taintedlove Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 I have never had a man really like me before. When I'm attracted to someone, they always like my friend or my co worker. I'm surrounded by friends and people so accomplished, attractive and bubbly. I can't blame them for men liking them instead. I even had an argument with my best friend when the guy I really liked asked her on a date instead because she was meant to be helping me chase him. However, it wasn't her fault at all. Everyone is attracted to her everywhere she goes. I thought it might be my choice in men. I was finding the shallow, judgmental ones. So I started liking the modest, intellectual man at work. I gave him signs I liked him and I bought him food and gifts. He returned my affections for a while but then he stopped. Then, my co workers were making jokes about him and my female co worker. I found out she just broke up with her boyfriend and he is using that opportunity to chase her because he's always liked her. I was gutted. I was just a second choice all along in case he never got her. The female co worker is really pretty, outgoing and sweet. How could I have never expected it? Would I ever stand a chance? There is always people like that everywhere you go. Is a man ever going to look past everyone else and think I'm the one that he only wants to be with? That I don't to be as great and gorgeous as everyone else and he would still love me? I'm just hurt that it happened again. Thanks so much for reading and any advice would be wonderful
Isolde Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 We have a similar core problem, but I think your main issue is a self esteem one.
JoeNewbie Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 I even had an argument with my best friend when the guy I really liked asked her on a date instead because she was meant to be helping me chase him. I gave him signs I liked him and I bought him food and gifts. He returned my affections for a while but then he stopped. First of all I think a woman chasing a man makes her less attractive. I can't explain why but that's the way it is. And did you buy this other guy food and gifts? You weren't even dating! You need to give out signs that you're interested - but nothing beyond that. If the guy doesn't bite, he won't bite any further if you keep pushing. Be positive, always look your best, smile, laugh and be in a good mood. Those things can really make a woman more attractive.
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