Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 So yesterday I was text-chatting with a guy I met while out with friends last weekend. He asked if he could call me after work. I told him I had an event to attend, but that I'd be done around 9. He then told me that he'd call me at 10. He didn't call. Big whop. This morning, I get a text from him that reads: "I enjoyed everything about last night and want to see you again very badly." Clearly intended for someone else. I write back letting him know he sent the message to the wrong person, and on starts the long explanation process. He says he was out on a first date to a concert and that's why he didn't call, that it was last minute, that he hadn't been on a great first date in a long time, that he was surprised it went so well, that he had a really great time, explained what they did, etc., and then when I responded with: "Sounds like you had a good time. Take care.", he got upset at the thought that I wouldn't want to go out with him now as a result of this. While I realize that people are going to be dating others until they reach the point of exclusivity (obviously, I do this!)...do I need to know about how much he's enjoying himself out on other dates? I know I likely wouldn't have even found out about the date at all if he hadn't made that blunder, but still? I mean, he made it clear in his text to her and his explanations to me that he's STOKED about that date/girl. Why bother going out with me then? It's not like he just had a great time on one date one day and then followed up with another date with me on another day. He had a great time with someone and TOLD ME about it (first accidentally, and then intentionally in detail!). He says he still wants to take me out. I told him he's got two strikes against him. (1) I'm not a fan of being told how into someone else a guy is. I realize I'll have competition (as he does as well), but it's supposed to be expected yet discrete!! Also, (2) knowing he had a date, he said he'd call and didn't. Regardless of the reason why, that makes him flaky. Now he's BEGGING to take me to dinner. LOL I don't know if I should... We're not exactly off to a great start!! Ahhh...the dangers of texting while multi-dating!!!
carhill Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Perhaps it's all cr@p... In any event, strike three is neigh.
serial muse Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 So yesterday I was text-chatting with a guy I met while out with friends last weekend. He asked if he could call me after work. I told him I had an event to attend, but that I'd be done around 9. He then told me that he'd call me at 10. He didn't call. Big whop. This morning, I get a text from him that reads: "I enjoyed everything about last night and want to see you again very badly." Clearly intended for someone else. I write back letting him know he sent the message to the wrong person, and on starts the long explanation process. He says he was out on a first date to a concert and that's why he didn't call, that it was last minute, that he hadn't been on a great first date in a long time, that he was surprised it went so well, that he had a really great time, explained what they did, etc., and then when I responded with: "Sounds like you had a good time. Take care.", he got upset at the thought that I wouldn't want to go out with him now as a result of this. While I realize that people are going to be dating others until they reach the point of exclusivity (obviously, I do this!)...do I need to know about how much he's enjoying himself out on other dates? I know I likely wouldn't have even found out about the date at all if he hadn't made that blunder, but still? I mean, he made it clear in his text to her and his explanations to me that he's STOKED about that date/girl. Why bother going out with me then? It's not like he just had a great time on one date one day and then followed up with another date with me on another day. He had a great time with someone and TOLD ME about it (first accidentally, and then intentionally in detail!). He says he still wants to take me out. I told him he's got two strikes against him. (1) I'm not a fan of being told how into someone else a guy is. I realize I'll have competition (as he does as well), but it's supposed to be expected yet discrete!! Also, (2) knowing he had a date, he said he'd call and didn't. Regardless of the reason why, that makes him flaky. Now he's BEGGING to take me to dinner. LOL I don't know if I should... We're not exactly off to a great start!! Ahhh...the dangers of texting while multi-dating!!! He must be so embarrassed. How much do you like him? I agree that he has every right to date other people, but I also agree that aside from the moron move of texting the wrong person in the first place, it was doubly moronic to then go on and on about how much he enjoyed his date with someone else! Smooth, dude.
flc Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I feel for the guy but he should of just said he was sorry and asked if you still wanted to see him. Trying so hard to come up with a good recovery story always just digs yourself deeper into the hole.
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Talk about a major dating faux pas. I can't believe he would still be pursuing you, particularly considering the hard-sell text to someone else. Run, SG, run!
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 LMAO!! what a marooon!! I'm all about second chances (and third chances are a character flaw of mine but we won't go there). I say give him another shot, but don't be surprised if he blows it.
Trimmer Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I agree with the general consensus here. Major faux pas on his part, compounded in the attempted recovery. I agree that "regardless of the reason why, it makes him flaky," but did you ask him why, if he is so stoked about this other girl, he still wants to go out with you? I think I would just be interested to hear his explanation. Is he a playa, who can't bear the thought that someone else would release him first?
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 I'm still laughing... I feel bad for him. AWKWARD!
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 I agree with the general consensus here. Major faux pas on his part, compounded in the attempted recovery. I agree that "regardless of the reason why, it makes him flaky," but did you ask him why, if he is so stoked about this other girl, he still wants to go out with you? I think I would just be interested to hear his explanation. I didn't ask, but he volunteered... which dug himself an even bigger hole! He said he had a good time with her so he'd like to have a good second date with HER "before getting into the next round of first-date casualities." Uh...I'm apparently the next first-date, so I'm a casualty? I asked just that, and he immediately called. He was sent to VM.
2sunny Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 i'd step aside and allow him to explore this new gal that he's excited about. no use trying to compete when his feelings are with someone else.
Trimmer Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 i'd step aside... Yeah, he's so damn clumsy that you'd better step aside, so you don't catch an elbow in the eye or something...
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 i'd step aside and allow him to explore this new gal that he's excited about. no use trying to compete when his feelings are with someone else. That's exactly what I'm thinking.
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Yeah, he's so damn clumsy that you'd better step aside, so you don't catch an elbow in the eye or something... Perfect!
flc Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I didn't ask, but he volunteered... which dug himself an even bigger hole! He said he had a good time with her so he'd like to have a good second date with HER "before getting into the next round of first-date casualities." Uh...I'm apparently the next first-date, so I'm a casualty? I asked just that, and he immediately called. He was sent to VM. Wow, I doubt he would make it to a second date anyway. You can have some fun playing with him though
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Yeah, he's so damn clumsy that you'd better step aside, so you don't catch an elbow in the eye or something... :lmao::lmao: I couldn't help but cackle in my office as I read this!! I actually got the height-dumper in the nose with my elbow the other day as I tried to get my arm behind her. I never thought of myself as clumsy but THAT was both funny and horrifying. This happened while we were having the "break-up" talk. I wanted to die and slip between the cracks of the pavement.
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 :lmao::lmao: I couldn't help but cackle in my office as I read this!! I actually got the height-dumper in the nose with my elbow the other day as I tried to get my arm behind her. I never thought of myself as clumsy but THAT was both funny and horrifying. This happened while we were having the "break-up" talk. I wanted to die and slip between the cracks of the pavement. :lmao: You poor thing!
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 :lmao: You poor thing! I had completely forgotten about it! It's one of those things that are Hilarious when you look back, but not so much as they're happening
Trimmer Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 :lmao::lmao: I actually got the height-dumper in the nose with my elbow the other day as I tried to get my arm behind her. I never thought of myself as clumsy but THAT was both funny and horrifying. This happened while we were having the "break-up" talk. Wow, during a break-up talk, you were still trying to get your arm around her? You got game, dude! (Or were you trying to position your hand behind her, and your leg in front of her so you could trip her at an opportune moment? Maybe I misunderstood...)
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 Okay, okay... enough about Rod. Do I accept the dinner invite, or not? Might be entertaining to see how hard he works to get into my good graces. On the other hand, knowing how much he enjoyed himself on his date last night, what if I start to like him? Hmm...
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Wow, during a break-up talk, you were still trying to get your arm around her? You got game, dude! (Or were you trying to position your hand behind her, and your leg in front of her so you could trip her at an opportune moment? Maybe I misunderstood...) Hahahaha! I did eventually, she's very forgiving. I've come to the realization that she really likes me. She just doesn't want to date me. I'm over her anyway. She's fun though.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Okay, okay... enough about Rod. Do I accept the dinner invite, or not? Might be entertaining to see how hard he works to get into my good graces. On the other hand, knowing how much he enjoyed himself on his date last night, what if I start to like him? Hmm... Sorry about that SG, I tend to be an attention whore sometimes. I say go to dinner and see if he can gracefully get on your good side. Aside from the blunder maybe he's a great guy. We all make mistakes. And you can give him a hard time about the other woman as well. And trust me, You're so much better than her that he'll forget about her once she sees how cool you are. OTOH, what if he starts to like you and you decide to get serious with dave? You're both playing the same game here
Author Star Gazer Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 Sorry about that SG, I tend to be an attention whore sometimes. I say go to dinner and see if he can gracefully get on your good side. Aside from the blunder maybe he's a great guy. We all make mistakes. And you can give him a hard time about the other woman as well. And trust me, You're so much better than her that he'll forget about her once she sees how cool you are. OTOH, what if he starts to like you and you decide to get serious with dave? You're both playing the same game here This guy is a dating klutz! But I'm amused, so why the heck not? And of course I'm better! As for getting serious with Dave? Unlikely. I'm much more interested in the best-date-ever guy, but our schedules are causing us quite a problem. Grr.
CaliGuy Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Yet another reason why I loathe text messaging. Too impersonal and very easy to screw up when multi-dating.
Jilly Bean Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I'm much more interested in the best-date-ever guy Star - why are you interested in a guy who has already told you that you are back burner material while he is out romancing his number one choice - the woman that he shared great detail with about what a great time they had and how into her he is? Personally, I would have wished him well and moved on from that...
rod_in_gtown Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 This guy is a dating klutz! But I'm amused, so why the heck not? And of course I'm better! As for getting serious with Dave? Unlikely. I'm much more interested in the best-date-ever guy, but our schedules are causing us quite a problem. Grr. Sorry, got your dates mixed up, I thought Dave was the best-date-ever/butterflies guy. That's the guy I meant.
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