MaNg0s Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I have posted about my gf before but and everything I have posted has been resolved but one problem won't go away. Now my gf has met my parents but I haven't met hers mainly because they think she shouldn't be in a relationship as her other 2 bf's treated her like **** shes 19 btw. So thats why she doesn't want her parents knowing about me which is ok i guess kind of bothers me. Her brother can't know about me as he thinks the same as her parents and I understand if I had a sister I would be protective of her to. But this is where I think she is embarrased of me. She won't even put it on her facebook that shes in a relationship or in one with me as she is afraid her brother will see it. Also when her friends call her and I am there and they ask her what shes doing she will never tell them shes with me if they want her to come out and im there she will just make up an excuse why she can't go she won't say oh I can't cause I am with my bf. She never invites me out with her friends never I have invited her to see my friends with me. Its just not what I expected I thought when I got into another relationship I could hang out with her friends and she could hang out with mine but it seems like her friends just hate me they are all guys btw. I have no idea what to do I have asked to take her out to like the cinema and **** soo many times but it never works out we just end up staying in. Like i once asked to take her to the cinema she said she couldn't go cause she had no money even after I offered to pay then a day later she went to the cinema with her friends and even payed for one of their tickets. Then I asked her well we you can't go cinema 2 days in a row you will get bored we can go another time the next day when she was supposed to meet me she went to the cinema again with her friends. Everything else is going great its just this thats bothering me and it does actually kinda hurt.
CandyGirlXO Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 IMO she is not that into you.... I understand her wanting to keep this from her parents and her brother if they are overprotective, but what doesn't make any sense is why she is keeping your relationship a "secret" from her friends! That sends out a huge red flag, and MOST people wouldn't put up with it. You said most of her friends are males? Well its obvious that she must be interested in them or something because why else would she not tell them about you. How long have you two been together? If I were you I would move on and find a girl who doesn't have to keep your whole relationship a secret especially to her "friends" She is obviously doing something, or is just not into you. Sorry!
High Plains Drifter Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I don't know about her, but I'm a little "embarrassed of you" too.
dcgirl33 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Get rid of her. She may even have another. Move on. Either she is not availbale or she is ashamed of you for real.
Author MaNg0s Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 I don't know about her, but I'm a little "embarrassed of you" too. Why post if you have no advice to give ????
Author MaNg0s Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 IMO she is not that into you.... I understand her wanting to keep this from her parents and her brother if they are overprotective, but what doesn't make any sense is why she is keeping your relationship a "secret" from her friends! That sends out a huge red flag, and MOST people wouldn't put up with it. You said most of her friends are males? Well its obvious that she must be interested in them or something because why else would she not tell them about you. How long have you two been together? If I were you I would move on and find a girl who doesn't have to keep your whole relationship a secret especially to her "friends" She is obviously doing something, or is just not into you. Sorry! Apparently she has told her friends about me. She even rang me in front of one of her other friends the other day. We have been together 2 and a half months. She says she has told her friends about me but one of them keeps hitting on her. The one thing that does bother me is just not being able to hang out with her and her friends I don't want to all the time but just to meet them would be nice. It just feels like her friends hold a higher importance over me. Like tomorrow we have plans to go to a bar so she can meet my friends I asked her last week she put it in her little diary then yesterday she tells me she might have to leave early to see stay round one of her friends house this other friend is a girl they are kinda close but I did ask her to stay round mine after we went to the bar last week she agreed but as soon as someone else asks her to do something on that day she has other things to do its just frustrating and kinda hurtful.
tanbark813 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 She probably either has another bf or one of her "friends" is a guy she's interested in and wants to keep her options open.
bish Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 She won't even put it on her facebook that shes in a relationship or in one with me as she is afraid her brother will see it. More like she is afraid other guys will see it. The whole facebook/myspace thing is idiotic and is more times than not a vehicle for hook ups. She isn't afraid of her brother seeing it, be sure of that. Also when her friends call her and I am there and they ask her what shes doing she will never tell them shes with me if they want her to come out and im there she will just make up an excuse why she can't go she won't say oh I can't cause I am with my bf. She doesn't want her friends to know she is taken. That way when the do go out, they won't be saying stuff like, "but what about your boyfriend?" when she is messing around with another guy. I have no idea what to do I have asked to take her out to like the cinema and **** soo many times but it never works out we just end up staying in. Doesn't even want to be seen with you in public? My man, I think its time to dump her. Like i once asked to take her to the cinema she said she couldn't go cause she had no money even after I offered to pay then a day later she went to the cinema with her friends and even payed for one of their tickets. Yup, as I said before....dump her. Everything else is going great its just this thats bothering me and it does actually kinda hurt. How can everything else be going great when she doesn't want to be seen with you? I wonder if she has someone else on the string and doesn't want him to find out about you? Just looking for answers here. But really, makes up a lie why she can't go out with you, but goes out the next night with friends and ends up paying? Something stinks.....*sniff*...and its your girlfriend. Lose her.
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