vballtay Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 someone once said that a man is not a hairy women. therefore we do not think the same. which I am a solid believer of because MAN this guy has me baffled! let me start out that this boy is a straight up player. and the attraction he had for me was definately more sexual then anything. I knew that all along so I should have started running a while ago, but ofcourse, I didnt. his near obsessive attention to me was kinda cute, so I kept talking to him. basically after spending an entire summer borderline stalking me, talking to me on the phone for hours, texting me 24/7, he brings up the idea of us in a relationship. I tried to say no the best way I could because I really didn't think I could trust him. I also asked if he wanted me just for sex and he was appalled that I would think such a thing (lol). he asked how he could show that I could trust him and I told him really only time could tell. he was very upset and a day later i felt bad and suggested we maybe wait until school starts (in about a week) and see how both of our schedules are? he happily agreed! but I guess he wasnt willing to wait because school comes around and HE tells ME we should just be friends because he really isn't interested in me anymore like he used to be. i am attractive. I have goals and morals. I don't understand how he could move on from me that fast. one day, we were even joking around, talking about my thong (he brought it up) and then making a complete 180 he's like 'don't get me wrong, I would LOVE to see your thong, but do you really think that'll make me like you more?' hello. you were just obsessed with me like 2 and a half weeks ago. what happened. so men, guys, please help. I don't even know where to begin with this one. what happened? why would he say he doesn't like me anymore?
rod_in_gtown Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 There's "hard to get" and then there's downright "demoralizing". I think you went the latter route. You guys are in college. he put himself out there and you shut him down, not once but twice. I think he just is not that interested in playing those kind of games. Why do you say he's a player?
Author vballtay Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Why do you say he's a player? because he would call me, then be like 'can you hold on a sec?' and text like 5 other chicks WHILE talking to me on the phone. you should see him around school now. every time i look he has his arms around a different girl. and he still stares quite a bit, and talks to me. so i really don't know.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Well, what do you care? I thought you weren't interested in him.
IrishCarBomb Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 He's got you hooked. Was it only phone interactions this summer?
Dirk Diggler Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Are you sure it's not you who is jealous now because his attention is going elsewhere and your enjoyment was being coy and having him give chase to no avail? You had your options to accept whatever he was offering, if not get over it and move on. There is nothing to be baffled about, he's just moved onto other options.
High Plains Drifter Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 so men, guys, please help. I don't even know where to begin with this one. what happened? why would he say he doesn't like me anymore? I wonder why it would it help if we guessed why he's not interested in you now? I figure he's found someone more interesting. I suggest that next time someone begins texting you 24/7 and you're speakin' to them for hours, that you drop the hint that you're not available before THE ENTIRE SUMMER PASSES!
daphne Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 i'm not a guy, but I can't say that the responses from the guys on teh board are a high percentage sampling. They may relate in some way to this guy. This guy's a skeezer/player/whatever. Just be glad you didn't give him what he was looking for because the end result would have been the same. And you would have felt a lot worse for giving it up to a slimeball.
fral945 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 so men, guys, please help. I don't even know where to begin with this one. what happened? why would he say he doesn't like me anymore? This is obvious to me (of course, I'm a guy). He wanted to get in your pants, so he put on his act to win you over. You didn't give in soon enough, so he decided it wasn't worth pursuing because he's just horny and looking to get laid, not looking for a girlfriend. So he is moving on to someone who will put out. What is so baffling? This is a typical college aged male. When it comes to sex, most young guys are opportunistic.
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