mixwell Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Some background info on me. I first signed up on Loveshack in 2004 when my girlfriend and I of 7 years broke up due to a LDR.. For months I did all the wrong things, calling her ever day, begging, pleading and was torn apart etc.. Just want to let you know things do get better and eventually you will get over it. Since that breakup I have had 1 other girl that I actually liked enough to be with and have broken up again. Never thought I would be here again and swore that I'd never do it again. That which didn't kill me with my 1st breakup made me stronger though and this time around I will stick to what I should've done and stick to NC and move on. Its crazy because I've only been with my current ex for 4 months but fell for her very hard for her. Since my first breakup I have dated many girls but never felt an emotional connection like I did with this girl that I loved. Besides my 1st ex she is the 2nd girl that I fell in love with.. It hurts right now and I find myself thinking about her all the time and sulking and wanting to get into the same patterns but I know better this time around. I guess what I'm trying to say is as much as it hurts we will all be better prepared should this horrible event happen again and no matter what there will be better days ahead and things will get better with time from personal experience. I'm hoping this time around that it will be easier since I wasn't with this girl for soo long but for the time being it does really hurt although its not as bad as the 1st breakup.. Keep your heads up and know you will get over it !! I honestly wouldn't wish the kind of pain we are going through on my worst enemy.. The feeling is soo horrible.. Keep your heads up everyone !! PS. Looking back its crazy how many times I've came to LS for advice with my ex back then, other girls I've dated, my current ex and advice in the dating phase we were in and now another breakup. All of the members of LS have been a huge help and when you're feeling down just know that other members on here are sharing your pain and its nice to have a supporting cast of people to guide us and comfort us. As a male I find it helps a lot since females seem to have more emotional support.. This is my way to vent and let others know my personal issue to offer advice when I'm feeling I need to talk to someone. Thank you all who have replied to all of my posts and been there to offer advice -=)
0hpenelope Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 See, when we look back on the times when we should've implemented NC and we didn't, they serve as good reminders for when the newest heartbreak scenario calls for NC and sticking with NC. I read your post on a different thread and you're right. Some people use NC for the wrong reasons. They don't realize that the ex wondering about them strongly enough to actually make an attempt at contact is merely a rare possibility fulfilled. If NC makes the ex come back, ok. Good luck! NC doesn't always make the ex come back and because there's been no contact for the dumpee, the dumpee's fine anyway. That's what they've been striving for with NC: living life without the one who left him/her behind.
nowhereman82 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Thanks for the update, sorry for the loss. But you owe it to everyone to make your second break up with the support of LS a better one!
Author mixwell Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 Thanks for the update, sorry for the loss. But you owe it to everyone to make your second break up with the support of LS a better one! I will for sure make it a better one. We are all going through shiz but time will heal things. Keep the faith and persistence everyone ! This is life and try to optimistic and treat it like a learning experience if anything else..
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