rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Genuinely. She seems like a lot of fun. Ok, then go through your phone records and get the number again. Give her a call and ask her. "what day are you available? I want to take you to (insert restaurant or coffee house here)" Don't ask her "Are you busy such and such day?" ask her to give you her first available day. I call it positive inquisition, she can't just say "oh I'm busy that day" she either has to give you a day or tell you "I don't know". if she says "I don't know" then forget her and don't give her the time of day anymore. Be decisive when you ask her. ask her like you know she wants you to ask. It's all about confidence... you're the man, she'll dig that.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Ok, then go through your phone records and get the number again. Give her a call and ask her. "what day are you available? I want to take you to (insert restaurant or coffee house here)" Don't ask her "Are you busy such and such day?" ask her to give you her first available day. I call it positive inquisition, she can't just say "oh I'm busy that day" she either has to give you a day or tell you "I don't know". if she says "I don't know" then forget her and don't give her the time of day anymore. Be decisive when you ask her. ask her like you know she wants you to ask. It's all about confidence... you're the man, she'll dig that. Well I left the ball in her court, plus I don't want to be too pushy at this point ya know? Plus, I'd rather not give her an incentive to get food just to deal with me for < 2 hours. I mean, I did say the first time I wanted lunch on Friday, she couldn't, then I asked her about tonight, and same. Sooo...
2sunny Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 pffffft! passive aggressive at the highest level.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Well I left the ball in her court, plus I don't want to be too pushy at this point ya know? I don't think she'll call. Girls are very particular like that. You're not being pushy. If she says no and you keep at it, THEN you're being pushy. but she hasn't said no because you haven't asked her. If you're going to pussyfoot through life about girls, might as well get a cat and call it a day dude. I'd rather not give her an incentive to get food just to deal with me for < 2 hours. What the hell does that even mean? You don't think you're worth her spending time with you and think the meal is a bribe? Seriously man. if you're "genuinely" interested, then get off your ass and do something about it. otherwise move on. That's my advice
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 pffffft! passive aggressive at the highest level. So you think i should call her and ask her tonight even though I asked earlier and left it in her court? That'd be pushy, I thikn.
carhill Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Be pushy, or more precisely, be decisive. Also, in the meantime, when you encounter another interesting girl you'd like to go out with, ask her. That's how you have "plans"
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Be pushy, or more precisely, be decisive. Also, in the meantime, when you encounter another interesting girl you'd like to go out with, ask her. That's how you have "plans" I did. I got her number, we agreed to do lunch. I then called her Tuesday and asked her for Friday. She said she would be away, and did not offer another free day. In passing, she noticed and talked to me and said my name and smiled, so it's clear interest, and when I asked if she was free tonight she also said she would be at a practice then studying. I don't think I'm being passive aggressive, I tried making plans twice and she was busy. I then asked about next week, she said "M+T i'm busy", so she left the rest of the days open, but didn't ask about them. I then said , in essence, "f it...if you're interested, you call me now to show me".
2sunny Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 blah blah blah - and then... I then said , in essence, "f it...if you're interested, you call me now to show me". leave it to her then - maybe she'll call - and maybe she won't... fyi - gals like it when you make firm plans to see them... as in since you're free after tuesday - let's see that movie on thursday. maybe get ice cream after... get the idea? i think you missed your window of opportunity. we'll see...
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 [/b] leave it to her then - maybe she'll call - and maybe she won't... fyi - gals like it when you make firm plans to see them... as in since you're free after tuesday - let's see that movie on thursday. maybe get ice cream after... get the idea? i think you missed your window of opportunity. we'll see... i'll text her tonight, even though that may be pushy.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 i'll text her tonight, even though that may be pushy. Don't text her. If you're going to do it, don't half-ass it. Call her and do it right.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Don't text her. If you're going to do it, don't half-ass it. Call her and do it right. So even though I asked twice (for Friday and toinght, she was busy both) and she never gave me a day when she's free AND i left it up to her to call me if she's interested, I should call her tonight?
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 [/b] leave it to her then - maybe she'll call - and maybe she won't... fyi - gals like it when you make firm plans to see them... as in since you're free after tuesday - let's see that movie on thursday. maybe get ice cream after... get the idea? i think you missed your window of opportunity. we'll see... Bro I asked her for LUNCH on FRIDAY. She would be away, then she didn't offer a better day.
carhill Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Ask someone else out. If/when she sees you with another lady, your value goes up. But, then, perhaps, you'll have found someone more receptive and responsive and she'll be SOL
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Ask someone else out. If/when she sees you with another lady, your value goes up. But, then, perhaps, you'll have found someone more receptive and responsive and she'll be SOL She's responsive of me, but seems a little hard with to make plans (b/c she's busy). I think she wants me to nail a day that would work for both of us.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 So even though I asked twice (for Friday and toinght, she was busy both) and she never gave me a day when she's free AND i left it up to her to call me if she's interested, I should call her tonight? Asking someone what they're doing is not actively asking them out. It's passively asking for plans and it doesn't count as asking someone on a date. As far as she's concerned you have yet to ask her out. whether you want to admit it or not. Call her, and ask her for an available day, not that "what are you doing" bs.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Asking someone what they're doing is not actively asking them out. It's passively asking for plans and it doesn't count as asking someone on a date. As far as she's concerned you have yet to ask her out. whether you want to admit it or not. Call her, and ask her for an available day, not that "what are you doing" bs. I did ask her. I left a message asking for lunch on Friday, she said via a text (supposedly at a birthday) she couldn't because she would be flying home. Then again, I did say 'all good" and didn't ask for a follow upl
2sunny Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Bro I asked her for LUNCH on FRIDAY. She would be away, then she didn't offer a better day. i'm no bro honey! think female i agree with rod... you haven't been SPECIFIC enough in your asking. find out her available day and then ask...before you call (yes, you should) make a list of options for an outing you can work off of in case she says yes. concerts - sporting events - movies - dinner places, etc...
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Called her. I said "hey, I know you said you're busy mon + tues, but i wanted to see what day would work best for you to either get dessert or lunch." she said she would text me back with a day that was good for her because her schedule is tight and didn't nkow off the top of her head, but she said prob lunch. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO next, OR now I seem desperate. Stupid move imo.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I think you did well. NOW the ball is in her court. She seems lame IMO, if she doesn't call it wouldn't be a big loss.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 I think you did well. NOW the ball is in her court. She seems lame IMO, if she doesn't call it wouldn't be a big loss. I can see how you think that, her business (imo) wasn't a direct lie because she started to list why she'd be busy. She said she'll text me back...TEXT though? Thanks though!
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I can see how you think that, her business (imo) wasn't a direct lie because she started to list why she'd be busy. She said she'll text me back...TEXT though? Thanks though! Exactly why I think she's lame.
carhill Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Ask someone else out Eventually, you'll hear me
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Exactly why I think she's lame. Yep. Sounds like she's not going to be available. But, if she is disinterested, why did she approach me today and say hey and talk and ****?
nopainnogain Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 why did she approach me today and say hey and talk and ****? because she can. She knows your whipped. Your her ego boost.
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