dcgirl33 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I would love to not work and be a stay at home mother. If I could position myself around men with the means to make this possible I would. There's nothing wrong witht that. My mother was a Registered Nurse and my father a window washer. She gave up her profession and stayed at home with 5 kids while my father supported the family. My mother returned to work only after my fathers death. Was she a gold digger? If you think so, she must not have been a very smart one. Sometimes, it's about family values and who we want raising our kids.
vonerik012 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 The typical, traditional stay at home mom is FAR from a gold digger. A gold digger is the type who NEEDS lavish vacations, expensive clothes/jewelry, wants to eat at expensive restaurants, and has to live in a huge home to impress her friends. She expects this, and expects not to work.
dcgirl33 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I don't see a woman who wants to marry, be a wife, be taken care of, have kids, etc....as a golddigger. However, I do think that in today's world and the economy...women should not make this their grand plan in life. When I watch the Showtime series "Weeds", I see Nancy Botwin and Celia Hodes as women who married into a life, not built their lives. They wanted to be taken care of, so they married men who ended up making great money, but in Nancy's case, when her husband died, she was SOL because she had no job skills. I don't think women all over can become pot dealers like Nancy did, but it shows that you can't just graduate high school and hope someone will marry and take care of you. You might wake up either widowed, divorced, have kids, or even never married and now have to figure out "what am I going to do now?" I tell women who want to marry and be "Mrs Someone" to go to college, get some kind of basic trade skills in case things don't happen. That same logic I preach of "Plan your life as if you never find anyone". Just so you have a backup plan. I also tell women who want to marry to stop thinking "I'm too young, I want to be single for a while and live it up." Marrying men don't want a burned out party girl who's been passed around the frat house and now wants some nice guy to help her avoid responsibility. They want the good wife who's there with them and loves them. You can't spend your 20s "living it up" and then hope someone will be there waiting around age 27-29. Seen too many instances where that didn't happen. Not saying you should marry out of high school, but maybe in college...seek out the husband possibility as opposed to the "fun for now" guys. That is so true. You should actively seek a mate while you are in college. I didn't and I regret it everyday.
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