Crazy about me 2 weeks ago but he ends it?!? WAIT!!! Did I miss something?!?

[tine_23]

Hi you guys. I was here a couple of years ago and today I still need you wisdom!

 

I've been seing some guys in the last 2 years. Actually, only 3. Two of them were boyfriends and then there was the last one that ending things like 2 weeks ago even though i tought everything was going really great.

 

I realized over the years that I was being needy in my relationships and I decided to work on that. I am actually pretty proud of myself and I can say as today that I am not needy anymore in my relationships with man.

 

Still, they don't seem to stay.

 

I need your advice on this please!!!

 

This last guy i was seeing was working with my sister in law. She talked to me about him and said that we would totally match but i don't really like blind dates so one night when he was home with her and some friends she introduced us to each other and we talked got a couple of minutes. He was in fact my kind physically but I already had a crush on another guy at that time. When he left she came to see me and said that he had asked her who I was, my name, if I was single and everything and that he tought I was so pretty. Then during that week sometimes he would talk to her about me at their job and he would say he couldn't wait to see me again. The next week end, we saw each other again because my sister in law was having a party at me house (she leaves with us). When I came back around 3 am from my night out we talked untill the sunrise at like 5:30 am. then he went to bed but asked me if I needed company. I said no cuz i'm not that kind of girl. The next week he called me and we started to date each other (I was still seeing the other crush)... He said he was soo into me and that he couldn't wait for us to be officials and he was making all these plans for us for the next months like activities we were gonna do and everything. Then things started to get more serious between us, he kissed me, we slept together and I was realizing that I was very happy with him so I started to tell my other crush that I couldn't see him anymore.

 

(I kept on giving him alot of space. I would call every 2 or 3 days. we would see maybe twice a week. I would not get mad if he could not see. of course I was disappointed and he could feel it i guess. but i would tell him it's ok and that we would see some other day. He would be the one texting me after that he would take me out the next night or something like that. He was very sweet.)

 

Later that week he came home with me sister in law, without me, my mom was there and everything. I was mad when I heard about it because my sister in law came home with him even thought I had not even bring him home yet to present him to my family. I was really mad. I told him about it like 5 days after that. I was really calm I just told him that I was scared that my sister in law would always be between us and everything. Then I told him that i was really getting to like him more and more and that i had even turned down this other guy all the time he had called me the last week. when I said that he looked at my weird and I asked him what was going on? he said: "we slept together and you are seeing someone else?!?" I told him of course not I WAS seeing someone esle. I mean we were not even officially bf and gf yet. and I think he got mad. he started texting me things like, let's fax each other later this week instead of i'm thinking about you beautiful thing... and things like that. in pyblic we would hold hands, take each other in our arms, kiss and everything...

 

we were still sleeping with each other and he was really sweet when were together. he would always kiss me and even made dinner for me one night and would kiss me even on the phone with his mom. and then 5 days later... he called me after being away at his parents for the week end and said that it just would not work with us because it did not "CLICK"... like there was no connection... I was mad. I felt like he was totally laughing at me. he also told me i should nnot react this way and that we were just having fun. I was even more mad. I told him to stop it right there. I did not wanna hear any more. so the month and a half we dated each other was over.

 

What went wrong you guys?!? Why would he make all these future plans, tell me he likes me so much, that he can't wait to be my bf and talkt about me to my sister in law all the time. He would even call her: "HEY IN- LAW!" at their job. It was totally out of the blue.

 

I would sometimes like to call him so that he would explain to me what was going on in his head. Or just call him to go play tennis ( he said he would teach me)... and maybe without asking him about it we would start seeing each other again...

 

I have not tried to contact him since then. We saw each other 2 times at the pub on the campus and he would say Hi cuz he sees me first. Yesteday I made a joke about the amount of beer he asked the barmaid to bring him but that was it. He saw I was habing fun with my friends. I sensed he was looking at me sometimes. then later I saw him talking to some girl. They were clearly attracted to each other. I got sad, it was late, like 1:30 am so I left.

 

Can you guys see a bit what went wrong? Did he get scared?!? I don't understand. I just wanna understand... Be in peace with it.