complication Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 -Girl ends it with me out of the blue "lost feelings", no cheating -3 weeks no contact, we spoke, I tell her I dont' want to be friends -We go out for ice cream, she looked at it as friendly -We admit to been on date(s) during our breakup ---I tell her the girl I saw I'm not interested in really compared to her ---She says she's been on a few dates, but the guy's an ******* -I buckle, see if she wants to give it another go, but I tell her if she says no then I can't be friends -She admits to being confused, was decisive on ending it but then says confused when I'm near her -She says she doesn't know what she wants ---She pulls me in and kisses me, starts to cry, smiles, and says "yes that's what I needed", then she says "no i can't, feelings aren't there" -She ultimately said no, I lose it because we make out, she says yes, then no -We calmed down, I tell her we can be friends ---She's EXTREMELY confused ---We agree to be "friends with benefits" and this weekend I'm sleeping at her place in her bed, and she's going to a little trip with me in October ---She admits to being somewhat jealous if I were to hit on another girl What the hell is going on? In my opinion, she wants the physical fun, doesn't want a relationship right now, but potentially sexing and sleeping together COULD bring her back.
High Plains Drifter Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 -Girl ends it with me out of the blue "lost feelings", no cheating -3 weeks no contact, we spoke, I tell her I dont' want to be friends -We go out for ice cream, she looked at it as friendly -We admit to been on date(s) during our breakup ---I tell her the girl I saw I'm not interested in really compared to her ---She says she's been on a few dates, but the guy's an ******* -I buckle, see if she wants to give it another go, but I tell her if she says no then I can't be friends -She admits to being confused, was decisive on ending it but then says confused when I'm near her -She says she doesn't know what she wants ---She pulls me in and kisses me, starts to cry, smiles, and says "yes that's what I needed", then she says "no i can't, feelings aren't there" -She ultimately said no, I lose it because we make out, she says yes, then no -We calmed down, I tell her we can be friends ---She's EXTREMELY confused ---We agree to be "friends with benefits" and this weekend I'm sleeping at her place in her bed, and she's going to a little trip with me in October What the hell is going on? What part of "She's Extremely Confused" do you not get? FWB....wtf are you complaining about?
Author complication Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 What part of "She's Extremely Confused" do you not get? FWB....wtf are you complaining about? Because I want a relationship with this girl, and she is confused as to what she wants (when with me I mess her up, saying she wanted the breakup but when I'm around her she's hesitant to say what she wants in either direction).
High Plains Drifter Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Because I want a relationship with this girl, and she is confused as to what she wants (when with me I mess her up, saying she wanted the breakup but when I'm around her she's hesitant to say what she wants in either direction). Meh.....take the FWB offer, and hope she'll come around to being less "Extremely Confused." Maybe you'll get lucky and she'll get pregnant.
Author complication Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Meh.....take the FWB offer, and hope she'll come around to being less "Extremely Confused." Maybe you'll get lucky and she'll get pregnant. My buddy was in a similar situation where the girl ended it for no reason, they were FWB, they got back together.
Enema Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 She's keeping you on a string as a backup until she finds someone better. You're going to be her FWB until she finds someone else. Women are monkeys... they don't let go of one branch until they have they're holding onto another.
Author complication Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 She's keeping you on a string as a backup until she finds someone better. You're going to be her FWB until she finds someone else. Women are monkeys... they don't let go of one branch until they have they're holding onto another. To be quite honest, I kind of agree with you. But, I am doing the same thing right now with her - I'm going to find new dates, etc etc. I asked her about FWB before once, and it didn't fly with her. Now, it did.
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