Patience08 Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I've been reading for awhile, but this is the first time I post. Enlighten me! Are there any success stories that view or that you have heard of that make it with there MM after a long term affiar?
Lizzie60 Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I was in my first A with my first ex for 11 years.. prior to our common-law relationship of 18 years (29 yrs total).. Most of my As do last for years..
Author Patience08 Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 Wow. I did read that on one of your posts. You're not with him any longer...right? I've been in this about 9 years and I have truly at the end of my road. I was just wondering if any of them finally get the balls to leave? I thought often mine would, but, obviously I was wrong.
Lizzie60 Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Wow. I did read that on one of your posts. You're not with him any longer...right? I've been in this about 9 years and I have truly at the end of my road. I was just wondering if any of them finally get the balls to leave? I thought often mine would, but, obviously I was wrong. Hum... which one? I think you've read about my last 'date' he is single.. I dumped him.. but he called back.. we only exchanged a few messages since the 'break-up"
Author Patience08 Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 After your 11 year affair, you were with him for 18 more years? Did I read his wife thru him out ,and that was the start of you next 18 years with him? I wish I had gotten away from this mess a long time ago. I screwed up an extremely good relationship with a free man, thinking this bone head would leave after his next election. Gots to keep that public image! What a crock of Shii!
OWoman Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 I've been reading for awhile, but this is the first time I post. Enlighten me! Are there any success stories that view or that you have heard of that make it with there MM after a long term affiar? My MM and I were together a while - can't remember exactly how long, he's the one that keeps track of these things - before we decided we wanted to be together full-time, and he left his W. My father stayed in his M until all the kids were out the house, then he left for his OW. I'm not sure how many years that was, but they've been together ever since, a real happy-ever-after story. Some leave, some don't. MM's mother left her H for her OM after a few years; MM's father was OM to a MW who is still M to her H because of reputational concerns. There are many factors involved.
torranceshipman Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Patience-after the election? Dang it, I really want to know who this guy is now! 9 yrs, hell of a long time...typical lying politician!!
OWoman Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 Patience-after the election? Dang it, I really want to know who this guy is now! 9 yrs, hell of a long time...typical lying politician!! It's Hillary Clinton
Author Patience08 Posted September 14, 2008 Author Posted September 14, 2008 No sense trying to guess.....we have many states here. I'm straight, so rest assured it is not the Hill , she's not my type ! Thanks for your input. I'm tired of the whole thing so I truly think and feel I'll be letting go. There's no question I will probably always love him, but I am tired of being alone. I'm just glad I didn't waist any of my child bearing years in this mess. My children are grown and I definately didn't and don't want any more. It obviously worked for me for many year but, I think I'm at the end of my road. There is quite a bit of contact because we work in the same field. I'm starting to look for another job. I've read you know when you have had enough and I think for the first time I FEEL I'm there. I hate to say time will tell.
GreenEyedLady Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I've been reading for awhile, but this is the first time I post. Enlighten me! Are there any success stories that view or that you have heard of that make it with there MM after a long term affiar? I don't know that I like the term "success story." But my fiancee ended his M. We have been together now almost 4 years. We're totally "making it." Planning our wedding now for next summer. I see lots of reasons why it doesn't happen in all cases. I think what matters is how he treats you, why his M isn't working and if he realizes what he has really done. I can say that the man I love truly gets what he has done and he has truly changed as a person. Sometimes M's just aren't meant to work out. It is a lofty goal for those to say you should end the M first, one I support, but in reality, most don't leave until they've experienced what they don't have in M, outside of it. Success story, I don't like the term. We love each other, put each other first and are committed to one another and our families. If that's not the definition of success, I don't know what is.
goldfish24 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 its been about a year. minus the few weeks here and there when either one of us has decided to be "good". but neither one of us will ever leave our SOs. at least not for each other.
Author Patience08 Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Well GreenEL, That does sound like success to me. Best to you. I know it's not the correct word, considering there is often much pain and sadness involved. But, he's with you now and things are going well. I guess I just wish I had the opportunity to have a normal relationship with him. I don't know what normal is anymore.
TogetherForever Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 Mine is a success story!! Welcome to LS Patience08!!!!! TF
Lizzie60 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 After your 11 year affair, you were with him for 18 more years? Did I read his wife thru him out ,and that was the start of you next 18 years with him? I wish I had gotten away from this mess a long time ago. I screwed up an extremely good relationship with a free man, thinking this bone head would leave after his next election. Gots to keep that public image! What a crock of Shii! Yes I was with him 18 years after she threw him out.. I was young.. way too young.. and I patiently waited for my turn.. then I left him... some guys never leave.. they wait to be dumped.. otherwise they just stick with whoever they are.. I guess they are OK wherever they are comfortable..
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