Francesco Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 so i posted here a while ago...my ex girlfriend and i (we dated for nearly 4 years) broke up about a year ago. she ended up coming to the same small college as me, and by chance we ended up having a class together. i didnt talk to her for the first couple of weeks, but the last few days we have started saying hey to each other and are actually going to study for a test together tonight. this will be the first time in a year that we will actually sit down face to face. she pretty much left me heartbroken with little to no explanation...the last year has been miserable, and it has been kind of hard for me being at the same college as her. like i said, i had planned to make NO contact with her but she sent me a few texts the other night that were school related. somehow we both agreed to study together tonight and i need some advice quick! how should I act? i want to focus on school, not talk about us, but i do want to be friendly and joke around some. i dont want to bore her. deep down i still love this girl and i just need some insight on this situation.
BCCA Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 Just focus on getting the studying done and enjoying her company. Dont worry about talking about you two unless she brings it up. Chances are, she just wants to see how you're doing. No pressure, no expectations, just get your studying done and see what she has to say. Most of all, be confident in yourself. You can go on without her, as youve demonstrated. And who cares what her explination for leaving you is, it doesnt matter.
0hpenelope Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 Study sessions, hm? That's an awesome indicator that you've moved on with life. If she tries to get personal with you, keep things light and frothy - like a well-made cappuccino. Be conscious of your words, your actions, and your mannerisms around her. Keep the focus on studying. I honestly believe that honesty is the best policy and if things get awkward because she asks something that you don't particularly want to answer, just introduce the elephant in the room: "I'm sorry, I came here with the intention to just study." Or some other variation of that. Heck, even if she brings the past up, you don't have to even entertain it - unless you really want to, of course. But you know better... that usually never brings good feelings afterwards. It doesn't matter what her reasons are. She can articulate them however she pleases, but no answer will satisfy.
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