Whey2Big4u Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 so i have written many posts over tha lst year in refference to my break up. This is the month when it all happend and its alottle hard but im making it. Thank god for work keeping me busy. Well I have been really missing my ex and reflecting on the last year and our past relatioship I have changed ALOT and things are going well for me. I would really love to at least be in some sorta contact with her again, but i know that its a large chance it will never happen. I want to write her an email............and I KNOW......not to do it this month. Figure if i can get past this month NC then I can go further. But maybe down the road, maybe a few months after I can write her an email. Shes not the type to start contact, especially when she knows shes wrong. WEll anyway. I was thinking of writting her an email just to let her know that the dog is ok and is doing fine, along with a pic of the dog. I figure that to write about myself and ask about her is tooooo much for either of us to handle at first. I thought that the dog would be an easy way into starting to talk again if at all. I expect no response back, but to get a response back would be a good sign...would it not? i also realized that neither of us are seriously seeing anyone, and that all the girls I meet would never do half the things my ex did. Im going to leave my state soon and would like someone to come with me. My ex woulda picked up and left in an heart beat for me, no other gilr is willing to. Not that i expect them to. I justed wanted some input on what others think. thanx
BCCA Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 As long as you can honestly send the email with no expectations, and without any hope of a civil response, then go for it. But dont talk yourself into it thinking you wont care what she says if youre not really ready for that. You just never know. Even if she responds, she might be doing so thinking enough time has passed since the breakup that youre ready for a friendship. I dont know you personally, but if youre anything like me, you're not looking for a friendship only from this girl. The bit about the dog is good, because its not invasive and seems really innocent. I think she would be more inclined to respond to that than a "how are you" email. But again, be prepared for a "thats good, thanks for letting me know" response. If you can live with whatever happens, go for it.
Author Whey2Big4u Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 yeah........we were engaged and together for six years. I dont know if I can jsut handle a thanks for letting me know response lol....never crossed my mind. I figured it would be a no response or a desent response.........lol. that ones a killer
Author Whey2Big4u Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 and thats the other thing, as much as i want her again....if ew did start talking it would just have to be as frineds. My life is going so well and i dont wanna **** it up witha relationsahip. I am at the beginneing of an amazing future. with my job i travel alot and couldnt give her what she was looking for anyway...emotionally If she is willing to wait, her future finacially would be set with me lmao, but i know thats not what makes a relationship
BCCA Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 and thats the other thing, as much as i want her again....if ew did start talking it would just have to be as frineds. My life is going so well and i dont wanna **** it up witha relationsahip. I am at the beginneing of an amazing future. with my job i travel alot and couldnt give her what she was looking for anyway...emotionally If she is willing to wait, her future finacially would be set with me lmao, but i know thats not what makes a relationship You don't want her coming to you for financial reasons. If it was me, as hard as it is, I wouldn't even bother trying to send her anything. You just never know what you're going to get back from her. You're doing well for yourself, don't worry about anything else. Someday you'll find someone else.
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