complication Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 I was standing on my dorm balcony. A chick in high heels, a dress, and done up was walking towards me, and I asked her, "Mind if I ask you something? Do you know of any parties going on tonight?". In retrospect, it seems like a slightly "loserish" question to ask. In short, she replied, and I was being playful with her, ex: "Do you wear those nice heels to seem taller?" and she giggled, I asked to guess, but she misheard me and she said "yeah I'm 5"4"...whoops haha, you were going ot guess, sorry". We got into like a 5 to 10 minute conversation, she spoke I'd say 85% of the time, responding to my questions and comments. During the whole time she was smiling, giggling here and there, but she wasn't maintaining direct eye contact, she would look away while smiling most of the time and glance back at me every maybe 20 seconds. Other than that, I asked her her name, she gave it to me in a very girly handshake, and then she asked mine. At the end, I said "well I've gotta get back to my buddies, mind if I grab your number?" She said "nope, I'll be right here" so I got my phone from my room, she gave me it, and before she gave it she asked if I remembered her name again (which I did , but what's this about?). She gave it to me, I dailed her number, she added my name and number to her phone. And I said "I enjoyed our conversation, would you want to continue it over lunch or dinner?" and she said "i don't care" and I said "choose" she said "okay lunch". And I said "np i'll call you sometime" and she said "okay yeah give me a call sometime" and we said bye.
Author complication Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 Most definitely yes. Congrats Only thing that I may have messed up on is that the people she went out with that night, one of them I was talking to in front of her. The guy knows I was trying to get with this sluttyish girl (dating though), and it didn't work out. And then when she walked past me in a little group, I didn't acknowledge her just the one guy. Hopefully this doesn't kill. Do you believe in the whole "wait 2 days then call" rule?
Jilly Bean Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 You asked her if she wanted to get together and she said she didn't care. I don't see how this was encouraging. Was she drinking before you chatted? It just sounds like one of those random encounters.
Author complication Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 You asked her if she wanted to get together and she said she didn't care. I don't see how this was encouraging. Was she drinking before you chatted? It just sounds like one of those random encounters. No not that she didn't care about getting together, I asked her for lunch or dinner, she didn't care about which one to do, and then I said "lol cmon choose" and she said lunch. Not that she didn't care about meeting up, she even said "yeah give me a call sometime".
Green Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 I know its nice to think a girl likes you but really who cares if she likes you... how do you feel about her? she sounds hot from her limited 5'4 high heels you felt the need to hit on her description. Personaly I'd continue with the party thing and make your first date with her at a party you find... find a party and tell her she needs to get out there and then make her drink the perfect ammount and bam u got her
Author complication Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 I know its nice to think a girl likes you but really who cares if she likes you... how do you feel about her? she sounds hot from her limited 5'4 high heels you felt the need to hit on her description. Personaly I'd continue with the party thing and make your first date with her at a party you find... find a party and tell her she needs to get out there and then make her drink the perfect ammount and bam u got her Nah the party thing is not what I wanna do, alhtough I can ask her to my buddy's apartment to chill and drink some and then randomly leave and go get some food and blah blah.
Green Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 bump. bump did u lose it? Ur buddies place? are you out of ur mind u havn't even made this solid yet, unless your budy has gf who will be there and its just a hang out thing u don't want to bring your buddies around her. Its like asking for a bad situation. Drinks are the key, unless you have some other great way of having fun. Now go get her I have my own was she into me scenarios I need to think about. And oh yeah... keep up the good work, don't stop approaching women because you may be on some type of wave so ride it
Author complication Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 did u lose it? Ur buddies place? are you out of ur mind u havn't even made this solid yet, unless your budy has gf who will be there and its just a hang out thing u don't want to bring your buddies around her. Its like asking for a bad situation. Drinks are the key, unless you have some other great way of having fun. Now go get her I have my own was she into me scenarios I need to think about. And oh yeah... keep up the good work, don't stop approaching women because you may be on some type of wave so ride it Your post makes no sense.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Update... So I gave her a call, left a message. She texted me back saying that she was at a friend's birthday party, and that she wouldn't be able to do anything this weekend since she was going home for the weekend. I replied back with, "all good." and deleted her number. Flash forward 2 days from calling her and 5 days from meeting her, I was walking and I randomly heard "hey complication!" twice. I didn't know who it was coming from, and realized she was passing me. She smiled, clearly remembered my name, and we began talking. I said, "sorry didn't recognize you" and she said "haha can't you see my freckles now?" ( a reference to talking about her freckles when we met). Long story short, I asked her what she was up to tonight, and she said she would have practice from 8 to 10 PM and then was studying after. I then asked her if next week would be better, she said monday and tesuday she'd be busy. I said "ok i just don't nokw if you're playin me disinterested" and she giggled and said no. I then said, "alright well i gotta run to a career fair, if you're interested sometime give me a call" and she said "alright yeah i have your number" and I said "btw, nice hat" and she said thanks. So, the ball is in her court. Think she'll call? I tihnk...yes...but I've never let a girl call me. -She remembered my name -Went out of her way and said hi even though I didn't notice her -She brought up the freckles which we spoke about when we first met
Dirk Diggler Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Update... So I gave her a call, left a message. She texted me back saying that she was at a friend's birthday party, and that she wouldn't be able to do anything this weekend since she was going home for the weekend. I replied back with, "all good." and deleted her number. Flash forward 2 days from calling her and 5 days from meeting her, I was walking and I randomly heard "hey complication!" twice. I didn't know who it was coming from, and realized she was passing me. She smiled, clearly remembered my name, and we began talking. I said, "sorry didn't recognize you" and she said "haha can't you see my freckles now?" ( a reference to talking about her freckles when we met). Long story short, I asked her what she was up to tonight, and she said she would have practice from 8 to 10 PM and then was studying after. I then asked her if next week would be better, she said monday and tesuday she'd be busy. I said "ok i just don't nokw if you're playin me disinterested" and she giggled and said no. I then said, "alright well i gotta run to a career fair, if you're interested sometime give me a call" and she said "alright yeah i have your number" and I said "btw, nice hat" and she said thanks. So, the ball is in her court. Think she'll call? I tihnk...yes...but I've never let a girl call me. -She remembered my name -Went out of her way and said hi even though I didn't notice her -She brought up the freckles which we spoke about when we first met Plain and simple if a chick is interested, she looks to make time in her schedule and let you know of that because she wants to prioritize the date ASAP. Not keep telling you about how it's all filled in and wont work over and over again. Those are just excuses on her part, as *i can't* really means *i don't want to*. You did right in trashing her number, don't let her play you like a yo-yo just to feed her ego. Take a step back examine the scenario better and you'll see that's the only thing that came from that encounter with her.
2sunny Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 yah she was into you and you are missing opportunities to make a firm day and time work! you should have just said mon and tues you're busy? so let's do wednesday... how about dinner out at 6? just give her a firm date and an idea of where you're going and she'll go. do NOT take her to a buddy's place! that sends the wrong message (as in i want to do you and also - i don't want to make an effort to spend money on you). go to dinner, an outing, event or movie. anything but staying in. and it was childish to delete her in such a furry! what was that nonsense about? now look what you did to yourself. learn from this - or acknowledge anger issues and work on them.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 yah she was into you and you are missing opportunities to make a firm day and time work! you should have just said mon and tues you're busy? so let's do wednesday... how about dinner out at 6? just give her a firm date and an idea of where you're going and she'll go. do NOT take her to a buddy's place! that sends the wrong message (as in i want to do you and also - i don't want to make an effort to spend money on you). go to dinner, an outing, event or movie. anything but staying in. and it was childish to delete her in such a furry! what was that nonsense about? now look what you did to yourself. learn from this - or acknowledge anger issues and work on them. Well remember I did ask twice to take her out. She's busy, but never offered another day. She could have said, "well I'm free wed". Too late now to text her, and too far in advance for next Wednesday. I mean I tried twice, if she calls I'll know she's legit. Heck, I showed initative, she can call to set sometihng up.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 She sounds like a flake... but then again so do you (no offense but you seem like you hardly try). She seems to go out of her way to tell you how unavailable she is without offering an availability. I don't think she'll call. Don't hold your breath.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 She sounds like a flake... but then again so do you (no offense but you seem like you hardly try). I don't think she'll call. Don't hold your breath. Uhm, I called and directly asked for a day. It didn't work for her. Then I asked about tonight, didn't work. Other signs all point to being interested though.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 That was fast. I edited my response.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Got the edit, thanks. I agree, well...she's saying when she's not avilable, but she could have said 'well how about wed?". At this point though I'd like for her to show direct interest, so I offered her the chance to call me. But she is legitimately busy....can't blame.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 So which would best describe your level of interest? 1) Are you genuinely interested in this girl, or 2) she's just kind of cute and you wouldn't mind hitting it
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 So which would best describe your level of interest? 1) Are you genuinely interested in this girl, or 2) she's just kind of cute and you wouldn't mind hitting it Genuinely. She seems like a lot of fun.
The Collector Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I'd rate her interest on the first encounter a 5/10 (not bad) and the second 6/10.
Author complication Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 I'd rate her interest on the first encounter a 5/10 (not bad) and the second 6/10. appreciate the rating system!
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