ReggaeLover Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Hello, long time reader but first time poster. I've been really into a girl at school for the last few months, and at first she seemed to be fairly interested in me, however as time moved on she became less and less receptive. She would often not reply to my messages etc. I asked her to come hang out with me and a few friends this weekend at a jazz place I know in the city. She said she couldn't because she was going to a party that evening. She didn't suggest an alternative time or anything. Should I take that as a rejection and a sign that she isn't interested? Or should I pursue and ask her out again sometime next week. I really do care about her but I don't want to appear like a jerk for not taking a hint. Thanks in advance.
Meaplus3 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Hello, long time reader but first time poster. I've been really into a girl at school for the last few months, and at first she seemed to be fairly interested in me, however as time moved on she became less and less receptive. She would often not reply to my messages etc. I asked her to come hang out with me and a few friends this weekend at a jazz place I know in the city. She said she couldn't because she was going to a party that evening. She didn't suggest an alternative time or anything. Should I take that as a rejection and a sign that she isn't interested? Or should I pursue and ask her out again sometime next week. I really do care about her but I don't want to appear like a jerk for not taking a hint. Thanks in advance. I'd give it a go with asking her out one more time. If at that time she declines, then I'd back off. She may very well have been just to busy the first time you asked. Good luck. AP:)
ed-205 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 She's already told you "No", just not in so many words. Ask again if you must, but don't beat yourself up over her.
Author ReggaeLover Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 Thanks for the advice people. I suppose I should say that I am pretty green to this whole dating thing. Don't really have much experience. I'm pretty noob when it comes to reading signals from girls... and it seems I get them wrong most of the time. I'm getting the vibe that I should leave her alone and focus my interests on other girls. I guess I just don't want to give her up, it's pretty hard to move on when you haven't been rejected outright. Sometimes it looks like she's interested in me and what I have to say and others... it's like I don't really exist. Do girls often do this?
KinAZ Posted September 13, 2008 Posted September 13, 2008 I say give it another go. Some women are more subtle than others and may not necessarily suggest another time. Going to "hang out" (especially with a group of friends) is rather informal as well, and so it may not necessarily be seen as her turning you down for a date.
Author ReggaeLover Posted September 13, 2008 Author Posted September 13, 2008 Yea, well the excuse was legitimate (I hope!) a friend's birthday party. But what worried me was just the vibe I'm getting shes getting less interested in me. I really hope I haven't been placed in that dreaded friendzone!
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