New To This Site !! VERY LONG POST

[davidjor]

Ok, All this is going to be a long background post since me and my EX has quite a history (Not long, but kinda crazy). Well let me start by telling everyone I moved to the country of Panama to start a business there about 2 1/2 years ago. I meet a wonderful (what I thought was wonderful) Panamanian women it will be 2 years in December. Well she was married to another American and was separated and waiting on her divorce to be final when I meet her. They were separated for 6 months when I meet her. They were together for 7 years and have a 4 1/2 year old son.

 

Ok, now here we go from Dec 2006 - November 2007 things were absolutely amazing. I have dated other girls for longer, however none that i really wanted to marry. (I am 39, married my HS sweetheart and have been divorced for 12 years) This girl and i were talking about getting married and i actually thought she was my soul mate.

 

During our relationship we were together every day, the sex was amazing and we explored allot of things together for example we had 3 somes with other girls several times. remember, we discussed this before hand and both agreed it would only be for physical part of sex and that our relationship was strong enough to endure anything. (So I thought) Anyway, the crazy things went on for a few months. Now this is where things start going down hill.

 

One night she went out with her cousin and her and i was going to meet up later that night, i called her and knew where she was and couple hours and she did not answer, so i went there when i got there i seen her talking to a guy in the distance and i went to the bathroom when i came out she seen me and the guy left. She immediately confessed to me she kissed this guy (which she said was a stranger). I was EXTREMELY upset and wanted to break up with her right then and she cried for two days, saying how sorry she was bla bla bla. Then she said, well i only kissed him and i seen you fcking other women (which is true, but we agreed and i never did that without her)

 

Now there were the below issues i look back now and see but, i was blinded by love and didn't see the issues as follows:

 

1. She went back to the us December 2007 to take her son to see his father for christmas. She went to Florida, and I was in florida visiting my family so I recommended she drop her son and come spend some days with me and my family around christmas. Well she did not come to see me, which was very frustrating for me since it was a holiday. So again, i said i did not want to see her (she went on, please don't leave me i need you bla bla bla) I ended up staying.

 

2. After her trip to Florida and spending 9 days with her EX I believe he was telling her **** to try to get her back. She was emotionally WAY DIFFERENT TO ME after this trip, she never told me she loves me or how she felt. By the way she did not get me anything for christmas, nothing not even a card. Which really hurt my feelings.

 

3. Another issue, i could never seem to tell her no. When we would go out, we would end up at the casino she would get drunk and not know when to stop gambling until we were broke, we literally spent 500-700 per night 4 nights per week. It was CRAZY !!

 

4. Then once she was drunk, we would go home and she would be so drunk go to bathroom and throw up. Then go to bed, and pass out. Wake up the next day and bitch that we were broke. WE HAVE GOTTEN INTO COUNTLESS FIGHTS OVER THIS

 

5. She is an absolutely beautiful girl, however the hotter the girl the lower her self esteem seems to be. She would love to get attention from guys, to the point where she was flirting with them. I would bring it to her attention, she would deny it.

 

6. Now, i had to move back to the states and offered to bring her here with me and change our life style, a new start a fresh place. She declined saying she wanted to finish her college.

 

7. Now recently, i was diagnosed with Bladder cancer when i told her, she was not sympathetic and was not very supportive. Even as a friend. The day before my operation NO CALL, NOTHING to wish me luck. So right before I went into surgery i seen her on IM and went off on her telling her never to contact me again. Well, two days after my surgery she is blowing up my phone, calling me like 8 times until I finally answered. My Surgery went well by the way, and they were able to remove all the cancer !! THANK GOD !!

 

8. She recently tells me her ex husband is dating someone else and that makes her jealous, i told her she needs to do one of two things a) get back together with her ex husband or b) get over him and move on with her life before she rips somebody else's heart out.

 

9. So last night I am talking to her on IM and ask her what she is doing last night and she says she is going out. For some reason, that pissed me off and I told her i did not want to talk to her, be her friend NOTHING !! Then, I logged out of messenger.

 

BEEN 1 DAY NC, seems like we get to three and she contacts me and i finally give in and either answer the phone or the IM, or E-Mail.

 

So, the screwed up part is I still want to make it work with her. Still long for her and still think about all the good times we had.

 

So how many, guys would put up with the above for a BEAUTIFUL Panamanian women..

 

THOUGHTS... DAVID

[davidjor]

I cant believe, nobody has an opinion or comment about this.

[jimmymat87]

She sounds like a bit of a nutter to me... i dunno all girls are crazy but... Just on the part about the 3somes... this is a bad idea its good while its happening but u'll be hearing about it and have it thrown in your face for the rest of ur relationship...