Jazzy56 Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Last nite my boyfriend broke up with me. Almost every saturday, we would do something fun, it was our day of the week. So now I sit hear alone, thinking about him and what he is doing. We had been dating a couple of years, and we started to become a routine and bored with each other. Sometimes I think it is better we have gone our separate ways, but other times I feel like how will I find someone I truly love again. I guess its a shame that everything we have shared in lives is lost now. Just really bummed, and clearing my mind right now. Thanks for listening. Jasmine
Mitch_N_Fez Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Don't worry sweetheart, there's someone out there for everyone. I've always thought that things happen for a reason. Probably for the best. Where you from anyways? Near Chicago I hope!
Author Jazzy56 Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 My boyfriend broke up with me on Friday. We had a good relation, but he said we are having fun, but does not see me as the one mostly because of my parents and how overbearing they are. So, I get a text message about 30 minutes ago asking how the weekend was. I didnt respond. He sent another, just wondering how I am. I feel hurt, and want to hurt him as well I guess, and am thinking about sending a text back, lose my number. But I also have a lot of feelings for him. If I say that, he will probably lose my number. He was a nice guy. My parents actually didnt get along with him for certain reasons, and there were a lot of clashes. I feel my parents are overbearing, and its not their business, and he is frustrated by them.
D-Lish Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 It's good you are not responding to his texts. I certainly wouldn't respond if I were in your shoes. If he's truly committed to getting you back- he should make more effeot than just a text or two- he should call and seek you out. Your silence WILL have an impact- just remember how it feels when you are ignored.... it will drive him just as crazy. So don't cave on texting him back. He needs to know how it feels to miss you. He can't miss you if he knows he can still get a hold of you. Cutting off contact will give him time to think about the decision- and it will give you time too.
used2bspunky Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Your silence WILL have an impact- just remember how it feels when you are ignored.... it will drive him just as crazy. Oh, i must agree here. I think about how nutty I used to get when he didn't respond to my messages.. I went after him even more. Jasmine you are right to not respond to text messages.. "pick up the damn phone!' I'd say.. Be strong.
D-Lish Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Silence drives people crazy. He's going to start seeing this as rejection... It's going to make him wonder what you are doing, who you are with... and he'll question if he's made a mistake. So, whatever you do, hold strong on the no contact. He breok up with you- so let him sweat it out. I'd also have a talk with your parents and how they interfere. Do you live at home?
Author Jazzy56 Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Silence drives people crazy. He's going to start seeing this as rejection... It's going to make him wonder what you are doing, who you are with... and he'll question if he's made a mistake. So, whatever you do, hold strong on the no contact. He breok up with you- so let him sweat it out. I'd also have a talk with your parents and how they interfere. Do you live at home? Yeah, I am totally sweating it out. My parents want me to date a black man, but he is white. They are pretty traditional, I think I should only be with someone who is black. They will say this in his presense. About a week ago at my mothers 60th birthday, my mother made the comment in front of everyone that marrying a black man was the best thing she could have done. This is what drives him crazy, he does not want to be around my parents at all. I can see why, but I still love my parents no matter what. I do not live at home, but live about 3 blocks from my family, and they are a support block in my life. I have told my parents he is a good guy, and that race should not matter. They can not look past it. I feel with or without him in my life, its a lot of drama. I am trying to figure out if I should move away from my family and take roots somewhere else or continue with this crap. I am torn in so many directions.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I am sorry to hear that the race issue is so important to your family and they make it hard on you, and that it played a role in your breakup. I just broke up with my boyfriend on Friday, because I wasn't happy with him and knew he wasn't the guy for me. So I'm right there with you, feeling blah. But I know I'll be OK. I think you will, too. Hang in there!!
HopeDiesLast Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Silence drives people crazy. He's going to start seeing this as rejection... It's going to make him wonder what you are doing, who you are with... and he'll question if he's made a mistake. So, whatever you do, hold strong on the no contact. He breok up with you- so let him sweat it out. I'd also have a talk with your parents and how they interfere. Do you live at home? do you think its possible for him to question things 3 months down the line? i finally cut my ex off 2 weeks ago and told him to get lost. i decided i didnt want to be seen as the broken girl and more a self-respecting ex who knows i deserve better than his crumbs. i wonder- does he even question his decision?
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