobserver Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Don't worry about it too much, we can't help looking sometimes just like sometimes we just want to watch some porn. Don't completely brush this off though "status" changes I've noticed can be a good sign of partners shopping for sex/new partners it's very subtle and effective. Now he changes it back so that's all dandy but keep an eye on him. If you catch him messaging some women when he thinks your not noticing etc or things like that note it in your mind but it depends how frequent call him out if it's happening a lot. (watch out for "secret" calls and texting that he wont do with you in the room too, unless he's a very private person and was since you knew him) Best of luck but I'm sure this is nothing.
jj33 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 No wonder you are upset. When he doesnt erase his history you see he is checking out other girls' profiles? Checking out porn is one thing. Checking out real live people who he could actually communicate with is another. I dont want to fuel your concerns but they dont sound far fetched. I would ask him why he is viewing other women's profiles. if he blames that on a technical glitch ... or if he says its a free country he can do what he wants I think you have a problem.
JackJack Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 THe status change I wouldn't worry to much about just yet, unless it keeps happening. Erasing the history means he feels he has something to hide. If he didn't, he wouldn't be erasing it.
manugeorge Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Don't throw a tantrum about the status change but please do keep it in mind. My ex said the same exact thing when I noticed his status change on myspace, he said "it's a website technicality", yeah bull****. When he had his status on "in a relationship", the friends, i.e., female on his page were dropping like flies. As soon as HE changed it to single, here they come. I bought the "website technicality" excuse until I later discovered that these so called female friends of his are actually his numerous lovers, most of whom he had met off myspace and slept with, ALL WHILE WE WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP. Boy, did that hit me like a ton of bricks. Cheating Bastard! Website technicality my ass.
Author Red_Apple Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Don't worry about it too much, we can't help looking sometimes just like sometimes we just want to watch some porn. Don't completely brush this off though "status" changes I've noticed can be a good sign of partners shopping for sex/new partners it's very subtle and effective. Now he changes it back so that's all dandy but keep an eye on him. If you catch him messaging some women when he thinks your not noticing etc or things like that note it in your mind but it depends how frequent call him out if it's happening a lot. (watch out for "secret" calls and texting that he wont do with you in the room too, unless he's a very private person and was since you knew him) I agree with you, I don't think it's not something to worry too much about yet. It's probably nothing. But now his relationship status has been missing for several days now (2 or 3). It's only been a couple of days, so I shouldn't worry too much about it yet.
Author Red_Apple Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 THe status change I wouldn't worry to much about just yet, unless it keeps happening. Erasing the history means he feels he has something to hide. If he didn't, he wouldn't be erasing it. Yeah I think that's reasonable. His status has been clear (not "in relationship") for 2 - 3 days now. I haven't brought it to his attention b/c it's only been a short time, and probably doesn't mean anything. He also said that it was nothing because he didn't erase his history. Though there were a some times when he did and didn't do this.
Author Red_Apple Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 No wonder you are upset. When he doesnt erase his history you see he is checking out other girls' profiles? Checking out porn is one thing. Checking out real live people who he could actually communicate with is another. I dont want to fuel your concerns but they dont sound far fetched. I would ask him why he is viewing other women's profiles. if he blames that on a technical glitch ... or if he says its a free country he can do what he wants I think you have a problem. He said it was curiousity. Lots of ppl. just browse profiles, so I can believe him to that extent (even if they are all women). Some of the female profiles were strangers, while others were girls he knew in college and with whom were sexually interested in him. He even had private messages with the college girls, but they weren't alarming or threatening in any way.
Author Red_Apple Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Don't throw a tantrum about the status change but please do keep it in mind. My ex said the same exact thing when I noticed his status change on myspace, he said "it's a website technicality", yeah bull****. When he had his status on "in a relationship", the friends, i.e., female on his page were dropping like flies. As soon as HE changed it to single, here they come. I bought the "website technicality" excuse until I later discovered that these so called female friends of his are actually his numerous lovers, most of whom he had met off myspace and slept with, ALL WHILE WE WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP. Boy, did that hit me like a ton of bricks. Cheating Bastard! Website technicality my ass. I didn't throw a tantrum, but I did point it out to him. Like I said in prev. replies, his status has been missing for 2-3 days now. I haven't said anything b/c it's only been a short time. Sorry to hear that that happened to you. I hope you've recovered from that exp. (though I know alot of ppl. wouldn't be, including myself, it's just something that always remains with you). I've heard that happen to several ppl, that's why when just a hint may have been happening to me, I panicked. Some of my bf's profile views/messages have been to women who were sexually interested in him in college, but the messages I saw were not bad.
manugeorge Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I didn't throw a tantrum, but I did point it out to him. Like I said in prev. replies, his status has been missing for 2-3 days now. I haven't said anything b/c it's only been a short time. Sorry to hear that that happened to you. I hope you've recovered from that exp. (though I know alot of ppl. wouldn't be, including myself, it's just something that always remains with you). I've heard that happen to several ppl, that's why when just a hint may have been happening to me, I panicked. Some of my bf's profile views/messages have been to women who were sexually interested in him in college, but the messages I saw were not bad. It sure does remain with you, I have never been a myspace user so I was gullible at the time to all the tricks people pull on it. Now I wouldn't even date a guy with a myspace/facebook or any of those other networking pages, it just brings back too many awful memories and paranoia. Keep your eyes open please.
Author Red_Apple Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 It sure does remain with you, I have never been a myspace user so I was gullible at the time to all the tricks people pull on it. Now I wouldn't even date a guy with a myspace/facebook or any of those other networking pages, it just brings back too many awful memories and paranoia. Keep your eyes open please. Thanks for the advice - I'll be sure to be cautious!
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