rod_in_gtown Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Wow... what a hangover... Ok so yesterday I went to my friend's wedding (alone, which I think was a good idea, thanks everyone for this ). And I met 2 single women. Both older than me, one is about 36, and the other... well I'm not really sure but 34-35 is my best guess. The wedding lasted about 6 hours with reception, dinner, ceremony and all and it was an open bar so most of us were pretty drunk by the time dinner rolled around. Laura (34-35?) was sitting at the table next to mine, and we started flirting back and forth pretty early in the evening. exchancing glances and air-toasts every now and then. about an hour later, the dinner was over and the music started - and we were all pretty drunk -. She made a bee-line for my table and sat next to me and started talking to me (a little aggresive but what the heck). We talked a bit and it was like pulling teeth with her. She's in the military and she also rows, which definitely makes me feel like she could beat the crap out of me. After a couple of minutes of small talk I ask her if she wants to dance, and we hit the dance floor. We're all over each other I'm trying to keep the dance a little on the PG side with little success. She disappears a couple of times only to come back and flirt some more. At the end of the party, I go give my best wishes to the couple and their parents and go look for Laura, I find her next to her ver wasted friend who appears to be flirting with me as well (they're all rowers) and we all decide to go to a bar nearby. She goes off with some of her buddies and I end up cabbing with some of her teammates. This is where Jen comes in. I met Jen when we get to the bar. She was also at the wedding and we're all sitting around chatting and getting to know one another. Laura is taking forever so I assume she's gone home and get a conversation going with jen. I reallize at this point that I would actually like to date this woman. (another rower), we talk for a long time and eventually Laura gets there. She hugs me from behind and kisses my neck and goes off to the bar. Jen says "Laura is sweet on you" my response is asoft chuckle while I say "I know". But I continue talking to Jen and eventually Laura and her friends take off. so it's just me, and another couple, we talk some more little flirting and at the end of the night we're all getting ready to leave and I ask her if she would like to go out some-time. Her response was something like "Oh! yes, let's do that". and proceeds to fish for a business card in her purse, I hand her my phone and ask her to put her number there. (I wasn't sure what her name was, and did not want to ask and risk sounding like one of those guys) So she puts her name and number in and we say our good byes and leave it at that. Now. What I'm contending with is the fact that they all know each other and I was blatantly flirting with Laura all night until I met Jen. They're all in the same team together so my guess is that they're all pretty close knit, and they will talk... Have I pretty much signed a death sentence by going in this circle of rowers? PS, Jen is also taller than me in heels. but is oh-so-sexy with her high heels and short-short hair.
jen's mind Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 A bunch of hot, Amazonian women with muscles and high heels could be rather intimidating, if you were looking to date them all. It sounds like you made a good connection with Jen and you should pursue it without worries about the rest of the her crew. I'm sure they're not all joined at the hip; they were out together because of the wedding. What death sentence?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 A bunch of hot, Amazonian women with muscles and high heels could be rather intimidating, if you were looking to date them all. It sounds like you made a good connection with Jen and you should pursue it without worries about the rest of the her crew. I'm sure they're not all joined at the hip; they were out together because of the wedding. What death sentence? Oh no. Not date them all but I have hear from my friend that they do spend a considerable amount of time together. I'm just being paranoid. Everyone seemed to know each other so I was a bit of an outsider. PS. That's just too funny that your username happens to be "jen's mind" methinks you're messing with my head.
Potatocakes Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Shouldnt be a problem you were just flirting.. and intoxicated. You didnt set out any plans with laura like you did Jen and if she does get upset about it you can just push it off on the booze.
Trimmer Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 ... and eventually Laura and her friends take off. I would think if she (Laura) had any "claim" to you, she would have tried to make some kind of connection before she left. If she left without doing that, then she's on to other things and so are you, no hard feelings. (Or maybe you did have some "hard" feelings? )
sunshinegirl Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Well, no doubt they will talk to each other. I personally would see you as kind of a cad. Fair or not, I would think 'wow, this is a guy that was hitting on everything that moved.' But not everyone thinks like me so who knows.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Well, no doubt they will talk to each other. I personally would see you as kind of a cad. Fair or not, I would think 'wow, this is a guy that was hitting on everything that moved.' But not everyone thinks like me so who knows. I wasn't hitting on anything that moves. Laura came over to me. And after the wedding I just chatted with Jen. We weren't doing anything outlandish or sexual. I just happened to get Jen's number. I wasn't collecting numbers left and right.
sunshinegirl Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I wasn't hitting on anything that moves. Laura came over to me. And after the wedding I just chatted with Jen. We weren't doing anything outlandish or sexual. I just happened to get Jen's number. I wasn't collecting numbers left and right. Errr, by your own description a lot of flirtatious behavior was going on between you and Laura, enough so that she kissed your neck once you were talking to Jen. Once they trade notes on what happened with you (flirt flirt flirt with one woman and then ask another woman out), you just can't control what conclusions they may form of you, fair or unfair. Like I said, not everyone thinks like me, but I personally wouldn't be very impressed. I also have a penchant for exaggeration.
Trimmer Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Errr, by your own description a lot of flirtatious behavior was going on between you and Laura, enough so that she kissed your neck once you were talking to Jen. Once they trade notes on what happened with you (flirt flirt flirt with one woman and then ask another woman out), you just can't control what conclusions they may form of you, fair or unfair. Like I said, not everyone thinks like me, but I personally wouldn't be very impressed. I also have a penchant for exaggeration. C'mon - it's a wedding... What else are singles supposed to do at a wedding? If you were making a connection with Jen, and after talking with Laura, she forms a negative opinion of you that overrides her own direct impressions, then it's probably better for you if she takes herself out of the game anyway, wouldn't you say?
flc Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Well, I don't think you will be able to manage to date both of them without a problem but pick who you liked the most and go for it. Sounds like the wedding was fun.
Legend Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 didn't happen to be in NYC did it? i'm hung over from a wedding as well
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 FLC: Oh no, I guess my concern was hurting my chances with Jen by having flirted with Laura. But I am interested in Jen. Legend: This was in DC. But it's good to hear that good times were had all over the country
Legend Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 FLC: Oh no, I guess my concern was hurting my chances with Jen by having flirted with Laura. But I am interested in Jen. Legend: This was in DC. But it's good to hear that good times were had all over the country indeed good to hear, i'm a wreck today hah
jen's mind Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 That's just too funny that your username happens to be "jen's mind" methinks you're messing with my head. In Jen's mind, you did not present yourself as a 'cad'... it was Laura's behavior with you that was noticeable and which Jen commented upon. It wasn't yours. Methinks you should go for it.
Dirk Diggler Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Pretty smooth! An entire team of rowers, women used to working and training in that momentum so frequently make for good...dates Good luck with that!
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 In Jen's mind, you did not present yourself as a 'cad'... it was Laura's behavior with you that was noticeable and which Jen commented upon. It wasn't yours. Methinks you should go for it. I'm calling her tomorrow. I'm actually excited about this girl.
D-Lish Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 I def think the best way to find out is to call Jen. You have nothing to lose. If Laura left without even saying good-bye... then you have nothing to worry about. So, yeah- give her a call.
Shygirl15 Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 You're surely keeping yourself busy Rod lol, good for you. I'm all for Jen!
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 Ok, so I got a hold of my friend who just got married and said "she's very particular with men... it's a huge step that she gave you her number" so I'm excited and a little intimidated. But it's all good
Legend Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 Call Jen. All my NYC ladies stop talking to me after each night of seeing them, I just don't get it.... DC girls must be nicer.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 NYC dating is BRUTAL. I don't envy you brother.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 Call Jen. I will how did the dinner go with you?
Legend Posted September 16, 2008 Posted September 16, 2008 ya me either, I'm glad I live in LA, it's a lot less brutal here.... /end sarcasm ;p I've found DC women to be pretty friendly.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 16, 2008 Author Posted September 16, 2008 ya me either, I'm glad I live in LA, it's a lot less brutal here.... /end sarcasm ;p I've found DC women to be pretty friendly. The thing about DC women is that most of them aren't actually from here but rather from everywhere else in the US. People here aren't that warm anyway. I hear CA is much nicer (NOT LA, but everywhere else). I'm going to SF in november for the first time in my life. which should be really nice.
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