2sunny Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 i think i remember that you haven't yet had children. your boobs are likely to change when you are pregnant and breast feeding. good support is essential at this stage! you can wait until after that stage of your life and see if things are good then. i used to be huge.. then after kids - more normal... a 32D. this is more than enough for me (i wish i was smaller at times - but i am perfectly happy). i am a small but tall gal- so i carry it well. posture is important! carry those twins like you love having them around. the confidence shows well on a gal - no matter what the size. as far as a swim suit? i'm almost 50, and i still wear a bikini and feel so good when i do. there are lots of styles these days that will flatter any chest size. embrace and make the most of your gifts and you will be happy.
april1325 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Most men i know dont care about the size of your breast. they just want to see them. I know this probaly wont help you out, but I can relate to how you feel about your breast size. I wish mine were bigger, but I have never had any complaints. always compliments.
Green Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Most men i know dont care about the size of your breast. they just want to see them. I know this probaly wont help you out, but I can relate to how you feel about your breast size. I wish mine were bigger, but I have never had any complaints. always compliments. Most men you know are full of crap lol
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I'm recently single and it concerns me that a lot of guys don't like fake boobs but IMO they look 100% better than before! Any guy who says they don't like fake ones is lying. They'd just be happy to be seeing any boobs for that matter....
2sunny Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Any guy who says they don't fake ones is lying. They'd just be happy to be seeing any boobs for that matter.... actually i do know several men who detest fake boobs. they specifically seek out women who have "natural" boobs. some have even said that they like them to sag a bit and move a bunch. that when they feel them they are soft and mushy and easy to play with. it seems more now than a few years ago - almost like a new trend. their biggest complaint? the feel of the fake ones. they say they'd rather have a few imperfections than the rock hard feel and the look of a round fruit sitting under the skin. who knows? always just personal preference really... i just stick to what i prefer for me and how i feel good.
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 actually i do know several men who detest fake boobs. they specifically seek out women who have "natural" boobs. some have even said that they like them to sag a bit and move a bunch. that when they feel them they are soft and mushy and easy to play with. it seems more now than a few years ago - almost like a new trend. their biggest complaint? the feel of the fake ones. they say they'd rather have a few imperfections than the rock hard feel and the look of a round fruit sitting under the skin. who knows? always just personal preference really... i just stick to what i prefer for me and how i feel good. I just find that really hard to believe. I would say those guys are in the minority but that's just me.
Green Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I believe there probably are guys out there saying they hate fake boobs, I also believe that they would gladly go out with a fake boobed hot chick given the oportunity and never look back at there past crazy statements
Balthazar Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Let's make it clear right off the bat that I like almost all boobs, especially the ones that are available and in easy reach! My preference is for C to DD cup sizes but I have enjoyed smaller and bigger(usually smaller though). To echo other posters here, the proportion of breast to body size is important as well as how they defy gravity. Smaller pairs are fine too; the owners just don't get that immediate attentions that the gals with the big 'uns do.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 Wow I can't believe how many responses this got! It sounds like the overwhelming consensus here swings in the way of medium to big size breasts. Like other guys have said, my boyfriend like's them big. He joked that I should get implants. I told him he was nuts! I just don't like having big boobs..I guess they are average now but before they weren't. Losing weight did a number on them so they are not as perky as they would have been if I had just been a C my whole life. I was thinking about what everyone said and I talked to my boyfriend and he said I should be lucky I got an awesome chest! Like others said, sometimes I feel like people are just looking at my chest instead of my face. I suppose I wish I was like my sister (a B cup) and could wear cute little tank tops and dresses. Like SG said, the grass is always greener I suppose.
carhill Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 As a program note, in my age group anyway, there are a fair amount of women who have implants for a much more serious and important reason; surviving breast cancer. Hence, things are not always as vain as they might seem. I don't judge the girls, rather, accept the woman.
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Let's make it clear right off the bat that I like almost all boobs, especially the ones that are available and in easy reach! My preference is for C to DD cup sizes but I have enjoyed smaller and bigger(usually smaller though). To echo other posters here, the proportion of breast to body size is important as well as how they defy gravity. Smaller pairs are fine too; the owners just don't get that immediate attentions that the gals with the big 'uns do. You know, I've often ended up (who knows why) with women who have smaller chests and it's never been an issue. It's always an after thought. While boobies are fun, there are some other important assets of a woman's body that deserve the bulk of a man's attention Ladies, I am here to tell ya. As long as YOU are happy with what God gave you that should be all that matters. If a man EVER makes it an issue, that is HIS problem, NOT yours and he's not the right guy for you. Got it!?
Jersey Shortie Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Well, women get so many mixed message about their breast size it gets over whelming. If women put men under the same preasure to have fake penises, I doubt most men would be happy about that. Lucky for men that women more often accept them for who they are then men do the same for women. We are suppose to be confident but we are told that you aren't what men really want if your breasts look like this or that. It's confusing. We are suppose to be confident in our bodies but men support fake breasts and women feeling like they are lacking and needing to get fake breasts to over compensate for a fantasy ideal that isn't reality.I don't think men are every happy with women just being women.
carhill Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 While boobies are fun, there are some other important assets of a woman's body that deserve the bulk of a man's attention Affirmative!
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Well, women get so many mixed message about their breast size it gets over whelming. If women put men under the same preasure to have fake penises, I doubt most men would be happy about that. Lucky for men that women more often accept them for who they are then men do the same for women. We are suppose to be confident but we are told that you aren't what men really want if your breasts look like this or that. It's confusing. We are suppose to be confident in our bodies but men support fake breasts and women feeling like they are lacking and needing to get fake breasts to over compensate for a fantasy ideal that isn't reality.I don't think men are every happy with women just being women. If men could get fake "members" as easily as women can get enhancements that would be a multi-billion dollar business yearly in the US alone. Unfortunately (or fortunately) for men, we have no control over what we've been handed. Besides, that -- unlike augmentation -- is something that for the most part is hidden from view. And I don't think I am alone in the feeling that a woman's body is much sexier than a mans if both are in good shape. Naked women > naked men any day of the week. As for men being happy with women just being women, let me just say this. The last three women I dated all had B cups or smaller. All wanted (and got) breast augmentation. Each and every time I have told them "I love your body just the way it is and I don't think you need a boob job." Do you know what I was told each time? "You don't understand me…" I'm trying to tell them they are perfect just being themselves and they tell me I am "wrong." Go figure...
carhill Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 I don't think men are every happy with women just being women. JS, this is where women need to be aware and focus their attention on those men who do celebrate and appreciate femininity as the joy it is. Eliminate those "others" from your universe
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 Well, women get so many mixed message about their breast size it gets over whelming. If women put men under the same preasure to have fake penises, I doubt most men would be happy about that. Lucky for men that women more often accept them for who they are then men do the same for women. We are suppose to be confident but we are told that you aren't what men really want if your breasts look like this or that. It's confusing. We are suppose to be confident in our bodies but men support fake breasts and women feeling like they are lacking and needing to get fake breasts to over compensate for a fantasy ideal that isn't reality.I don't think men are every happy with women just being women. You are absolutely right. I don't even think its about women with small boobs, I've had problems with men because of when I had very large ones and because of the shape of them. I suppose it does go both ways though, women do tend to feel that men who are "not well-endowed" are less desirable. There are penis enlargements out there though, therefore men are motivated to change their appearance. I'm not trying to stay either party is right, but it may be a double standard to say that we don't judge men, but they judge us.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Posted September 17, 2008 Do you know what I was told each time? "You don't understand me…" I'm trying to tell them they are perfect just being themselves and they tell me I am "wrong." Go figure... What they mean by "you don't understand me" is because they feel you really DON'T understand what they are feeling. You think they are perfect, they don't. I can identify with those women, my boyfriend says how much he loves my boobs, but I'm always saying how much I hate them. (I know I'm probably the only woman in the universe who doesn't want to be a C cup). My boyfriend just can't seem to understand the reason that I want to be smaller. I guess the male brain doesn't quite comprehend women's deep feelings.
tanbark813 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Women are much more critical of their own bodies and other women's bodies than men are.
carhill Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 What they mean by "you don't understand me" is because they feel you really DON'T understand what they are feeling. You think they are perfect, they don't. Yeah, and saying "Oh, you feel imperfect, it bothers you and I'm here to support you and love you" would go over real big Been there, done that...girlfriend with penis It's not our job to understand the nuances of your psyche, just as isn't yours to understand the nuances of ours. Witness women running enmasse from complex guys like myself, who do engage at all these levels. Women want "normal" and "simple"...uggh, give me vagina and beer... man happy
CaliGuy Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 What they mean by "you don't understand me" is because they feel you really DON'T understand what they are feeling. You think they are perfect, they don't. I can identify with those women, my boyfriend says how much he loves my boobs, but I'm always saying how much I hate them. (I know I'm probably the only woman in the universe who doesn't want to be a C cup). My boyfriend just can't seem to understand the reason that I want to be smaller. I guess the male brain doesn't quite comprehend women's deep feelings. I agree with Tanbark that women are much more critical of their bodies than men are. When a woman says to me "You don't understand me" after I have said "I think you are perfect the way God made you" all it tells me is that my opinion doesn't mean anything to them. And that's fine. It's their body, but it doesn't mean I don't comprehende her feelings. It means that the way she perceives herself and the way I perceive her are different. Yes, I understand that women want to LOOK proportionally correct and it's their feelings. I just think when someone loves you unconditionally, they love you just the way you are and find it hard to agree that something is "wrong" with you physically. And isn't that what we all want? To be loved unconditionally for who (and what) we are?
norajane Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Well, women get so many mixed message about their breast size it gets over whelming. We are suppose to be confident but we are told that you aren't what men really want if your breasts look like this or that. It's confusing. Everyone has their preferences, which is fine. I'm troubled when people (men and women) start to believe that breasts should look like the enhanced version (round, pointing straight out), and develop their preferences based on that artificial standard. For example, perky is the word that keeps coming up in this thread. Large or small, men seem to be ok with most sizes as long as the breasts are "perky". And anyone with natural large breasts knows that perky is not the best word to describe their teardrop shape, even if the nipple points at the ceiling. So that makes women feel bad to know that the way their natural breasts look is unappealing to a majority of men. The key is how do real men deal with the real women in their lives - the ones who accept whatever kind of boobies she has are the keepers. The guys who are wishing she had something else and they make her feel bad about it somehow, are probably not going to be a good match long term.
You'reasian Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Yep. Boob size isn't an issue with me, because regardless of her breast size I'm going to be given 'em attention
Jersey Shortie Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 If men could get fake "members" as easily as women can get enhancements that would be a multi-billion dollar business yearly in the US alone. Unfortunately (or fortunately) for men, we have no control over what we've been handed. Besides, that -- unlike augmentation -- is something that for the most part is hidden from view. The point is that most women want a man to think their breasts are gorgeous no matter what. I don't honestly believe most women want to actually feel like they need something foriegn implanted in their body to be the real kind of women men like. There is an unrealistic ideal about what 'proporitional" means in our media driven society that women feel the brunt of for not measuring up to. Concepts of perkiness and roundness are natural to like when it comes to breasts. Proportional is understandable. However, what was considered proportional back in the day without the hinderance of surgery, and what is considered proprotional with the hinderance of surgery, are two different things that you can easily see in what was considered beautiful back in the day and what is considered beautiful now. The fact that so many women feel the need that they need some kind of breast fix speaks for the unreaslitics ideals we have about what a natural woman's body is about. And I don't think I am alone in the feeling that a woman's body is much sexier than a mans if both are in good shape. Naked women > naked men any day of the week. So by default, then women should get surgery so they feel more "womanly"? Do men not women to be attracted to them and instead want women to be attracted to other women? Women are more feminine but as to who is sexier, that is objective. As for men being happy with women just being women, let me just say this. The last three women I dated all had B cups or smaller. All wanted (and got) breast augmentation. Each and every time I have told them "I love your body just the way it is and I don't think you need a boob job." Do you know what I was told each time? From my own personal experience. It's hard to take a man seriously that says that he enjoys yoru body the way it is but still buys into the media stereotypes he is fed and supports them by oggling, purchases or spending time advocating such thigns. Women are much more critical of their own bodies and other women's bodies than men are. I agree that women are more crictical of their bodies in a way. But Considering what men show they like, and the limited stereotype of what makes a woman really attractive, yo ucan't blame women for feeling concerned about their level of attractivness. The sexes play off each other. And if men spend time looking at images of super-impossibly-photoshopped women, like it or not, realistically real women are going to have questions about what that means concerning their own body. Men are visual and hence the rason why we worry about are visual level to please a man. Especially when we are up against so many things that tell us we just plain arne't good enough and the men we love support these things and defend them under the guise of his visual needs.
tanbark813 Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 JS, don't turn this into a porn thread.
nopainnogain Posted September 17, 2008 Posted September 17, 2008 Each and every time I have told them "I love your body just the way it is and I don't think you need a boob job." Do you know what I was told each time? "You don't understand me…" I'm trying to tell them they are perfect just being themselves and they tell me I am "wrong." Go figure... Good riddance to them. They obviously wanted attention from other men and werent 100% into the R.
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