engravefeelthevoid Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 do u guys know any movies like that ??? fight club is a good one...got more ??????????
endlesstrains Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I wouldn't take dating advice from fight club unless you want to bag a chick like Marla...
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 well can I atleast take the alpha male part from the movie ????
ed-205 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I highly recommend "Hitch", starring Will Smith. Most other movies focusing on "Alpha Male" types are Chick Flicks, IMHO.
endlesstrains Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 All these theories and catch words won't get you anywhere... just be yourself. Even if you can get girls while acting like someone else, they'll figure out sooner or later that it's not you... do you want to put on an act forever?
Chinook Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Um, if I knew a guy I was dating was using films as a means of copying behaviour, I'd be outta there quicker than a flick of an eyelid. As endless says, just be yourself... try to keep some semblance of control of the initial early moments in the relationship. Don't try to be something you're not, it isn't sustainable over the long term. Me...? I work people out... the way I do that is by giving them time. Time to get to know me and time for me to get to know them. Pretty much within the first 3-4 weeks, I know whether someone is going to be included in my inner circle (friends and relationships). I just sit back and let them be who they are... usually it works out that I judged well, occasionally it doesn't. That's when the tough part comes in letting that person go. If you're not being yourself, your girl will work it out in the end. A lot of relationships fail because people cry 'he/she changed so much' and that's because of the lovely picture we paint at the beginning... giving a false impression. Some people are so good at this that they don't even recognise the person they are. You'll go far because you do recognise that you have an impact to make and you are worthy of someone's love. All you need to do is manage it well
Trialbyfire Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 There's nothing that will help make men become alpha males. An alpha is a dominate (not dominating) male by personality. When attempts are made to become alpha, it will show through. If you're looking for examples by movie, check out Clooney in the Ocean's movies.
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 ... do you want to put on an act forever? Correction: CAN you put on the act forever? Even if you want to, sooner or later, you're going to slip up. You're going to do something that is natural for you, and it'll shatter the illusion. I can answer your original question, but it won't help. Movies that involve dating "tips" are generally classical feel-good stories: boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy gets girl. The problem is that it doesn't usually go like that in real life. In reality, Ed the mechanic gets arrested instead of getting Catherine, Carol the waitress files for a TRO against Melvin, and Luke gets fed up with Lorelai. I'm not saying any of that as a downer, 'give up on girls' kind of thing, but the point is that all movies exaggerate things. If you're looking to them for advice, you're looking in the wrong place.
High Plains Drifter Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I'm a bit Bias. Here's a plot exerpt: He surprises them by having his gun(s) already drawn and ready, hidden under the apron the barber had tied around his neck, shooting all three dead in seconds. Upon leaving the barbershop, a local woman named Callie Travers seems to desire his attention but, having no dignified way to show this, she accosts and insults him. He still won't give her the attention she's desperate for and he tries to walk away. She continues to badger him to get a reaction, until he drags her into the livery stable and rapes her. She resists at first, but then clearly begins to enjoy the experience. Afterward, he leaves her without a word, checks into the local hotel, and spends the night. I think the term "rape" is used a little loosly here, since its a clear oxymoron when used to describe sex in which she "clearly begins to enjoy." Maybe I'll challenge Wikipedia to change this.
serial muse Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Forrest Gump perhaps. :lmao: He did bag a hot chick.
carhill Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 OP, read up on a classic gentleman, gifted actor and great American, James Maitland Stewart. Then watch some of his movies. I particularly enjoyed his work with Alfred Hitchcock and his portrayal of Charles Lindbergh in Spirit of St. Louis. The advice you read here to be yourself is sound advice. The work is projecting that self in a manner which attracts a compatible woman into your life. Not any woman, but the right one, like Gloria was for James. Do you understand?
endlesstrains Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I'm a bit Bias. Here's a plot exerpt: I think the term "rape" is used a little loosly here, since its a clear oxymoron when used to describe sex in which she "clearly begins to enjoy." Maybe I'll challenge Wikipedia to change this. Anyone who's seen that movie and is of sound mind wouldn't doubt calling it rape... what else do you call it when someone throws down a struggling woman and forcibly penetrates her? I'm pretty sure that's by-the-book rape...
JoeNewbie Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Seriously, "pretending to be an alpha male" is just about the lowest and most easily detectable thing to do. It's like being a ski champion, you just can't fake it. Work on the little things that will help you gain confidence. This is a long term project that you need to work on every day.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 If you end up being Danny from "Grease", I can't but help imagine you 10 years from now, sitting in front of your tv drinking beer with your gut belly showing. And your wife's in the background nagging at you while the three babies cry nonstop.
jerbear Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 If you have to ask then ... well you know. Devil's Advocate Godfather series James Bond series Indiana Jones series
Author engravefeelthevoid Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 Seriously, "pretending to be an alpha male" is just about the lowest and most easily detectable thing to do. It's like being a ski champion, you just can't fake it. QUOTE] To what extent is this true ???
JoeNewbie Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Seriously, "pretending to be an alpha male" is just about the lowest and most easily detectable thing to do. It's like being a ski champion, you just can't fake it. QUOTE] To what extent is this true ??? Pretend to be who you aren't and you'll be labelled as a loser before you even know it. It's like pretending to be smart - it just doesn't work that way or else everyone would pretend to be everything. Confidence is built day by day. Can fake it overnight.
D-Jam Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 I highly recommend "Hitch", starring Will Smith. Most other movies focusing on "Alpha Male" types are Chick Flicks, IMHO. Hitch was total comedic BS. The two problems I had with it: No way the gorgeous wealthy woman would get involved with the fat loser. Even if she wanted a more "nice guy", I would more think she'd date some older and/or more mature celebrity.I don't like how much trickery these guys have to play to get the interest of these women. If someone has to work and play games that much to get someone's interest, then they are not worth it. It's like the message was saying women are justified in all their insecure games, but we men are supposed to tolerate it and change up our gameplan to deal with it. One has to be careful when they look to a movie to find a male role model. Some see "alpha male" as the strong, confident, take-charge gentleman. Others see it as the overly-masculine jerk who treats women as lower life forms...and yet these insecure bad examples of femdom tolerate it all to keep him. Of all things, you want to see the good alpha strong male who is great to his woman? Try something with a more older setting. Try 300, Gladiator, or even Hector in Troy. They all love their women, are wonderful to them, but yet are dominant alpha male types that men should aspire to be. Douchebag types like the bad boys/evil boyfriends shown in the movies are NOT what boys should aspire to be.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 In the Company of Men. I guarantee you won't forget it. You'll see an alpha male at work in a variety of ways. Aaron Eckhart plays it perfectly in this movie.
ilmw Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I have to agree with Djam.... his movies are on the money... another example of an alpha male... is John Wayne... An alpha male is a man who knows himself... is confident in himself.. He is a man comfortable in his own skin. This confidence shins through. You can't fake this for long... you either do believe in yourself ... or you don't. An Alpha male.... Needs no one... but only desires to be around someone... (big difference) He is a man who can take charge any time... but does not need to. He takes ownership for his own actions... and does not blame others. If things go wrong... he does something about it in a positive way. He makes a contribution... and does not take away... without giving something back. Dedication, integrity, honour, curtisey.... and self respect are all trademarks of a real Alpha male.
Legend Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 Seriously, "pretending to be an alpha male" is just about the lowest and most easily detectable thing to do. It's like being a ski champion, you just can't fake it. Work on the little things that will help you gain confidence. This is a long term project that you need to work on every day. School for Scoundrels (2006) Remember the basic rules: -Be Dangerous, it's cool -Never Complement -Lie lie lie, and lie some more -Relate to her -Always get the girl alone.
FormerNiceGuy Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 James Bond. Gladiator. (Russell Crowe's character) Hitch (halfway through the movie. Stop the movie before the scene that he jumps on the car....that is where he loses his game) Alfie My advice is this. Don't look at movies to learn to become successful with women. Rather, learn from REAL guys who ARE successful with women. Surround yourself around them and learn. For you become the 5 people you spend the most time with. All my friends are successful with women, and I have learned so much from them. Take advice from successful men, rather than your female friends. I learned this the hard way. Women cannot take the place of male role models because men are the only human beings who can be male role models. Never ask fish how to fish.
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