Melrapuo Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'll take whatever, as long as the girl likes me for who I am. Although I do prefer between B's and C's.
ABrokenWing Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'm in a solid B cup and I"m just fine with my small boobs.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'm confused...you're a B and you want them reduced? To what, an A--the smallest size possible? I'm a D and I have a small frame, so they've given me back problems ever since high school. I've considered getting a reduction for a while but my boyfriend is not cool with that at all! I think, ultimately, it's less about size and more about look. And fake ones are ALWAYS gross.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 I'm confused...you're a B and you want them reduced? To what, an A--the smallest size possible? I'm a D and I have a small frame, so they've given me back problems ever since high school. I've considered getting a reduction for a while but my boyfriend is not cool with that at all! I think, ultimately, it's less about size and more about look. And fake ones are ALWAYS gross. If you are referring to me, I am a C (and have a very small frame). I'm real petite so my boobs are like half of my frontal region. I would just love to be a B, so I could wear cute little tank tops and look thinner. Like you boyfriend, mine thinks I'm insane for wanting them reduced. He says people pay thousands of bucks for boobs like mine. I bet they aren't 5'2 and petite though... I have some lower back issues as well. I'm always slouching over too.
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 The point is that most women want a man to think their breasts are gorgeous no matter what. I don't honestly believe most women want to actually feel like they need something foriegn implanted in their body to be the real kind of women men like. There is an unrealistic ideal about what 'proporitional" means in our media driven society that women feel the brunt of for not measuring up to. Concepts of perkiness and roundness are natural to like when it comes to breasts. Proportional is understandable. However, what was considered proportional back in the day without the hinderance of surgery, and what is considered proprotional with the hinderance of surgery, are two different things that you can easily see in what was considered beautiful back in the day and what is considered beautiful now. The fact that so many women feel the need that they need some kind of breast fix speaks for the unreaslitics ideals we have about what a natural woman's body is about. To this I will agree. So by default, then women should get surgery so they feel more "womanly"? Do men not women to be attracted to them and instead want women to be attracted to other women? Women are more feminine but as to who is sexier, that is objective. Women based their proportions and "sexiness", IMHO, more towards OTHER women than what men think. Case in poin, I say my ex's boobs are perfect the way they are, she says "You don't understand me." She doesn't care what I think, she cares how she looks compared to OTHER WOMEN. That, more than anything is the driving force behind pastique surgery. From my own personal experience. It's hard to take a man seriously that says that he enjoys yoru body the way it is but still buys into the media stereotypes he is fed and supports them by oggling, purchases or spending time advocating such thigns. I'm having a hard time relating to what you're saying men are oggling about. Maybe I am a different breed. I don't care about other women when I am with the one I love. My ex's never had to deal with me staring at other women or comparing her to other women because it wasn't a competition. She was it and I didn't see anyone else. I agree that women are more crictical of their bodies in a way. But Considering what men show they like, and the limited stereotype of what makes a woman really attractive, yo ucan't blame women for feeling concerned about their level of attractivness. The sexes play off each other. And if men spend time looking at images of super-impossibly-photoshopped women, like it or not, realistically real women are going to have questions about what that means concerning their own body. Men are visual and hence the rason why we worry about are visual level to please a man. Especially when we are up against so many things that tell us we just plain arne't good enough and the men we love support these things and defend them under the guise of his visual needs. In advertising such as beer they show scantily clad women with huge boobs and tight bodies (what that has to do with beer I'll never understand). In modeling it's usually gay men or other women that determine fashion and looks I truly believe women compare themselves to women in modeling and advertising as to what is ideal, not what they think men want (unless they're husband shopping). Yes, men are visual creatures and we always have been. I don’t think anything is going to change that. But there are enough men here saying "I don't care about boobs" to let it be known that it's really one of the least important things when it comes to finding a mate. I honestly believe that women for the most part have augmentation to boost their self-confidence and self-esteem when it comes to competing with OTHER women for a mate, not necessarily to find a mate in general. It's giving themselves a competitve edge, so to speak….
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'm in a solid B cup and I"m just fine with my small boobs. If LS had a kudos button, I'd give ya one. <-- close as I can get. Boob size doesn't seem to bother Gwen Stephani and if anyone has the money to enhance their appearance, she sure does.
blind_otter Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I have had various breast sizes. I started out with an A cup in high school. I matured into B cup in college. Then while pregnant I got to be a full C cup. Now I am a DD cup. I prefer the B cup.
Jersey Shortie Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'm having a hard time relating to what you're saying men are oggling about. Maybe I am a different breed. I don't care about other women when I am with the one I love. My ex's never had to deal with me staring at other women or comparing her to other women because it wasn't a competition. She was it and I didn't see anyone else. Well then you are rare. That isn't what most men are like. In advertising such as beer they show scantily clad women with huge boobs and tight bodies (what that has to do with beer I'll never understand). In modeling it's usually gay men or other women that determine fashion and looks I truly believe women compare themselves to women in modeling and advertising as to what is ideal, not what they think men want (unless they're husband shopping). There is obviously some amount of competition between women that does effect certain things. But you are missing the other part about how men and women relate and how men attract women and how women attract men. If you think women are completely uninfluenced by the messages men directly or indirectly send them about what they think when it comes to the female body, you are either being naive or unrealistic about how men and women influence one another. I honestly believe that women for the most part have augmentation to boost their self-confidence and self-esteem when it comes to competing with OTHER women for a mate, not necessarily to find a mate in general. Then I would have to believe you are leaving out a rather large compontant about attraction between men and women and how what men or women show approvel for or disapprovel for effects the other gender. And the truth is, women are infact in competition with othe women. Especially when most men continually tell us how visually driven they are and how they need this or that or how *hot* a certain woman is in the media that has been mutated by computer or surgery to look that way. I am not saying women shouldn't be confident in their bodies. But you can't expect men to ahve a stardard of visual beauty and not expect it to not effect women. That isn't realistic.
tanbark813 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 And the truth is, women are infact in competition with othe women. Especially when most men continually tell us how visually driven they are and how they need this or that or how *hot* a certain woman is in the media that has been mutated by computer or surgery to look that way. This is ridiculous. There have been a number of times my gf asked me if I thought a girl was hot, usually a famous actress but sometimes normal people. Usually I say yes and then she proceeds to critique her hair, shape of her lips, clothing, whatever. I just drop it at that point because arguing how hot another woman is with my gf is just going down a bad road. But in my head I'm thinking, "Whatever, she looks good to me." And it's not just my current gf. A lot of girls I've dated have been the same way. Women put this pressure on each other to look a certain way. Not men. And JS, I know I've said this before, but you have a very skewed perception of men. How you think we think is very different from reality.
ABrokenWing Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 If LS had a kudos button, I'd give ya one. <-- close as I can get. Boob size doesn't seem to bother Gwen Stephani and if anyone has the money to enhance their appearance, she sure does. awe, thanks! *hugs*
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 This is ridiculous. There have been a number of times my gf asked me if I thought a girl was hot, usually a famous actress but sometimes normal people. Usually I say yes and then she proceeds to critique her hair, shape of her lips, clothing, whatever. I just drop it at that point because arguing how hot another woman is with my gf is just going down a bad road. But in my head I'm thinking, "Whatever, she looks good to me." And it's not just my current gf. A lot of girls I've dated have been the same way. Women put this pressure on each other to look a certain way. Not men. And JS, I know I've said this before, but you have a very skewed perception of men. How you think we think is very different from reality. Well put, TB. I have never told a g/f that she pales in comparision to a hot model or actress. What do I care about someone on TV? All I care about is the girl I am with now. If I wasn't happy with the entire package, I wouldn't be with her. Women are much more critical of each other, IME, than men are of them. And how many times do I have to say it? Each of my last 3 g/fs had boobs on the smaller side, each time I thought they were perfect. But each and every one of them got augmentation in SPITE of me telling them how great they looked, just the way they were. I don't think men are driving women to change their boobs. I think other women are. But maybe I am weird. And ABrokenWing, you're welcome. Just be you and the right man will love you for it.
norajane Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 This is ridiculous. There have been a number of times my gf asked me if I thought a girl was hot, usually a famous actress but sometimes normal people. Usually I say yes and then she proceeds to critique her hair, shape of her lips, clothing, whatever. I just drop it at that point because arguing how hot another woman is with my gf is just going down a bad road. But in my head I'm thinking, "Whatever, she looks good to me." And it's not just my current gf. A lot of girls I've dated have been the same way. Women put this pressure on each other to look a certain way. Not men. Your gf was trying to convince YOU that said actress wasn't really that hot, because she probably compared herself to the actress and didn't look anything like her.
tanbark813 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Your gf was trying to convince YOU that said actress wasn't really that hot, because she probably compared herself to the actress and didn't look anything like her. You're focusing on the trees rather than the forest, nj. Say we have this: X - Group of men Y - Group of women Z - Group of women to be critiqued If both X and Y are asked to evaluate the looks of group Z, I guarantee you that group X will evaluate Z as better looking on average than Y will.
tanbark813 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 You are right Tan, like always!! I do what I can.
CandyGirlXO Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Geeez I hate these threads about implants. I have them and all these people are talking about how gross they are! Can we just say do whatever makes YOU happy INSTEAD of BASHING every female on here that has had implants! I don't see the need to talk about how some people think implants are so disgusting. I agree I don't like the huge huge implants, but a normal size is fine. But to each their own! I am starting to get offended. I am 5'2 105lbs, and my breasts are now a 34C, does that make me unproportioned??? I don't think so.
Lishy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I do what I can. And you do it so well :love:
Lishy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Candy, this thread is not about you. We are all entitled to an opinion, you should not take it personal. There are alot of people who love them! You said you are happy with them so why get so offended? We can't all agree all of the time can we?
norajane Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Geeez I hate these threads about implants. I have them and all these people are talking about how gross they are! To be fair, LB started this thread about breast REDUCTIONS, not implants. It just turned into a breast implant thread because people were talking about size, shape, and look (and maybe because some people didn't really read to understand what LB's concern was).
Star Gazer Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 actually i do know several men who detest fake boobs. they specifically seek out women who have "natural" boobs. some have even said that they like them to sag a bit and move a bunch. that when they feel them they are soft and mushy and easy to play with. it seems more now than a few years ago - almost like a new trend. their biggest complaint? the feel of the fake ones. they say they'd rather have a few imperfections than the rock hard feel and the look of a round fruit sitting under the skin. who knows? always just personal preference really... i just stick to what i prefer for me and how i feel good. For the life of me, I really don't know where these so-called guys feeling rock hard boobs and seeing a round piece of fruit under the skin are finding their women! Who on earth is their surgeon? My boobs move around now more than they did before I had implants, are just as mushy as my BFF's who has real boobs of the same size (D), and look nothing like a round fruit. They're good boobs. I've never had ANY complaints from the men I meet/date who know, only compliments to my doctor. Even real boobs feel different over a spectrum of the same size depending on the density of the fat/tissue/etc. Some boobs are firm naturally, others are lumpy and mushy. I just find that really hard to believe. I would say those guys are in the minority but that's just me. I'd agree with you, based on personal experience alone. Let's make it clear right off the bat that I like almost all boobs, especially the ones that are available and in easy reach! I've always maintained that men like boobs...period. Boobs attached to a woman who's confident about her boobs, that is.
Star Gazer Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 You are right Tan, like always!! Then you'll agree with HIS assessment of my boobs (who I've met) over yours (who I haven't) then, right?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 To be fair, LB started this thread about breast REDUCTIONS, not implants. It just turned into a breast implant thread because people were talking about size, shape, and look (and maybe because some people didn't really read to understand what LB's concern was). Thanks Norajane. Yeah I really wasn't even talking about implants at all, someone mentioned that they had them and others commented. This thread is more about preferences in regards to breast size, not about others personal views on breast implants. It was actually about reductions! But anyway, I don't want anyone to be offended, obviously there are going to different opinions regarding breast size and surgery. If the thread upsets or offends you, then don't read it!!!
Star Gazer Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 The point is that most women want a man to think their breasts are gorgeous no matter what. I don't honestly believe most women want to actually feel like they need something foriegn implanted in their body to be the real kind of women men like. There is an unrealistic ideal about what 'proporitional" means in our media driven society that women feel the brunt of for not measuring up to. Concepts of perkiness and roundness are natural to like when it comes to breasts. The desire for proportionality isn't limited to implants. If one woman's got this: (*)(*) And another's got this: (((( * )))) (((( * )))) And yet both want this: ( * ) ( * ) Why is it socially acceptable for the bigger woman to get a reduction, but not okay for the smaller woman to get implants? I've always been curious about that dichotomy.
Star Gazer Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 To be fair, LB started this thread about breast REDUCTIONS, not implants. It just turned into a breast implant thread because people were talking about size, shape, and look (and maybe because some people didn't really read to understand what LB's concern was). True. However, she brought surgery into the mix...which turned the conversation into whether a woman should do what SHE wants to do - whether wear a padded bra or minimizer, or get surgery to increase/decrease their size - was reasonable. IMO, whatever LB wants to do to make herself comfortable is reasonable, so long as it's what SHE wants to do and it will make HER happy.
Lishy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 She asked for advice and she got varied advice. That is why she posted it and it seems she agrees with the people saying dont do it! Why make herself full of scars when she is fine how she is? Do we all have to agree with you Star? Does EVERY thread have to revolve around you and your obsession with making snide comments at me? Why dont you go make an X, Y and Z thread? That was hilarious (for kindergarten) LMAO
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