What's up with him?

[winx717]

Hello all! I am a new user, so please bear with me. I have been at my current job now for about 5 months. I was with my recent ex for just over 6 years and had been living with him for 5 years. Well, when I started the new job, all of the expected changes came along, and it just didn't work out for me and my beau. Well, about the second week that I started the job, our parking garage manager brought parking validations up to our office. Let me tell you, the second he walked in I was enamored. He is not what a typical girl would consider "sexy" or "hot," but there was something about him that just made my head click. Ok, so I don't see him often, just when he would walk by my office (as the mail room is on my floor) and when I would walk past his office on my way to my car. We always waved, but nothing more.

 

Well, over the past couple of months, my interest in this man has grown stronger, as we have conversed on a few occasions. There is just something about him that attracts me to him, and it's not just a sexual attraction. There is something deeper there, and I am just beside myself at the thought of him.

 

Well, my boss, who is also my very good friend now, and an acquaintance of his, went down to talk to him without my knowing, and said that she knew someone perfect for him and this and that. She had him describe some of his likes and hobbies, etc. He and I turned out to have a lot of common interests which just fed my desire to spend some time with him.

 

To make a long story short, he couldn't understand why someone like me would be interested in him. He was in a relationship with a girlfriend from college that came back and they gave it another go, but it didn't work out. So now here we are where I am extremely interested in him and he knows it, but he says he is happy with "Ethan-time" right now. I cannot imagine why if he was so taken aback by my being interested in him that he could not believe it, that he cannot even ask me to lunch or drinks. I don't think that cuts too much into personal time, because believe me, I value my alone time as well. I don't want to control him or take away from his life. I only want to add to it, and enrich him. I want to feed my desire to know him, because I know that when he gets to know me, he will care for me too.

 

I know this is a spotty post, so if there are any questions, please ask. I will do my best to answer. Thank you for listening.

[Final Girl]

Hi!!

 

Do you think his confidence maybe isn't so great, and instead of loving that you are interested in him, he is a bit shocked and that makes him nervous?? Maybe he is unsure how to react if he doesn't have sound self esteem.

[shy women]

Sorry what Ethan-time? Why not instead of waiting for him to as you why not ask him out for a drink or somthing and try to get the ball rolling? what have you got to lose if anything if it doesnt work out you can ask him to be a good friend and then you've gained not lost.

[winx717]

I actually tried to ask him out for last weekend... I was leading up to it anyway, and he popped that balloon by telling me that he had to work for an art event that the city was having. So, I don't know. I told him that I was going to go to the art museum with my mother, but she dumped me. He said that he had to work and then said something about whether or not i "can sneak away for an hour or so." So I thought that he could be implying that he was going to ask me, but then that's when my boss found out about him enjoying "Ethan-time." So I am confused with an open heart. I baked him cookies once, and then earlier this week I baked muffins for my office and took him some. He has to bring back my plate still! But with it I left a note that said "If you change your mind, you know where to find me." He seems very timid, and I don't want to scare him, but I am frustrated!

[jen's mind]

Cool it with the baked goods. You're going way overboard. How about putting him out of your mind for awhile, and perhaps starting with a fresh perspective.