Unsure Marie Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I met this guy a few months ago. We really clicked the first night we met. He is funny and so easy to talk to. I thought I found someone really special, finally. We do have a little bit of distance between us (100 miles). So we spent a lot of time on the phone, texting, and emails. In the beggining we would spend about two hours a day talking. And we would try and spend as many weekends together as we could. A few weeks ago we broke up. Our communication had slowed down and he seemed to busy for me. He didn't seem to have any more going on then he did when we first met. So I brought it to his attention. He told me everything was fine but I pressed the issue. Then he confessed that things didn't seem the same anymore. He also said the distance was bothering him because we both were very busy. So I spent the next couple of days crying and feeling sorry for myself. Then he started to send me emails. And I didn't really respond. I was pretty short. Then he started calling. And we talked a couple of times and he finally told me he missed me like crazy and was having a hard time not having me in his life and I told him I felt the same way. At this point I am assuming we are back together. So we make plans to spend the upcoming weekend together. He seemed really excited about it. As it gets closer he tells me he is going to his parents lake cabin for the weekend. I didn't get upset but my feelings were hurt. And after he told me that, I didn't hear from him for four days. So I sent him a text telling him I thought we worked things out and felt like a complete idiot because I fell for this. He sent me a text back and said he didn't know what the hell I was talking about and he was lost. That was the last I heard from him. That was two nights ago. I feel even worse now then I did the first time. I really don't get guys. Anybody got any advice or know what happened.
JoeNewbie Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I think the best thing you can do at this point is to withdraw and let the guy figure out his stuff. If he comes back begging, fine - if not, let him go. New relationships are very fragile and you must ensure you guard is up at all times.
gummybear Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 The same exact thing happened with me (you can read my threads) except I was on your ex bf's side. He probably does miss you like crazy but he doesn't want to be with you mainly because of the distance. He wants to get over you and find someone closer. Your best bet is to move on. A month ago I broke up with my guy because I didn't want long distance and a few days later I emailed him telling him I missed him. He got confused and thought we'd get back together so he started to pursue me again. When I saw that I was stringing him along, I told him that while I missed him, I don't think we'd be back together and I prefer to be friends. We have since stopped talking. I do still miss him and I'm still trying to get over him but I don't want him back.
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