claireabow Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Hi. I just wanted some opinions because im really upset about this. Ive been with my fiance for 3 and a half years now. He recently started a new job. I have noticed that he is texting other people from work ALOT! When he popped to the shop the other day i looked at this phone. He has been getting a lot of text messages from a girl called "kate" They all had loads of kisses on the bottom. I also saw one that he had sent to her saying that 'He could never forget about her with those eyes and her smile!' That is the same things that he used to text to me when we first got together.! Most of these texts are sent while im sitting next to him! He always turns his phone so that i cant see what hes writing. He also mumbled her name in his sleep the nite after. When i asked him about that he just said that it was a girl who used to work with him, but shes gone to uni, and that he doesnt talk to her anymore. Its really bugged me, cuz in know hes lieing to me about contacting her. Do you think he is cheating? Thanks xx:confused:
Meaplus3 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Hi. I just wanted some opinions because im really upset about this. Ive been with my fiance for 3 and a half years now. He recently started a new job. I have noticed that he is texting other people from work ALOT! When he popped to the shop the other day i looked at this phone. He has been getting a lot of text messages from a girl called "kate" They all had loads of kisses on the bottom. I also saw one that he had sent to her saying that 'He could never forget about her with those eyes and her smile!' That is the same things that he used to text to me when we first got together.! Most of these texts are sent while im sitting next to him! He always turns his phone so that i cant see what hes writing. He also mumbled her name in his sleep the nite after. When i asked him about that he just said that it was a girl who used to work with him, but shes gone to uni, and that he doesnt talk to her anymore. Its really bugged me, cuz in know hes lieing to me about contacting her. Do you think he is cheating? Thanks xx:confused: Well.. those messages certainly sound like more then just friendship to me. I think you should speak to him about this before there is a chance of anything going further. Just my thoughts. Good luck to you. AP:)
sparrow62671 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 clairabow - I have a similar situation. I happened to see a text message on his cell phone one day that opened my eyes to what he has been doing. He has been texting several female "friends" in sexual and inapropriate ways. When I confronted him, he said nothing was going on, it was just spontaneous fun. I was not satisfied and kept checking his phone. Eventually I had enough evidence to catch him having an affair. I couldn't believe it was happening. The affair has since ended but he continues to text (and email) the other female friends. I'm heartbroken and trying to get us into counseling because I believe he has an addiction. Be sure to gather as much information as you can before confronting him again because he will clue in and start deleting everything before you can check it. I wish you luck.
whichwayisup Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Not sure if he cheating, but he is definately flirting and having inappropriate conversations with her. Crossing the lines and telling her sweet nothings like he did with you. That's not cool, and he HAS to end it with her.
Jazzy56 Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 I suspect cheating. Usually men are not into making friends with women.
Fun2BMe Posted September 14, 2008 Posted September 14, 2008 I think he is. Sending kisses and secretly texting her while lying to you about it is not good.
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