Author 2hurt2liv Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 I stayed the night last night in the new place I am goinf to move into. I came home yesterday evening and my BF well ex I guess he is now was home in bed so I laid down and went to sleep I woke up and he was gone. Him and I were supposed to go to this club last night that we had plans to for a month. I knew when I seen he was gone and was out on the Harley that when he came home I would have been very confontational with him so I called this new roommate guy and asked if I could stay there last night he had no problems with it and so I did. I worked a double shift today and I came back to my Ex's place to get some things and him and I talked. He has the money and I will be moving out Tues I cant do it before then because I work another double shift tommorrow. We talked about a few things and I agreed with him that this was for the best he is actually going to let me use his truck on Tues to move he offered to help me but I said no I could do it alone. I still hurt IM still scared and I am still angry but I am actually getting a little excited about all this. The new place has a pool and and a gym so I can work on getting a few extra pounds I have gained and that will make feel better me. I really appreciate all the advice on here and the kind words and just because now I feel good that doesnt mean I will tomorrow.
Author 2hurt2liv Posted September 15, 2008 Author Posted September 15, 2008 Oh and when I move out Tues there will be no contact. Right now I am using his guilt for treating me this way to get the things I need to be able to get out and move on.
RMan3 Posted September 15, 2008 Posted September 15, 2008 I have been there. My ex after 15 years of marrage said she didn't love me anymore, took my two girls & left me for her boss at work. I thought I would die. There were no signs, well that I saw, no chance, just gone. But I've been happily remarried now for over 23 years, My had a 6 year old girl & I adopted her & have always had a close relationship with all 3 girls. I'm telling you this because even though you feel you will never be ok, you will be ok. I tried to get her to stay & come back, then realised, if she truley doesn't love me, I don't want her. I would not want someone to stay with me if they didn't love me. That could never be good. I understand your hurt, anger, anxiety & other scary thoughts. You will be ok. Trust me, you will be ok. I hate to know you have to go through this & it will not be over in a day. It will take some time, but you will be happy again & It's likely the right person will come along for you & someday you will be thankful you got away from someone that treated you badly. Not having contact is good. It will be hard not to call or visit & try again to change his mind. But he told you he didn't have the same feelings for you & if he did, he couldn't bare to see you go. I don't like saying that, but please remember you are a valuable person & there are many who care. I don't know you & I guess the others writting don't either, but we still care about you. You are valuable to us.
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