Myzterio Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Did anyone ever encounter this situation? Does your EX contact you on your birthday in any sort of way?
Rooster_DAR Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Yep, she send me a b-day card two weeks before my b-day and said she loved and missed me tremendously. Be careful, I fell for it and went back to patch things up and she wound up cheating with other guy again, and the lies never stopped. Good luck,
CherishG Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 this is what truly scares me. My birthday is less than a month coming up and I honestly, at this stage of my broken heart, I do NOT think I can handle it. What if he calls? What if he DOESN'T call? I won't lie to u, I'd be crushed if he forgot or didn't bother to call, considering he NEVER forgot before. anyone else have input? I really would like to know.
Author Myzterio Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 Very sorry to hear that rooster, you deserve ****ing better! My Bday is in about three weeks Cherish so I'm in the same situaton !
northstar1 Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 this is what truly scares me. My birthday is less than a month coming up and I honestly, at this stage of my broken heart, I do NOT think I can handle it. What if he calls? What if he DOESN'T call? I won't lie to u, I'd be crushed if he forgot or didn't bother to call, considering he NEVER forgot before. anyone else have input? I really would like to know. It's really a catch 22. You want them to acknowledge it, so you know they still care enough to do that, and haven't completely forgotten you. But if you do get a call/card from them, and they wish you well like they would a friend, it might just be a painful reminder of the fact they aren't with you anymore.
megapositive Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I'm on the other side of the fence... my cheating ex's bday is coming up in a little over a month. I have no idea what I'll do. Right now I'm in anger and revenge mode, obviously, because I have fantasies of not acknowledging it at all, which will bruise his very large ego because he knows I make a big deal out of bdays and such, or I could acknowlege it on the completely wrong date and pretend I forgot the actual date-- two weeks late or early or something. That would be rude and as I'm writing this I realize what a B I'm being, so I guess I'll do nothing. I'm sure by then I'll be in a different place emotionally -- hopefully not caring at all about it one way or the other. How embarrassing to admit to having such thoughts! And what a waste of time, he doesn't deserve the energy I spend thinking them...
Rooster_DAR Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Very sorry to hear that rooster, you deserve ****ing better! My Bday is in about three weeks Cherish so I'm in the same situaton ! Yeah, my advice would be very cautious and prepare for some BS. Don't get your hopes to high, and make your demands clear if she is leaning toward a reconciliation. Good luck,
Red_Apple Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Yeah...the only reason an ex does that is to get in touch with you because they want to get back together (that's what I found in my experience(s) anyway).
me007 Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Hey Cherish and Myzterio, my b-day is coming up in a few weeks also. Are we all Libra babies? I am hoping he remembers my b-day, would be nice that he hasn't completely forgotten and still cares. But I think even if he does remember he probably won't do anything because he doesn't want to give me that idea there is any hope of us getting back together...which I would probably think if he sent a card or anything
Author Myzterio Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 Libra babies ya . I'm not sure from a women's point of view because you women tend to HOLD GRUDGES! and never forget about them. Honestly, I dont really care if she calls or not(deep down inside, i know im just lying to myself), just wanted to see some past experience's with you fellow LS members =) and some advice. 5 Months NC in October.
Beyond Eternity Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 My situation's a bit tricky... My ex and I are going to try reconciling this coming Monday (she went off for a week, and has tried messaging me but I decided being NC would be better). We went out for a year. Last year my birthday, she was with me for ten minutes, then went off and lived did her own things for the night. No gift, no happiness for me, and she didn't even say 'happy birthday' until I cracked some joke about being the birthday boy. However, this was very very early on in our relationship, within the first weeks really. This made me feel terrible... I didn't show it though. I just said to myself that it's still early and I shouldn't have such high expectations. Her birthday rolled around months later and I did it all for her, gifts, spent the day with her, talked about the most intimate and deep things, sung to her (and I'm very insecure about that) and stayed up on the phone with her until she fell asleep. Well my birthday's coming in two weeks and wherever the reconciling goes from there, we'll see. I don't know how much she'll show/give if we do get back together, and if she'll care at all if we don't get back together. I have so much hope that we'll be back together... but I don't know, I can't be sure about anything. Like Rooster, my ex cheated on me, but I forgave her for it and she'd done nothing of the sort for more than half a year afterwards. I can't help but wonder if she's with any guy now... it just pains me to think about. I can't lie I've had these strange thoughts about just finding a girl temporary, I think it's just these urges to go for a rebound but I'm fighting them knowing I can't do that or I'll risk the success of reconciling with my ex. Edit: Libra here hehe, if I'd been born a day sooner I'd be a Virgo though, close call for me.
Ingenue Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 My ex contacted me on my birthday by wishing me a happy birthday via email. He had dumped me about 20 days prior to my birthday (also by email) and signed his happy birthday email "lovingly ex's name". I didn't even bother to respond to that email or the email prior to that, nor did I bother to wish him a happy birthday for his birthday roughly 15 days after mine. The only email he received from me was about a week later stating that I was going No contact with him and taking time for myself Frankly, receiving a birthday greeting isn't all that it's cut out to be, especially in my situation. I thought it was an extremely selfish thing to do on his part given that he had just dumped me shortly before my birthday. What was the point of wishing me a happy birthday and what was the point of signing it with "lovingly". I can only think he was trying to assuage his own sense of guilt over the rather cowardly way of breaking up with me by pretending that everything was "friendly" between us. Myzterio, if your ex contacts you on your birthday, do be careful with what your ex's intentions are. Good luck
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