CocoaPuffs Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Ive been dating a great guy for 3wks now. We havent slept together. On our second date he french kissed me. We went out to dinner and then to a club. Afterwards, he invited to his place and we cuddled up on his bed and fell asleep. He's a great listener and lets me vent when I have issues I need to let off my chest. We stay in contact regularly usually thru messenger. We have a very strong attraction to one another and lately he's been working long hours. I would like to spend more time with him. We have plans to go boonie stomping in the future. Sometimes I get mixed signals from him...I wonder if he's interested in seeing me as much as I wanna see him. He message me on messenger today and we talked mainly about his job and the stress. I mentioned to him that I hope I get to see him soon, he said "so do I". I asked him really does he really want to see me he said "yup". YUP?! I kinda expecting more than a yup? By the way, he is here on TDY and wants to extend his tour here. He loves it here. He is unhappily married and his wife is back in the states he says they are splitting up and if he could find a job here that pays him what he makes back in the states then he would live here. what should I do? I like this guy a lot and we are starting out as friends and we get along great. We have such a strong attraction to one another. He sometimes calls me lil names like "baby" or "mommy". lol. Your advise please!
JoeNewbie Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 You are fixating on the little details (the "yup" part) but yet missing the larger picture. The guy is married. Have fun with him, **** your brains out, but do not get attached to him until he is free.
dcgirl33 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 They are always unhappy when they are away from home. Once they are back in their wives arms, they are happy again. Don't waste your time. Yup, means i'm married but I would like "SOME" if you wan to give it to me.
ianandris Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Geez. I can't understand why people think it's okay to facilitate infidelity. He's married. That means he's off limits, even if he is unhappy. It also means that he's a cheater, and if he cheats with her, if it works out with you, he'll likely cheat on you too. Yeah, you like him. Happens. Chemistry isn't as rare as people think it is. Cut him loose, find someone new, and please respect the institution of marriage.
CandyGirlXO Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I agree with the previous posters. If you knew right away that this guy was married, then why would you expect anything out of this?? Obviously its all about the sex, so take it for what it is and have fun. If he was upfront about being married, then only you are to blame for getting your emotions involved. Just have lots and lots of sex until he leaves, but yeah I would feel bad because he does have a wifey at home. This guy is a real piece of work.
2sunny Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 denial on your side perhaps? HE'S MARRIED! and you posted in the dating forum. ???? you are not dating. he's looking for a piece of a$$ while he's in your area. this is called an affair. he just wants to know if you want to give him what he wants while he's there.
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