moest Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 im not so sure if this belongs here but... okay so i live in California and im currently dating a 15 year old. im 19. we dont care wut other ppl think of us at all im just worried about going to jail. we havnt had sex. im nto gonna do it. so im just wondering if i can get jail time by just dating/being her?
norajane Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 In California, she is legall a minor (under 18) and you are legally an adult (18 and over). If you aren't having sex with her, you could still be brought up on charges of contributing to the deliquency of a minor, perhaps. Especially if you are having other contact - kissing, touching, petting. Have you met her parents?
Touche Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 You don't care what other people think? You better care about what her parents think. I've seen horrible stories about guys in your position who end up charged with a felony. Their lives are pretty much ruined after that. You're put in the same category as a pedophile (not that I'm saying that's fair...just the way it is.) You better be really careful and you better really care about what her parents think. Not only that but if you get into a fight, she can charge you and you can still be up the creek. I'd say it's really not worth it.
Author moest Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 oh yeah i met her parents by wut i mean of other ppl is that ppl usually look down upon ppl who date with a gap that big i suppose well as long as her parents approve im okay?
Touche Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 oh yeah i met her parents by wut i mean of other ppl is that ppl usually look down upon ppl who date with a gap that big i suppose well as long as her parents approve im okay? No, you're not necessarily ok. See above. If you have a fight with her and she decides to make some claims, you're in deep doo doo. I'm glad her parents approve. Just be really careful here, ok? My heart breaks when I think of all who have had their lives ruined over this kind of situation. I remember seeing one case where the girl even went back years later and admitted she lied but the way our legal system is (at least here in the US) it's too bad, so sad. The guy was ruined. All his neighbors are alerted that they have a pedophile in the neighborhood, he can't get jobs, etc. etc. This happens more than you think. Please, please be careful, ok?
Author moest Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 No, you're not necessarily ok. See above. If you have a fight with her and she decides to make some claims, you're in deep doo doo. I'm glad her parents approve. Just be really careful here, ok? My heart breaks when I think of all who have had their lives ruined over this kind of situation. I remember seeing one case where the girl even went back years later and admitted she lied but the way our legal system is (at least here in the US) it's too bad, so sad. The guy was ruined. All his neighbors are alerted that they have a pedophile in the neighborhood, he can't get jobs, etc. etc. This happens more than you think. Please, please be careful, ok? eek wow im in a big pickle she wont do anything like that no matter how mad she gets ill make sure to be extra carful if i decide to continue wit this
CaliGuy Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 oh yeah i met her parents by wut i mean of other ppl is that ppl usually look down upon ppl who date with a gap that big i suppose well as long as her parents approve im okay? No. The State can press charges and you can end up in jail. Date a 15 year old girl at your own risk. Keep in mind it's a BIG risk you are taking. And her parents should be kicked in the Rs for allowing this.
Author moest Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 sounds liek def no go then ty for the comments
Touche Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 You're being smart, moest. Maybe only hang out with her with a group of others? You can still be friends. You're being really, really smart here.
Author moest Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 hehe thanks ill just see if the sparks are there in 2ish years i doubt it though but oh well
Touche Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 hehe thanks ill just see if the sparks are there in 2ish years i doubt it though but oh well Hey, the odds are really against you on that, I hate to say, but you never know, right? Oh and you're welcome. Good luck, ok?
Jilly Bean Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Ever hear the phrase, "Fifteen will get you twenty"? I heard that PLENTY when I was 15. And by guys your age. Learn from it.
Green Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 personaly I can see why you'd be into her and all and really I'm in my mid 20's and is it any better when I go out with a 19 year old or what ever. But seriously you should find out what the law is by talking to a lawyer or atleast ask your parents to look into it... you wouldnt want a mark on your life over something so silly.
ahhhchooo Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Really not worth the crap this could land you in. Plenty more fish etc.
Author moest Posted September 12, 2008 Author Posted September 12, 2008 yus yus i shall call it off n such as for my name i was going for modest lol after the band modest mouse as for i recently got into em again... typos are my best
Green Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 well find out what the law is maybe you are aloud to kiss her and who knows maybe there is some magical loop hole with bj's to... who knows... talk to a lawyer. the truth is this may be something seriouse that could reck your life or maybe its fine I would look into it legaly dude. A criminal lawyer would probably give you some free advice or atleast charge very little
ed-205 Posted September 12, 2008 Posted September 12, 2008 Just FYI: I have a friend who spent 15 months in prison, and will have to register himself as a "Sexual Offender" everywhere he lives for the rest of his life. He never had sex with the girl, but he dated her for 2 weeks, and he did give her alcohol on occasion. He broke up with her as soon as he found out she was 16 (she told him she was 18, and he believed her), and he wasn't even charged with anything until she got caught sleeping with one of her High School teachers a year later. The investigators claimed that my friend was the one who had "corrupted" her. Meanwhile, the teacher (a female one at that), was fined and put on a year's probation.
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