what makes a woman cheat

[singlelife]

what are the reasons a woman cheats on her man

[trubella]

um could be many reasons why some women consider it, after watching a few seasons of 'cheaters' i think some do it because of lack of intimacy and sex, neglect, wanting to try something new, their bored with their relationship, falling out of love, all reasons i think they should end it or resolve their issues instead of actually seeking someone else out.

[ed-205]

The thing I could never understand is , Why Cheat?

If any of the women I've had relationships with would have simply told me "We're done, it's over, Have a nice life...", it would have been a lot easier on me. I can understand that someone might lose interest in me over time, and I can deal with that. What I simply can't understand is why they thought cheating on me for weeks or even months before breaking up with me was an acceptable alternative, (and all but one of them did).

 

Why couldn't they just be honest with me, and let me go?

[serial muse]

The thing I could never understand is , Why Cheat?

If any of the women I've had relationships with would have simply told me "We're done, it's over, Have a nice life...", it would have been a lot easier on me. I can understand that someone might lose interest in me over time, and I can deal with that. What I simply can't understand is why they thought cheating on me for weeks or even months before breaking up with me was an acceptable alternative, (and all but one of them did).

 

Why couldn't they just be honest with me, and let me go?

 

Oh boy, I know lots of people (including me) who asked their ex-partners that very question! It's a million-dollar one.

 

I eventually decided that the answer (at least in my exH's case) is simply that some people can be terrible cowards about confrontation. Eh.

[carhill]

Some women like the freedom of being single and the security of being married

[serial muse]

Some people like the freedom of being single and the security of being married

 

Okay, fixed.

[carhill]

Well, if you want to start a thread about why men cheat, feel free to do so

 

Adding, from my long experience as a girlfriend with a penis, the vast majority of married/LTR women I've known in life have cheated or considered cheating from primarily three areas:

 

1. Their SO/husband cheated.

2. They've felt emotionally abandoned.

3. They've come to resent a gross imbalance in the relationship but felt powerless to change it.

 

I would say #2 has been the most common.

 

Why, under such circumstances, not just leave? See my prior answer

[misternoname]

My wife chetaed despite my being loving, attentive, good in bed, etc. for the simple reson that she wants attention. She lost her father at a young age. Her therapist thinks she's spent her entire life looking for validation from men that she was desireable. Very Freudian stuff. Of course didn't make me feel any better. Her actions have left me with deep emotional scars. Cheaters just don't understand how damaging their actions are!

[serial muse]

Well, if you want to start a thread about why men cheat, feel free to do so

 

I won't, though, because that's just more of the same gender silliness and I couldn't be less interested in encouraging it. I just wanted to answer the relevant question, which I think actually applies to both. I also think your answer applies to both, because it's about human nature, not gender.

 

Sorry to take what was perhaps a lighthearted comment and make it serious, but I'm seriously sick of people starting this crap over and over again, and would like, if possible, to head it off at the pass. As many times as I need to.

 

So yeah, why do people cheat? I think women and men both do it when they feel emotionally abandoned; there are different ways of abandoning one's partner emotionally (withdrawing sex, love, affection, interest) but it amounts to the same fundamental thing.

 

I think they also do it out of fear - fear of losing one's power of attraction, of getting older, of not being important in the world, of fading away, etc.

 

And I think they do it out of anger - as you say, deep resentment over some perceived (or real) imbalance in the relationship. That includes your #1 - the other partner cheated.

 

Note that none of these excuses not communicating with one's partner first, or, if communication turns out not to work, not simply leaving the relationship.

 

But many people cheat when they are too afraid to rock the boat for themselves = afraid of confrontation.

[confusedinkansas]

Why not leave? - Because leaving means you give up the "security" of a spouse or a significant other. Cheating gives you the best of both worlds.

And, if you don't get caught....or....your significant other doesn't care.....then better for the cheater.

[Lauriebell82]

Reasons a woman cheats on her man:

 

1. Her bf/husband treats her badly (yells, call names, ect).

2. Their sex life is boring or non-existant

3. She feels "feels" trapped in the relationship and wants to feel free again

4. She falls out of love with the bf/husband

5. He becomes unattractive to her

6. They "drift away" by not talking, no sex, no communication, no intimacy, spend no time together

7. Wants to feel the "rush" of a new relationship again

8. Just plain has no respect for her partner

9. Is too scared to break up with them, therefore just cheats

10. The marriage is stressful with children, therefore she feels she needs an "escape" from being a wife/mother

 

I'm sure there are more. I've never cheated on anyone but I work with a lot of clients with no morals.

[stillafool]

I think they cheat for the same reasons men do. They want to feel intense passion that only the newness of the unknown can bring. Basically they get attracted to someone else they want to have sex with it and aren't disciplined. I don't think most women cheat for emotional reasons as men seem to think. The emotions come into play after she gets great sex.

[stillafool]

Why not leave? - Because leaving means you give up the "security" of a spouse or a significant other. Cheating gives you the best of both worlds.

And, if you don't get caught....or....your significant other doesn't care.....then better for the cheater.[/quote]

 

 

I can't tell you how many cheaters have straightened up after they find out their spouse found them out and doesn't give a damn. I guess it takes all the fun out of it.

[carhill]

I don't think most women cheat for emotional reasons as men seem to think. The emotions come into play after she gets great sex.

 

Perhaps not, but I was repeating what verbally has been shared with me over the years. If your assertion is true, substantial rationalization is at work, along with a bit of gaslighting (that to get what they needed from me).

 

How about women who engage in EA's, where there is no PA? What is their motivation and what do they derive from non-sexual intimacy. Is it purely an ego feed, knowing a man has an unrequited desire for them? What do they desire, beyond the ego stroke? Are they really that shallow? I don't know.

[carhill]

I'm sure there are more. I've never cheated on anyone but I work with a lot of clients with no morals

 

As a professional, I would suggest a more detached POV regarding the bolded text. Morality, or your definition of it, should not be on the table as a clinician. A person can be unfaithful to their spouse/SO and still have substantial moral fiber, though perhaps be permanently or situationally bereft of it in this one area. Assuming, by cheating, that they have no morals IMO poisons the professional perspective of achieving growth through therapy.

 

For general consumption, I've never heard a women share the experience that she cheated (or considered it) just because the guy was hot and she wanted sex. So, since evidence seems to indicate actions to the contrary, this is another great example of making sure a woman's actions and words match

[nopainnogain]

The woman that cheat are selfish and lack integrity and courage to end it or stay faithful.

[Rooster_DAR]

I also think there are many reasons, but I think the one I've experienced are women who are immature or narcissistic. Also, as state before "women are like monkeys, they don't let go of the branch until they have hold of another". I'm not picking on just women, I'm just saying that it's one characteristic of a narcissist.

 

Cheers!

[gummybear]

Well, if you want to start a thread about why men cheat, feel free to do so

 

Adding, from my long experience as a girlfriend with a penis, the vast majority of married/LTR women I've known in life have cheated or considered cheating from primarily three areas:

 

1. Their SO/husband cheated.

2. They've felt emotionally abandoned.

3. They've come to resent a gross imbalance in the relationship but felt powerless to change it.

 

I would say #2 has been the most common.

 

Why, under such circumstances, not just leave? See my prior answer

 

Reason #2 was the reason why I cheated on my bf. It was no excuse though. What I did was still very very wrong and I regret it tremendously.

[Shygirl15]

Well there several reason why women cheat; lack of communication, feeling unappreciated/not respected, unsatisfying sexual life being just a few.

 

Unless you get busted, it's always advised to keep your mouth zipped.

[Lizzie60]

what are the reasons a woman cheats on her man

 

I suppose for most of the same reason a man would cheat..

[D-Jam]

what are the reasons a woman cheats on her man

Sometimes it's just because they don't like monogamy and want to sleep around, but yet they want a RL. They just can't control their urges when someone new and interesting comes along.

 

Many others generally cheat because they don't have the backbone to end a RL with someone they're not feeling it with, so they go behind his back. Seen many variations:

 

• He takes her for granted and neglects her, so she finds excitement in the arms of another.
  
• He cheats on her, so she thinks turnabout is fair play.
  
• He doesn't satisfy her needs, so she sneaks around with someone else to satisfy those few needs.
  

Things like that. Not justifying it, but it's what I've seen when women cheat.

[Trialbyfire]

A woman cheats on her man for much the same reasons as a man cheats on his woman. In this, there are no gender boundaries.

[Star Gazer]

The thing I could never understand is , Why Cheat?

If any of the women I've had relationships with would have simply told me "We're done, it's over, Have a nice life...", it would have been a lot easier on me. I can understand that someone might lose interest in me over time, and I can deal with that. What I simply can't understand is why they thought cheating on me for weeks or even months before breaking up with me was an acceptable alternative, (and all but one of them did).

 

Why couldn't they just be honest with me, and let me go?

 

Because they're selfish A-holes. They want to play around and SEE if the grass is greener while still keeping you around. Once they decide they've found what they THINK is better (it rarely is, in reality!), they let you on to the cheating and rip your heart out.

[vonerik012]

A woman cheats on her man for much the same reasons as a man cheats on his woman. In this, there are no gender boundaries.

 

Obviously incorrect.. Also, the thread is asking something you might be able to answer, as you are a woman.. "Why do women cheat" . It is not asking why men cheat, and how would you know anyway?

 

Study after study show men think of sex every 53 seconds or so, compared to the average woman who might think of it once a day. Difference number 1.

 

Men think of sex purely in terms of body parts, where as women might envision a sexual encounter more so in the course of a romantic evening. Difference 2.

 

Men are typically as faithful as their options. How many rock stars, Ceo's, and professional athletes are faithful, compared to the general population?

 

Men can be completely happy, have a beautiful wife, but just have an urge inside to engage in sexual congress with another woman. It is a physical urge.. Imagine getting an urge inside every time you see a guy on the street that might have one nice body part, and actually wanting to have sex with him just because of that. For men it is over, done, and forgotten 10 minutes later.

 

How many Hollywood starlets are running around paying poor crack heads or male prostitutes to sleep with them? How many female politicians are?

 

Would you have sex with any attractive stranger that approached you and asked? Studies show over 75% of men would. Would you?

[stillafool]

A woman cheats on her man for much the same reasons as a man cheats on his woman. In this, there are no gender boundaries.

 

 

You are absolutely correct. I don't know why people have a problem accepting your or my opinion on this subject.