wizard71 Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 Hey all, posted on here a few times when my ex GF left me 5 months ago. Did the usual,and tried to make things ok again, but of course they didnt work. Have been in LC mostly since then, sometimes 3 weeks or so without contact. Then she will either contact me or vice versa so it hasnt been one sided. BUT......... I wish to god i had gone NC from the start. WHY? Because i still feel crappy. Dont get me wrong i have had good days, plenty of them, but after every LC things well up again. Youd think i would have learned wouldnt you? Thing is, you are always hoping to hear those magic words. In my case now it is slightly more apathetic, but nonetheless, i would still love to hear them, to the point that we started talking about stuff again, and she said that she never fell out of love with me, just our situation. Funny thing is, all the things that had to change, amazingly changed for me when she left. Have better job now, and enough money to take care of the things we couldnt do, which is what led to the break up or so she says. And the fact that we lost 2 babies last year hasnt really helped, as ive often thought that shes running away from everything that reminds her of that. I could never get her to talk about it. Anyway, things culminated in me telling her how things had changed and was all good, and that i wished she was still a part of my life, and if as she said she hadnt fallen out of love with me, then maybe we could start over again. This was yesterday, and needless to say, she hasnt responded at all to that. She probably read it, didnt know what to say, so has decided to ignore it. Im guessing it has made her feel uncomfortable. This has made me feel sad again. My point is, that for me LC is not an option anymore, i have to go total NC and just forget her. What she does i cannot force or persuade. I have tried my best and said everything i can, now i must leave her alone, and in a way, its a relief, a weight off my mind. Thanks for reading. Peace to you all
0hpenelope Posted September 11, 2008 Posted September 11, 2008 Moving on is a trial and error process. You try something, you find out it doesn't work, and then you look for something else that might. Good for you. I don't know which one is more difficult - LC or NC. They're both difficult in their own ways, but I'd rather go cold turkey.
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