Just to change the subject around here:

[TogetherForever]

23 % percent of married couples sleep alone, a study finds

 

Experts say requests for two master bedrooms in new homes are growing

 

Psychologist warns sleeping apart could spell trouble

 

Wife says sleeping apart makes her appreciate husband more

 

TF

[Owl]

My oldest sister and her H have done this for years.

 

I know that she loves...he's hated it the whole time.

 

I'm also pretty convinced he's cheated on her periodically for years as well, for this very reason.

 

Sleeping with someone creates physical intimacy...regardless if you make love. The snuggling, closeness, etc...

 

I'd think doing without it would be more harmful than helpful.

 

Then again...I snore like a banshee. My wife might not agree! :D

[stampdaddy]

and how does a Banshee snore??

 

The banshee , from the Irish bean sí ("woman of the síde" or "woman of the fairy mounds") is a female spirit in Irish mythology, usually seen as an omen of death and a messenger from the Otherworld. Her Scottish counterpart is the bean shìth (also spelled bean-shìdh).

[Owl]

OK...I should have specified..."snore like a banshee wails!".

 

Sheesh...somedays ya just can please anyone! :D :D

[stampdaddy]

OK...I should have specified..."snore like a banshee wails!".

 

Sheesh...somedays ya just can please anyone! :D :D

OK then, but you may wanna get that checked out.....

[OWoman]

Sleeping with someone creates physical intimacy...regardless if you make love. The snuggling, closeness, etc...

 

I'd think doing without it would be more harmful than helpful.

 

Agreed. Which was why I used to kick my MMs out after they'd done their bit, and send them off into the cold. I didn't want that kind of intimacy.

 

It's also why I so enjoy sleeping with MM - even now that we're together full-time. I have a horrible habit of snuggling up really close in my sleep - I've been known to snuggle MM right out of the bed, so he has to get in the other side. But oddly, he enjoys that. Odd, because we've both been used to sleeping alone for years. You'd think we'd appreciate some space.

 

The kids were watching some sitcom about this on the TV the other day, where the couple spent some nights sleeping apart and got some sleep for a change... and then later decided it wasn't worth it and started sleeping together again. Followed by some pretty direct questions to MM about how he found sleeping with someone after having his own bed for so long...

 

Then again...I snore like a banshee. My wife might not agree! :D

 

Does she wear those earplugs you use on the plane? Actually, Owl, there's a small operation that can cure that (no, not THAT small operation - it's one that shaves your tonsils with a laser) or you can try sleeping on your side on one of those funny pillows.

 

But even so, she may not have issues. When I had pneumonia last year, I went to sleep in another room because I was worried I was keeping MM awake. But that freaked him out so much he came to find me and carried me back up the stairs. The closeness is worth more than the sleep.

[Owl]

Actually, I was joking about the snoring. I do snore, and she does lovingly give me a rough time about it, but its not really an issue. She'd MUCH rather have me there and snuggle than not!

[Terminator]

Sleeping arrangments of married couples are an issue for an OW/OM forum?

 

Am I missing something here?

[OWoman]

Sleeping arrangments of married couples are an issue for an OW/OM forum?

 

Am I missing something here?

 

It's been the subject of much heated debate on this forum before. "Don't believe MM when he says they sleep apart, unless you've been in the bedroom with him"...

[OpenBook]

It's been the subject of much heated debate on this forum before. "Don't believe MM when he says they sleep apart, unless you've been in the bedroom with him"...

 

So, to take that a step further... If 23% of all MM are sleeping apart from their W's... and 50+% of all MM's are cheating on their W's... then, approximately half of the cheating MM's would be actually telling the truth to the OW about not sleeping with their W's?

 

Of course, there's no measurement of how many of the 23% are in the cheating category as well.

[OWoman]

So, to take that a step further... If 23% of all MM are sleeping apart from their W's... and 50+% of all MM's are cheating on their W's... then, approximately half of the cheating MM's would be actually telling the truth to the OW about not sleeping with their W's?

 

Insofar as statistics are accurate, there's a 63% chance you're correct

 

Of course, there's no measurement of how many of the 23% are in the cheating category as well.

 

Well, if one assumes Owl's opinion to be accurate (which intuitively makes sense) that a loss of intimacy - brought by sleeping together - is likely to render couples vulnerable to "cheating", then probably the overlaps of the two categories are fairly high.

 

Of course, some Ws could prefer sleeping alone because the Hs can't get it up / aren't interested / aren't worth the effort for 30 seconds of action and those Hs may not be getting any anywhere else, while the Ws may well be...

[jj33]

My experience bears out the statistics as well. We always spent the night together when we saw each other and the intimacy of sleeping in same bed snuggled together was very important to MM. If he had that at home, it wouldnt have been so important to him.

[Agent_99]

Well MW and her P don't sleep apart, but they do have different schedules. I remember when I met MW we talked about snuggling and how neither of us (her and I) are snugglers. But every time we have ever spent the night together we have snuggled all night.

 

It is interesting that it's been the past few years the MW relationship has become more unbearable for her, and it's also been that long that their schedules have been different.

 

~99

[Lucky_One]

It's to snuggle when you get a rare night together.