First date with someone you don't know at all OR first date with a friend

[Futureshop]

I find first dates with someone you don't know at all can be fairly random and there is no meaning behind it other than just getting to know each other.

 

However I think a first date with someone you know pretty well, who you can consider a friend or almost, has more depth and meaning to it.

 

If someone you knew pretty well asked you out on a date, would it be more meaningful if you accepted, knowing the implications it might have on the dynamic?

[JoeNewbie]

Yes I think there is more at stake when it's a friend. The challenge with a "friend" is to make sure that they know it is a date indeed.

 

As for strangers, depends where you meet them. If it's online dating, who cares. If it's a co-worker, then yes they'd be prudent who they go out with in case it doesn't work out.

[paddington bear]

I agree with JN...how do you know it's a date when it's with a friend?

 

But of course it will have more meaning with someone you know already, you've got past all that getting to know you stuff and you both know that you are there to see 'what else is going to happen'.

 

First dates with new people are filled with the usual job interview type questions, where are you from, what do you do, what music do you like...but really good first dates bypass all of that and get into that lovely mode where you both get super excited about the same subjects and seem to bond instantly.

 

Look at it this way a first date with someone you don't know could lead to a third date with someone who you now do know, and so therefore you are technically dating a friend by then anyway!

[Futureshop]

I agree with JN...how do you know it's a date when it's with a friend?

 

Okay but assume she knows it's a date... I was just wondering whether a "yes" with an "almost friend" was more meaningful in terms of her interest level.