soulseeker Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 As the title says, I gave my notice and now my boss is just being unbearable toward me. It was so bad today, that I am thinking about not going back to work tomorrow, or at least going in to get my stuff and explaining why I am done. Prior to this, I ALWAYS got praise for my work and my demeanor. I gave notice because I am moving out of state ffs, not because I am looking for other work in this city. How do I handle this? I have never been treated this way, and being cordial with her is not working. Aside from screaming at her, I dont have any idea what to do. My coworker has been there four years and said that not ONE person that has given notice has been treated in a respectful manner. She also told me that I am the best worker she has seen in that position. Advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
kchiapet95 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 I know you don't want to hear this, but the best advice I could give you is just to stick it out. You gave your notice, so there is an end in sight. Your boss is likely frustrated at losing such a good employee, and there's nothing to be done about it. If you needed a raise, they could arrange something, but since you're moving there's nothing to be done. The boss is frustrated at having to start the job search again. It's hard to find good employees. That's not your problem, just hang in there. Good luck with your move.
mopar crazy Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 A boss from a former job did that to me too. I decided to be a SAHM after my second child was born (wish I would had done it sooner). I even gave her a few months notice even though I didn't have to. She treated me like crap for those last few months. My daughter was due in May but I wanted to spend some time w/ my son b4 her arrival so I took off about 4 weeks prior to her due date. I was ready to quit. I was miserable! Anyhow, my boss kept asking me if I could work up until my baby's due date, she had college girls coming in and could take my place. I told her no, yet she asked again a few weeks later if I could stay up until my due date. Again, NO! She was pissing me off. I did stick it out even though she treated me poorly but I was really ready to walk out the door. Hope your boss lightens up on you a little. I realize she is loosing a great employee but she needs to grow up and wish you well on your new life. Not be a selfish bitch.
HokeyReligions Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 As the movie line goes "Just Smile and Wave" Be cordial, do you work, and don't burn your bridges. Be the bigger person. Speaking of bridges, did you get a letter of reference? If not, go to others in your company that can give you a reference. Don't count on her.
JamesM Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Bosses are people, too. And they (we) can take job resignations personally. I know..."it is nothing personal," but we like to think that we have the best place for employees, and everyone should want to stay for a life time. Pay should have nothing to do with it! Having been in her shoes, it is like what has been said...there is the combination of losing a good worker, finding another worker, and wondering what was done wrong so that you wanted to leave. Hang in there, You need to think of your future. Burning bridges never helps i n the future. And despite what you think, you MAY actually need this boss again, or she may somehow be connected to some job/company that you will want to work at.
Ronni_W Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Following up on what JamesM said, perhaps a last-ditch effort on your part could be to ask for a 5-minute meeting with her and explain that you can see that she is upset and disappointed with your decision (not that she has the right to that, but you're trying to make peace), and you are sorry for that. But your life has taken a different turn, and this is just something that you must do for yourself. You view her as a mentor and ally, hope you'll be lucky enough to find another boss as supportive, thoughtful, blah blah, in the future, etc. If that doesn't do it, boss got personal issues! (Rejection, abandonment-type issues.) That's got nothing to do with you. I'd also suggest to just tough it out ~ keep your word and commitment insofar as your last date of employment and giving it your best up until the last minute. Best of luck with your move...hope you have wonderful new adventures and experiences in your new city.
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