sparks85 Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Hey, I posted for the first time yesterday and I got a really encouraging response from Megapositive! I went to sleep feeling better about things and for the first time, I felt like I had let things go!!!! At 4.21am this morning, I was woken by my phone ringing, and while I deleted my exes number from my phone a month ago when I went no contact, I recognised it was him. I didn't answer the phone...20 mins later it rang again and once again I didn't answer. He then sent me a text message saying 'I miss you so much. I just wanted to hear your voice. Hope your doing good x'. I mean basically it's the same old story, he was obviously drunk out of his mind...if he really meant what he said, he would contact me at a decent hour. I guess what I wanted to say is that I have waited for this moment for the last month and a half...I wanted to hear that he was missing me the way I have been missing him all this time!!! I had imagined all the things I would say to him should he ever contact me again and now this moment has come and gone and somehow I feel stronger, I feel like I deserve to be treated better by a man and I have hope for a happy future. I'm sure plently more dark days will follow where I find myself missing him terribly but I guess with every day that passes, you do get that little bit stronger!!!!
0hpenelope Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 It's even better to see that you recognize that attempt at contact for what it is. A drunken phone call doesn't substantiate sincerity. You're absolutely right. If he misses you as he says he does, then he would have called you at a better hour. Really? A drunken phone call? Good for you, sparks!
used2bspunky Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Oh good for you Sparks! I am wishing my ex would contact me as well - for that same reason.. to be able to exhibit that strength and walk away on my own accord. THAT is empowering and well.. puts you in the driver's seat to move forward in your life, with dignity and strength. Good for you!
D-Lish Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I had an ex that repeatedly made drunk texts/calls and would just turn up at my place at 3 am all misty eyed, begging for reconciliation. I let him back into my life briefly- and he went back to his old aloof self pretty soon afterward. Sometimes you just have to recognize that a relationship can't work. I am glad you didn't pick up or respond. If he wants to make contact, it should be at a decent hour, and it should be done when he is sober.
megapositive Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Nice Sparks! His making the mistake of drunken 4:21 am calls/text helped you out in two ways... let you know that you are indeed on his mind and he's missing you, and gave you that little push toward truly realizing you deserve so much more than that. You have options, you have power, you are in control and you choose not to take his offering of crumbs! Yippee!
Author sparks85 Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Thank-you all for your responses - it mean's so much to hear back from other people!!! I actually do feel better things and I am slowly moving on with my life!!! Yea I miss him but I just live in hope that a better relationship is waiting out there for me - one where I will feel loved and cherished and not be made to feel like I'm an embarrasment or something/one that needs to be hidden!!! D-Lish, I went through the exact same thing with him all last summer...he would always send me drunken texts declaring how much he cared about me and on one occasion, he actually turned up outside myself begging for one more chance!!!! As you said, he soon went back to his old ways so I have learnt (perhaps the hard way) not to fall into that trap again!!!!
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